I need urgent help. 😭

[Babacanfatih]

"Hello, I lived with my family for 4 months without knowing I was HIV positive. I was frequently masturbating into the toilet. Sometimes I cleaned it, but sometimes I forgot. Now, my family is very sick, and we are experiencing the same  symptoms, and I am very scared. While doing this, I was in the acute phase and probably had a high viral load. Now I am asking: the toilet seat is very narrow, and there is an area where the penis touches when sitting.  and sperm was spilled there. Now I am asking, could it have been transmitted to my family?"  I would like to point out that the incident is serious and my family has been sick for a long time.

[Jim Allen]

Hiya.

Just want to confirm you are living with HIV?

What treatment are you taking and what was your latest viral load & CD4 counts?

[Babacanfatih]

Hi jim , When I was first diagnosed, my RNA count was 570,000 (LYM% 39.6 and LYM# 2.59). In my most recent tests, my RNA count is 1,200 and my CD4 count is 750.
I am using Biktarvy.

[Jim Allen]

Thanks for the update.

The results are good. 570K wasn't very high to begin with but a drop to 1200 is good and means treatment is working, give it a few weeks/months and the viral load should be fully suppressed (Below 200 copies) The CD4s are great.

Now, my family is very sick, and we are experiencing the same  symptoms

I presume you have not been sharing syringes or having condomless sex with your family members, so whatever symptoms you & your family are experiencing have nothing to do with your HIV status.

I was frequently masturbating into the toilet. Sometimes I cleaned it, but sometimes I forgot.

Now I am asking, could it have been transmitted to my family?

Zero chance you gave your family HIV by sharing a toilet regardless of what fluids you left on it. 

Decades ago, toilet HIV risk concerns were busted, partly because HIV is too fragile as once exposed outside the confines of the human body, the receptors corrode leaving HIV unable to infect, so it's not an HIV risk, nobody has ever acquired HIV from using a toilet.

Common Myths About How HIV Is Spread
https://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=68441.0

5 of the weirdest HIV transmission myths
https://www.beintheknow.org/news-and-blogs/5-weirdest-hiv-transmission-myths-ever

could it have been transmitted to my family?

In brief, your family will only get HIV from:

* Condomless intercourse & a minute (theoretical) HIV to the person giving the blowjob.
* Sharing drugs rigs (Syringes)
* Blood products/ transfusions (Rare nowadays in most nations thanks to screening)

That's it.

[Babacanfatih]

Jim, I am grateful to you for writing in such detail for me. I lived for 4.5 months without treatment and now I've been on treatment for 1 month. I'm using Biktarvy. Is 4.5 months considered late? My second question is: should I firmly believe that it won't be transmitted to my family? Even in a scenario where semen on the toilet seat came into contact with my father's penis, would this still be the case? Thank you, Jim.

[Jim Allen]

I lived for 4.5 months without treatment and now I've been on treatment for 1 month. I'm using Biktarvy. Is 4.5 months considered late?

No.

Treatment is recommended to start as soon as possible where and when its possible and appropriate, however, 4.5 months isn't a big delay and your results are great. Biktarvy is first-line treatment or as some members call it the "VIP treatment".

Give it a few more months and the remaining VL will be fully suppressed (below 200 copies). After that counting the CD4s is rather irrelevant and once you have a fully suppressed VL for six+ months and keep taking your treatment it also means you can't pass on HIV sexually. See detail here: https://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=71864.0

My second question is: should I firmly believe that it won't be transmitted to my family? Even in a scenario where semen on the toilet seat came into contact with my father's penis, would this still be the case?

Asked and answered already 

Your father will only have HIV if he has been sharing syringes or engaging in condomless sex.

[Babacanfatih]

You're a great man Jim, thank you. I feel relieved now, and I will just focus on my treatment and continue being active on this site. Have a good day...

[BubbaPat]

You're a great man Jim, thank you. I feel relieved now, and I will just focus on my treatment and continue being active on this site. Have a good day...

Hey kiddo!
Glad things are looking up.
Yes!! Stay active with this site.  I'm not on as much as I should be but the people here are normally a great group.
I went through a rough patch were I stopped taking my meds (NOT RECOMMNENDED) but I got back on them with no major issues.  As long as you got a good doc to keep an eye on your numbers, you'll be good.

Also.. follow Jim's advice.  It's good.

Bubba hugs!
Patrick