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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: shawan on February 10, 2013, 08:57:30 pm

Title: i think i had infected my girlfriend
Post by: shawan on February 10, 2013, 08:57:30 pm

Hi..i feel very guilty now..i dont know what to do..
On 3 november last year, i had gone to a massage palor..i received:
1. Body massage
2. Handjob
While the session, i also inserted my finger in her vagina and fingering inside her for about 30 minutes.after fingering her, i realised that my skin at the top of my finger( near the fingernail) had peeled back and i can see the red layer under the peeled back skin. I am very sure that the skin on my finger had peeled back WHILE i fingered inside her vagina. I know that you guys will tell me that that is not a risk. But...i had experiencing symptoms:
1. 3 days - i had fever and headache. The head ache was like i'm having migrain and it lasted for about 1 week.
2. 5 day- dark and black spots That look like moles appeared on the back side of both of my arms.
3. 11 day- i had swollen gland on the right side of the neck. Gone to see the doctor and he said that my lymphnode swollen.
4. 18 day- rashes appeared on my arms, chest, stomach and leg. They dissapeared after i applied some aloevera helly but they come back after that.the lympnode still swollen and some new swollen.
5. I also feel muscle ache on my arms and legs.
6. Feel very tired.
7. Always feel sleepy and burning sensation at the eyes.
After a couple of weeks, the symptoms gone but tiredness in the eyes still there and untill now. Sonetimes i also feel tired especially when i'm driving.

What make me felt very nervous is..on 27 january 2013, i had unprotected sex with my gf.on the next day, she had stomachache and diarrhea. I also noticed that black spot like moles also appeared on her arms. 2 weeks after that, she had sore throat, fever, muscleache all over the body,feel very tired and fatigue.yesterday, i realised that she also have some rashes on her arms. She also said that her eyes feel very tired.
This had make me feel very nervous and guilty.
For your information, i'm from malaysia and the masseuse that i fingered was a thai. Please anyone...tell me what happened. You guys always said that fingering is not a risk. But why all of this happened to me. My gf dont know that i had the exposure. I'm not lying..i'm telling the truth here..

Title: Re: i think i had infected my girlfriend
Post by: Jeff G on February 10, 2013, 10:29:44 pm

Hi Shawan . The incident you described is NOT a risk for HIV . You cant get HIV from fingering or masturbation period . You do not have to worry about the peeled back skin on your finger as a route for HIV transmission . HIV is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Here is what you need to know in order to protect your self from HIV . You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions unless your in a monogamous relationship where you are both secure in your relationship .

The symptoms you described are NOT specific to HIV so you can put your mind at ease , if you continue to feel unwell see your doctor for a check up and see if he / she can figure out whats wrong with you . 

Title: Re: i think i had infected my girlfriend
Post by: shawan on February 10, 2013, 10:48:24 pm

Yes..i know that..but..my finger was INSIDE her vagina and tHe skin was peeled back INSIDE her vagina..

Title: Re: i think i had infected my girlfriend
Post by: Jeff G on February 11, 2013, 12:00:17 am

Quote from: shawan on February 10, 2013, 10:48:24 pm

Yes..i know that..but..my finger was INSIDE her vagina and tHe skin was peeled back INSIDE her vagina..

There has never been a single documented case where HIV was transmitted in the manner you described and I'm certain you wont be the first .

I read your concerns very carefully and you should be confident as I am that fingering a vagina with a nick or raw place on your finger is not a risk for HIV . You can stop worrying about this no risk situation .

Title: Re: i think i had infected my girlfriend
Post by: shawan on February 11, 2013, 01:40:29 am

Ok..tq..but why i get the symptoms? Why my gf get the symptoms?
I totally scared and confuse here..

Title: Re: i think i had infected my girlfriend
Post by: jkinatl2 on February 11, 2013, 02:21:50 am

Quote from: shawan on February 11, 2013, 01:40:29 am

Ok..tq..but why i get the symptoms? Why my gf get the symptoms?
I totally scared and confuse here..

I am sorry that you and your gf have been ill. From the activity you described, there is no basis in science for HIV to be the culprit.

You had NO risk for HIV.