Author Topic: pls i need your advice concerning my son and wife (Read 5521 times)

sanitex · « **on:** June 19, 2008, 12:18:09 am »

hello all ,
Am back again i hope everyone are looking very fine ?pls i ned some advice from anyone who knows about it what to do next.my 7yrs old boy is looking sliming and he don't like to eat allways so i try to bought vitamin for him and he like cokies morethan food and started complaining insde teeth pain so i began to panic.so my question are can i take him to check about hiv?,coz since am hiv+ and my wife also complain about her fatigue everytime but she's afriad to go and check for her hiv staue.but i never tell her about my poz but since i found out that am poz i began to use condom with her but she tried to suspect oneway or the other that i'm sick but i want her to and check coz i can hide it without telling anybody for her she talk too much like thailand ladys.so plz tell me what to do.

sharkdiver · « **Reply #1 on:** June 19, 2008, 02:32:46 am »

I don't understand.

In one thread back in April you were worried that you will never meet someone to marry and now you are married and have a 7 year old son?

You have not disclosed to your wife?
You had sex with her before you tested poz and you suddenly one day decide to use a condom?

You are worried that your son is poz? Why? What risk?

Your story is very confusing (and yes I understand you have limited English skills)

a very perplexed Shark

Dachshund · « **Reply #2 on:** June 19, 2008, 07:06:50 am »

Bit confused myself.

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=20025.msg256087#msg256087

Winiroo · « **Reply #3 on:** June 19, 2008, 11:53:43 am »

Those two stories don't exactly add up huh?

Ok, if I where reading this story for the first time and had no knowledge that just a month ago you had no wife and child my answer would be the following.

This is my opinion...

You don't give a kid vitamins to get him/her to be less thin. You don't feed a child cookies if that is all he/she will eat.
You don't allow a child to control what their meal will be if they are under or over weight. Its called parenting.
You don't take a child for a HIV test because their teeth hurt. You take them to a dentist.
If you are married or partnered with someone they should know you are HIV positive. Not telling them makes you a douche.

bear60 · « **Reply #4 on:** June 19, 2008, 11:58:25 am »

make that a DOUCHE BAG

Jeff G · « **Reply #5 on:** June 19, 2008, 12:11:21 pm »

WOW .

Winiroo · « **Reply #6 on:** June 19, 2008, 12:49:45 pm »

I've considered my choice of words. I think I should have said the behavior is douche like. Rather than the person being a douche.

Victory101 · « **Reply #7 on:** June 20, 2008, 05:10:45 pm »

This is kindda strange...and I am slightly amused by the contradiction but I am trying to understand...

Could it be that when the op first posted, he was not actually with this woman? Perhaps this was someone he had had a baby with and never actually married? And now they have got together?

I say this because I know that in some Afircan languages there is no distinction between girlfriend and wife especially if the girlfriend actually has a baby and sometimes when people are speaking in English they will refer to someone as their wife when they are not actually married...okay, I know he referred to Thailand...perhaps they also don't have that distinction.

He said his son is getting thin and perhaps should give him vitamins? I know when we were growing up, there was a common belief that vitamins give you appetite so maybe thats where this is coming from..

As for the sons teth hurting...too many cookies perhaps ?

He thinks that his wife is positibve and may have passed on the virus to their son. The only way of finding out is doing an HIV test. Wishing you all the best.

BT65 · « **Reply #8 on:** June 20, 2008, 08:43:54 pm »

Quote from: Victory101 on June 20, 2008, 05:10:45 pm

Could it be that when the op first posted, he was not actually with this woman? Perhaps this was someone he had had a baby with and never actually married? And now they have got together?

I say this because I know that in some Afircan languages there is no distinction between girlfriend and wife especially if the girlfriend actually has a baby and sometimes when people are speaking in English they will refer to someone as their wife when they are not actually married...okay, I know he referred to Thailand...perhaps they also don't have that distinction.

The op never spoke of having a gf before. If you clicked on the link that Dachsund provided, he was very worried about having someone to marry. It's still confusing to me. And he has not been back to explain.

sanitex · « **Reply #9 on:** June 21, 2008, 02:30:09 am »

H! Guys,
Pls i'd like to apologize to you guys here concerning this thread date 19/6/08 .my friend who's also hiv+ sometime used my name to send his article so pls do not misunderstood me,i want to elucidate about this issue,this guy have a girlfriend and use to be that the girl had one baby for him in 2001 and they live togather,peharps in thailand girlfriend is almost like wife hence she've baby for the person.so he's more concering to disclose his hiv statue to his wife because they use to talk too much.so this morning told him take the baby to the dentist and he do as i said.so thanks to all of you that devoted your time and concering in this matter may almighty God be with you all amen.so for me sanitex i'll go for my next cd4 and vl test on 26 june been next week hoping that things will come better.

27/12/07 ,cd4 20 and vl 1000000
10/4/08,cd4 97 and vl 63.

shadowfluid · « **Reply #10 on:** June 21, 2008, 03:52:32 am »

Quote from: sanitex on June 19, 2008, 12:18:09 am

hello all ,
Am back again i hope everyone are looking very fine ?pls i ned some advice from anyone who knows about it what to do next.my 7yrs old boy is looking sliming and he don't like to eat allways so i try to bought vitamin for him and he like cokies morethan food and started complaining insde teeth pain so i began to panic.so my question are can i take him to check about hiv?,coz since am hiv+ and my wife also complain about her fatigue everytime but she's afriad to go and check for her hiv staue.but i never tell her about my poz but since i found out that am poz i began to use condom with her but she tried to suspect oneway or the other that i'm sick but i want her to and check coz i can hide it without telling anybody for her she talk too much like thailand ladys.so plz tell me what to do.

Sanitex...please ask your doctor. Remember AM isn't a forum of doctors, ok? hearts!

Dachshund · « **Reply #11 on:** June 21, 2008, 07:49:26 am »

Color me suspicious, but giving you the benefit of the doubt, how are we to know if it's really you or your "friend" when something is posted under your name? You should have your friend set up his own account and introduce himself to the group. I hope you're not in Denmark.

BT65 · « **Reply #12 on:** June 21, 2008, 08:41:16 am »

I agree with Dachs. Having two or more people posting under the same name is way to confusing to try to keep track of.

BlueMoon · « **Reply #13 on:** June 21, 2008, 08:49:09 am »

Yes, very confusing, especially since they both write in such similar styles.

Winiroo · « **Reply #14 on:** June 21, 2008, 02:59:44 pm »

Agreed

Ann · « **Reply #15 on:** June 21, 2008, 06:51:19 pm »

Sanitex,

Not only is two people posting under the same name confusing, it's also a good way to get banned. There are specific situations where we allow this (such as if you were sick and someone posted on your behalf, after identifying themselves) but this isn't one of them.

Let this person use your account again and you'll be banned.

Ann

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