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« on: May 03, 2024, 03:59:22 am »
Sorry to beat a dead horse like this but in a bit of a panic right now

I had an incident at 1:04am Sunday morning with a girl I met at a bar
Didnít finish wore a condom but when I was done (didnít finish and pulled out the condom was half way down middle of my shaft head still covered

I wiped up moments later and washed up and peed after.

The girl claimed to be clean 100% and no issues at all

However the next night around my urethra was red it tingled a bit and had when peeing and random zapping shoots of pain

Iíve had urethritis before and it felt like that just not as bad I texted the girl to reconfirm she was sure she was clean and she was

Uthretis is on going but as of today 3 days later I have been itchy all over with some redness of skin like itís irritated head to feet itching

As of this post itís now 5 days after the event.

Iím terrified as I found out Iím gonna be a dad with my ex who Iíve slept with and I donít want to be sick of get her or the baby sick.

Iíve done alot of reading both online and here and Iím stressed out and confused on mixed accounts & information.

Any and all information/ support would be greatly appreciated as Iím just terrified right now
« Last Edit: May 03, 2024, 04:10:07 am by Vaestras »

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Re: Help
« Reply #1 on: May 03, 2024, 04:20:04 am »
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The girl claimed to be clean 100% and no issues at all

Yeah, so am I, freshly showered this morning and washed the AIDS away, that's how it works

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Iím terrified as I found out Iím gonna be a dad with my ex who Iíve slept with and I donít want to be sick of get her or the baby sick.

So you had and are having condomless sex with your ex?
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Re: Help
« Reply #2 on: May 03, 2024, 04:29:37 am »
Maybe stay on the main topic and not troll on an aids forumÖ

Your an admin Jesus Christ

Read a lot of these posts none including judgeing trolls
« Last Edit: May 03, 2024, 04:32:31 am by Vaestras »

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Re: Help
« Reply #3 on: May 03, 2024, 04:31:49 am »
Yeah, and you are an asshole for coming here expecting our help and using such language.

Now answer the question, have you been having sex with your ex without a condom? It's a simple yes or no answer I am looking for.
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Re: Help
« Reply #4 on: May 03, 2024, 04:32:56 am »
As of yet no

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« Reply #5 on: May 03, 2024, 04:47:08 am »
The word ďcleanĒ to indicate "Negative" HIV / STI status suggests that an HIV-positive result & therefore people living with HIV are unclean and dirty. 

The term "clean" can be very offensive to some people living with HIV and since this is an HIV community forum I would have expected you to have some sense and courtesy before posting asking for our assistance. A lot of members here are new to living with HIV, they have enough to deal with already without your stigmatizing language and attitude and my primary goal is to keep this a safe space for them, not you and that is the "main topic" here as you call it.

I understand from your posts that you are an asshole, I can't change that but behave yourself here and if you post again using that term it will lead to a ban from the forums.

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when I was done (didnít finish and pulled out the condom was half way down middle of my shaft head still covered

Not an HIV risk to you.

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As of yet no

Perfect.

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I found out Iím gonna be a dad with my ex

Well if you did have condomless sex with her test with a blood draw (lab) HIV antibody test. A non-reactive result at that time would rarely change. Also, consider getting an STI screening for far easier-to-acquire STIs and talk to your healthcare provider about getting vaccinated against HPV, Hepatitis A & B.

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Talk to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV and getting vaccinated against HPV, Hepatitis A & B.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Help
« Reply #6 on: May 04, 2024, 10:24:34 am »
Thank you for the additional information regarding your ex's past test results, all it means is she didn't have HIV six weeks or three months before testing, depending on the labs used, so it's meaningless.

I'll mention the same thing I always do when someone says they are in a relationship;

If you engage in condomless sex with your partner, you are obviously at risk of acquiring HIV. In relationships, condomless sex is often based on trust or past test results; however, this does not prevent HIV, so if condomless sex does occur, you should consider testing more frequently.

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