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Author Topic: I have had the worst last 12 days of my life.  (Read 1075 times)

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I have had the worst last 12 days of my life.
« on: May 22, 2024, 02:49:08 pm »
Hi all,

Iíve been doing extensive googling over the last week and came across your forum.

I paid for sex with a sex worker on the 19th April. I used a condom during insertive sex and received oral without a condom. Iím based in the U.K. The condom never came off during sex.

I went on holiday and thought nothing of it but on my return I was extremely anxious all of a sudden and done an online test from finger which is sent to a lab. The sample was provided on 9th April. That result came back as reactive on the 13th this month as was the worst day in my life. Immediately I done a rapid finger prick it was negative.Then I went straight to a clinic where they took blood from my vein. This is exactly 24 days after exposure.  Done another finger prick one again the next day: negative.

I also done a finger prick yesterday  which is now 32 days after exposure: negative.

I got my clinic results back today and they said the results are equivocal or indeterminate. The nurse advised me I had a low risk exposure (I donít even know if the lady had it). Theyíve sent sample to a different lab to dig deeper in the results and they also want a second draw of blood from my vein. She also said itís quite normal that this was similar result to my online finger prick test and not to worry about it being equivocal.

Based on my exposure and rapid tests Iíve been doing, what do you think my chances of being negative are? The nurse couldnít breakdown what exactly the results were but just that it was ďborderlineĒ and therefore indeterminate.

Iíd appreciate your kind words.

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Re: I have had the worst last 12 days of my life.
« Reply #1 on: May 22, 2024, 03:00:10 pm »
Iíd also like to state that a week before exposure I was a little ill and had a mini fever for a few days. To this day, Iím still coughing green mucus. I wonder if this could have affected my results?

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Re: I have had the worst last 12 days of my life.
« Reply #2 on: May 22, 2024, 03:42:54 pm »
I used a condom during insertive sex and received oral without a condom.
HIV is transmitted by unprotected (condomless) anal/vaginal sex or sharing injection needles.

Since you stated that you had PROTECTED sex, you had NO risk for HIV.

(I donít even know if the lady had it).
to be honest, this doesn't matter. People who are living with HIV who have remained on medication daily and have an undetectable viral load can NOT transmit HIV. Your best bet though, since knowing the status of a casual encounter is impossible, is just to always use condoms -- just like you did! :)

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Some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other more easily acquired STIs. It is possible to show no signs or symptoms from an STI so testing is the only way to know.

Get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

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Re: I have had the worst last 12 days of my life.
« Reply #3 on: May 22, 2024, 08:54:21 pm »
Thank you for your response.

Do you think that there is a real possibility then that I have received a false reactive?

Iím absolutely gob smacked at this as Iíve always thought HIV was extremely hard to pass on especially for a male and I used a condom which did not break/slip come off at any time during insertive sex.

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Re: I have had the worst last 12 days of my life.
« Reply #4 on: May 22, 2024, 10:54:56 pm »
As Micheal already explained what you posted here about the encounter with the sex worker wasn't an HIV risk.

You did not acquire HIV from that encounter.

Do you think that there is a real possibility then that I have received a false reactive?

Sure, it could be a false reactive, which happens for several reasons, including cross-antibody/antigen reactions to other current or past infections. Anyhow, it's just a reactive screening test, not a diagnosis and it just means follow-up testing is needed to rule out HIV.

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