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Am I Infected? / stupid me !
« Last post by worry2212 on Today at 12:20:44 am »
Hi guys I made horrible mistake after drinking and let a sex worker of uknow status give me a blow job with out a condom, 3 to 4 weeks after the incident i came up with a really bad sore throath, and went to the doctor he told me I had viral pharyngitis So mi anxiaty started to kick in, because as you know it could be a sign of hiv and also could be cause by many other things, so I stayed calm took my antibiotics and felt better, this was 2 WEEKS AGO and still my throath feels itchy (not as bad as when I frist got it,not even close, but itchy none the less) and the anxiaty kciks back in, because I read that a prolonged sore throath, can be a clear sign of hiv, In the other hand 1-pharyngitis can also be cause by bacteria so im hoping its my case 2- I know that in order to be hiv+ SHE HAS TO BE HIV+ wich if taking in considerration that usually 1 out of 100 woman are hiv+ hope im lucky :-[ 3-I once was in this scenario before where i recived unprotected oral sex from 2 diferent woman and 4 months later tested negative, but NEVER had sore throat or anithing else for that matter, I know it doesn´t make a diference, because you can be + without symptoms. So to make things wrost I read on the I JUST TESTED POZ awoman who became hiv+ from giving a bj, with cum on her mouth and I know IS NOT THE SAME SCENARIO but that boosted mya anxiaty throu the roof bacuse she said " im so unlucky" and now my head is spinning. SO PLEASE HELP ME if you could inform me what are my odds from reciving unprotected oral from this woman (BJ) and if you could give some links or books or websites or studies on information about the risk of reciving oral sex. thank you guys im really stupid and feel like a dumbass for putting my self in this situation  :'(
Living With HIV / Re: an HIV day dream
« Last post by em on Today at 12:14:42 am »
the way I was thinking of telling the story short condensed version

after the first part of her telling of the wonders of her life

then she narrates about when she was a much younger person in her twenties and she found out she had HIV in the early eighties.

she lost her job fell into depression lived in homeless shelter full of despair thinking her life would sone become living hell than a her death at young age racked with suffering AIDS had to offer.

the people she met the things she did

than meeting someone falling in love and she tells him about the HIV he tells her that we will face whatever comes together

they live waiting for a cure always hopeful that is just around the corner

then  trying all the drugs  coming down the pipeline until the moment when she finds out she is pregnant but she is undetectable she carries the child and the moment when she has the child and finds out because she had taken all her pills, was undetectable the child was free of the virus.

she and her husband have been racked with fear that the child might carry the virus but are overwhelmed with joy and relief to find out the child made it through without the virus.

then they have a second child this life is free of the virus as well and they man and wife raise these two children ever hopeful that all will turn out for the best especially when  the cure is found that will make everything better that even though it never comes they raise the children the best they can

more like mama mia with HIV than back to the future

could have at this point the older woman was born HIV positive if that helps make the story more impressive ?? minor rewrite just have to move the timeline to being born in around the beginning of  HIV in the mid seventies to early eighties but then she would be the older middle age woman with older children in the future because for her to have children when she was ten then raise them to finish college and get married ??

that might make it a tad more difficult of story to tell ?

O woman middle age to me would be just about  to turn sixty with two grown children and tell how she waited for a cure that never came to turn her life around she makes the best of it. and while she waited she raises two children to adulthood and they in turn become loving adults filled with all the hope a loving mother hopes for . just to spite HIV and alls its horrors the children turn out better than  fine they thrive nurtured by a mothers love even with HIV eating away at her she also thrives and overcomes obstacles >>

just saying would this make a story anyone might like to see ? or for now read ?

does anyone think of an actress that might be able to pull this type of story off

can you picture anyone ?

maybe the lead in Mamma mia or something . or some every women that everyone can relate to

do you think a sex scene of an HIV positive women having relations with her HIV negative husband might offend the audience to think of someone with HIV having sex ?

boundaries being pushed or something

sorry to have bother you with this useless drable it may never get off the ground and achieve an oscar for best new screen play or anything but it has been a nice diversion for me to write

thank for having this place for me to write to.

all my best to you
Living With HIV / Re: an HIV day dream
« Last post by em on Yesterday at 10:47:19 pm »
If I did find a way to submit the idea of how far we have come with HIV

If the entertainment industry said lets make a story about HIV progress. it would more than likely  become  after editing and rewriting a new version of back to the future? 

funny how things change was my thought on it. How great it is.

we have come so far and still have far to go and it has been my pleasure to witness these results. I may not have accomplished all I had wanted in my youth. but knowing children can,  even if our  own HIV did not get passed onto them. this seems to be a remarkable progress. with haart children born with HIV can still have the opportunity to live to become adults and live as people with opportunities to have good lives.

the story of someone maybe a woman having children and watching them grow and have great blessed lives full of achievements and prosperity. Even if she has HIV and thought she would have died a horrible death long before anything like the things mentioned. Seeing her children be HIV negative and grow into adults well prepared for life full of promise and blessed with life's gifts that she had only dreamed of for herself that never happened  that have come to her children.

Funny back to the future ?

like saying  on golden pond and moby dick are the same because they both have water in the story ?

well back to the future was about saving the children ?? I guess so, this to me seems to be they are a both promising cheerful stories.

what a funny comparison

to bad the story I was pushing for may never see the light of day and get e glimpse of being made into anything other the shadows of this website on the dark and scary internet

there is nothing romantic or uplifting about HIV what was I thinking about even suggesting something so stupid  that some life achievements might be had by the children of us those who carry HIV

I am sorry to have wasted your time by suggesting such folly, it was a stupid idea

back to the future an HIV story where the children of infected people  build a time machine go back and find patient zero and stop him from becoming infected ?

patient zero the first person to get HIV

well it was sappy and just had thought maybe the thought of something like that might cheer up some of the people reading this web site

like someone very close to me  is found of saying to me about me the you have no friends because you suck the life out of the room when you  enter it and you are just  no fun to be around

trying to cheer up people living with HIV like myself by pointing out progress that might be either now or very close or in some place in the  near future life has turned around and been giving us those with HIV the chance to live proud and incharge of giving the world the greatest gifts happy healthy children with the opportunity to live full long rich lives.

sorry I do not see the connection to back to the future ?

please explain was it meant as fumierius comparison ?

thank you for responding and sorry to go on so much

and the all my best to you

Estoy infectado? / Re: Sexo oral y me hicieron una herida
« Last post by Jkest2 on Yesterday at 09:44:00 pm »
Gracias Andy por tu inmediata respuesta, justo son tres semanas y apenas hoy me empezó a dar un pequeño dolor de cabeza, sigo algo preocupado
Am I Infected? / Re: Possible risk of infection?
« Last post by ichida on Yesterday at 09:11:52 pm »
Hello to whoever is reading this.

This is for whoever has had a risk and lurked as much on these forums as I did:

So it took me three years (yes three), but I finally mustered the courage to go get tested and... it came back negative! The past three years consisted of a lot of anxiety, I would be going throughout my normal day and even when I was having a great day that thought of wondering if I have HIV would creep in and would immediately ruin it. This went on basically everyday for the past three years, and now that I have time to reflect on it, it's simply not worth it. To those who are in the same boat as I was, I'm urging you, just please go get tested for your own sanity. Living that way in constant worry simply isn't worth it. Think of it like this, it's a win/win in either way. You test negative, well you don't have to worry about that anymore. You test positive, you at least now know you have it and can immediately go on treatment and live a perfectly normal life.The problem with HIV isn't the virus itself anymore, it's no longer the death sentence it once was like how it was in the 70's and 80's, The problem lies with how we as a society stigmatize it, my worry was of how I would explain it to potential partners about what I have, and how no one would want to be with me. That's something we have to change and I'm gonna do my part by not thinking that way.

Now to the symptoms that people always come here looking for. I had pretty much every symptom in all those articles that you find when googling. In the 2nd week after my incident back in 2015 I started noticing a funny smell when swallowing, I then inspected my mouth and noticed it was white. I swore to myself that I had thrush, when in reality that's just the bacteria in your mouth that accumulates all day. On the 6th week mark is when I started freaking out, that was after I made my original post. I came down with really bad diarrhea and a fever and by really bad I mean I was straight projectile shitting water for 2 days straight (I counted and I remember I went to the bathroom 43 times in span of 2 days) and the fever basically crippled me, it was during that time I was convinced I had HIV. Some other symptoms I've had was a rash that spreaded from my neck to my torso, which I still have but I'm beginning to think this is a hereditary issue as I still have it, and I've also had swollen lymph glands in my armpit and neck which I definitely got from probing my neck every 2 minutes checking if it was swollen. Basically what I'm trying to say is, symptoms or lack of symptoms doesn't mean shit.

Lastly, after this incident I've had sex multiple times (lost count but 30+ partners). I've used protection for every encounter I've had for intercourse. However, foolishly I wouldn't use it for oral sex. I was on the receiving end of oral over 30+ different people, and I still didn't catch HIV. Oral is not a risk for HIV, and when these mods are telling you it's not possible, just take their word. However, that shit is still risky for other STI's.

tl;dr: I had an insertive dipping incident unprotected back in 2015, I had every symptom in the book. I've had unprotected oral countless number of times and I did not get HIV. Go get tested at the appropriate time and it's not worth it to live in worry all the time. I was just like you, I remember I spent an all nighter just reading posts on here, not being able to sleep. It's not worth it.

To the mods:

Thank you for all your work on here. Especially to Joe and Andy, whose helpful words put me at ease during one of the scariest times of my life. But also to all the mods past and present such as Jeff G, Wade, Ann, MtD, jkinat, JimDublin, ptrick, and to anyone else I may have missed. You guys may have not replied to my post, but your advice on the other posts were extremely helpful on those sleepless nights in the past 3 years. Anyways, I probably sound dramatic as hell but I felt like this post is something someone who was in my situation might read and feel the push to finally get tested.

I mean this in the nicest way possible, I hope to never come back here again. God bless and good luck to everyone!
Living With HIV / Re: an HIV day dream
« Last post by OneTampa on Yesterday at 07:43:12 pm »
With a bit of editing......

Off Topic Forum / Re: 1995
« Last post by OneTampa on Yesterday at 07:38:27 pm »

Played this on the jukebox in the pub 20 min ago and barkeep asked me if it was from a drinks add like a cider .... I told him its from a 1995 Guinness add- dancing man and he told me he was born in 95 ....  :-\

Drink. Conception.  Think a connection?    :) :D

Off Topic Forum / Re: Nana: Pumpkin, It's 420 Day! Let's Chill!.....
« Last post by OneTampa on Yesterday at 07:34:17 pm »
Thanks Wade!

 :) ;)
Am I Infected? / Re: Worried ive early hiv symptoms
« Last post by CaveyUK on Yesterday at 07:01:39 pm »
Based on what you have posted specifically, your only risk was the unprotected vaginal sex with your female friend. Whilst the claim is that she hasn't had sex for 2 years and knows she is STD free, that is only anecdotal and it is up to you as to whether to believe that or not.

But that was your only risk event. The anal sex with men were protected so not a risk of HIV at all. The oral sex was negligible risk, but is not an event we encourage testing after as it is not an effective transmission route for the virus.

Symptoms are completely unreliable when it comes to HIV, with most people not experiencing any (or any that stand out as being something unusual). Generally these wouldn't start as quickly as 6 days and aching legs and sore throat are so general they could be due to a million different things that are common and mundane.

As you had unprotected sex, then an HIV test may be warranted despite the low risk with any result conclusive after 3 months.

Regardless of anything else, as you are sexually active it is smart to get routinely screened for all STI's - most of which are far easier to contract than HIV, and perhaps now would be a good time to have your first screening and try to have them yearly from now on. Being proactive about your sexual health will not only empower you but will reduce further anxiety about past events.

And please always wear a condom from now on.
Am I Infected? / Worried ive early hiv symptoms
« Last post by Johnnyhdublin on Yesterday at 05:45:35 pm »

Iam a bisexual man and had a hiv test in may 2017 which was clear. Since then I have had topped with a transvestite in amsterdam using a condom. On 2 other occasions I have tried to bottom but as I have a low pain treshold ive only managed to take a penis for a matte of seconds, both times protected with no ejeculation. Ive given and recieved blowjobs a number of times unprotected but never take ejeculate in my mouth.

Where the problem starts I its I have a female friend whom I had vaginal sex with on 3 occasions early last week with no protection (with her no ejeculation) as she knows shes is std free (due to complications with childbirth 2 years ago and not had sex in 2 years since without protection).

I know in hindsight this was stupid to not use a condom. My concrn now is 6 days later I am having aching legs and arms with a sore throat.

Could my previous bisexual events have made me infected with hiv? With having sex with her 3 times what is the likelyhood of infectiom?
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