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Re: Hello routine question.
« Reply #50 on: June 03, 2021, 11:01:08 am »
You’ve told me that being passed out / blackout doesn’t really require testing. I just read that in the past posts. Everytime I blackout or get drunk I always have a worry to get pep or get tested. I think this has to do with my ocd and making my thinking irrational. It’s come to the point were I can’t trust anyone that was by me when I blacked out. Honestly I do need some therapy Help. Ocd is ruining my life. You’ve helped me by answering my questions so many times. And I’m still here having these fears and doubts. My drunk nights were so fun back then. But now is all about what if a guy took advantage of me or what if I hooked up with a random woman. I’m at a point I just want to give up. I hate ocd. I’m tired. I’m sorry Jim if I keep coming back with these questions.

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« Reply #51 on: June 03, 2021, 11:22:46 am »
To be blunt, the problem is you blackout due to excessive drinking. Afterwards, you worry and stress "what ifs" as you don't know what you did.  Sounds like super fun, I don't think so!

If you want to avoid having blackout and, as a result, these concerns afterwards about what you may have done, then stop putting yourself through this and if you can't stop and you want to stop seek help.

Here is the thing, I can't give you better assessments when you don't know what happened and I don't do "what ifs". So, if you suspect you had intercourse, get tested to know your HIV status.



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Re: Hello routine question.
« Reply #52 on: June 03, 2021, 03:39:21 pm »
Jim I want to thank you. I now admit alcohol is a problem for me. I will need to work on this. Thanks.

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Re: Hello routine question.
« Reply #53 on: June 08, 2021, 02:43:46 pm »
You're welcome.
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Re: Hello routine question.
« Reply #54 on: June 16, 2021, 04:28:25 pm »
Hey Jim are Insti Finger Prick tests good at 6 weeks ? Antibody rapid tests

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Re: Hello routine question.
« Reply #55 on: June 16, 2021, 04:50:40 pm »
With rapid tests rule of thumb is to just test at 3 months otherwise get a lab run antibodies test at 6 weeks.
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« Reply #56 on: June 27, 2021, 09:08:54 pm »
Hey Jim. I wanted to ask you why do people judge sex workers? Do you think hooking up with them is bad?  I met a lot of cool women and so unique and nice women I’d never thought I’ll meet but I thought about it and this is where my obsession of testing very often started. Because of people talking of sex workers like it is bad. I’m not telling you I have an addiction to sex workers but it is an individual’s  responsibility to practice safe sex. What’s your opinion on this? I’m just sharing this with you because I wanted to see what you think. Sometimes people judge for no reason. It doesn’t matter who you hook up with regardless of a sex worker or not  what matters is what we are doing to have safe sex. I been so stressed about what people think. I am done with their judging it’s caused me so much anxiety to the point of testing almost once every month. I don’t care anymore. And thank you for helping and educating us on testing and practicing safe sex.

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Re: Hello routine question.
« Reply #57 on: June 29, 2021, 03:52:19 am »
Like it or not, there are plenty of things you do that people judge, walking down the street some people will be judging you in one way or another. You just don't realize and for everything else you have to decide if you are going to give a damn or not.

Personally, I truly don't give a damn what people think about me, their judgments or opinions of me hold no value or weight in my life.

Now If you must know, I am entirely for legalizing sex work, but my opinion about sex work does not matter, and to be blunt I am not your therapist.
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« Reply #58 on: September 20, 2021, 10:59:37 am »
Hey Jim how are you?I’m back dating I’m more relaxed anxiety no more a problem. I have a question lately I been so into putting my tongue inside woman’s vagina and obviously oral sex on vagina. And I stay using condom when having vaginal sex. But with the vaginal oral sex my mind is making me overthink. But I know you answered this before there is no hiv risk.

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Re: Hello routine question.
« Reply #59 on: September 20, 2021, 11:46:31 am »
Read your post three times.

Continue to use condoms for any intercourse, consider PrEP and as you are sexually active test out of routine at least yearly for HIV and far easier to acquire STI's.

Not much more I can say.
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« Reply #60 on: September 20, 2021, 12:04:13 pm »
I always use condoms for vaginal and anal sex. Just my question was do I move on and keep on with my life and not worry about putting my tongue inside vagina oral sex ?

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« Reply #61 on: September 20, 2021, 12:22:01 pm »
Relax, move on with your life
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« Reply #62 on: September 20, 2021, 12:27:35 pm »
Thank you Jim. Have a good day talk to you later.

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« Reply #63 on: September 20, 2021, 10:01:27 pm »
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« Reply #64 on: September 22, 2021, 07:21:28 pm »
I know not worry about vaginal fluids But is it possible to reach cervix fluid with tongue ? I ask because sometimes i feel g spot with tongue or when I finger?  Or is cervix fluid way out of reach from tongue and fingering ?

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« Reply #65 on: September 23, 2021, 05:43:44 am »
The short answers to these questions are either no or it's not a concern.

You are overthinking things. I've already provided an assessment over the activities you posted. Nothing you think up next is going to change the assessment unless you engaged in activities not mentioned here.

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Re: Hello routine question.
« Reply #66 on: September 23, 2021, 08:50:22 am »
Right when I was overthinking of what if I had cuts in my tongue also. Okay Jim I’ll stop with the questions on this oral sex topic, thank you have a good day.

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« Reply #67 on: September 23, 2021, 10:23:42 am »
You're welcome.
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« Reply #68 on: June 19, 2023, 09:06:37 am »
Hey Jim how are you ? Want to ask you if there is a risk? I got into a fight were there was a lot of blood from the other person on my clothes and skin and face. My question is, should I be worried about his blood and the amount of blood if it got inside my eyes ?

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« Reply #69 on: June 19, 2023, 09:41:31 am »
HIV doesn't survive the conditions of being outside of a body and exposed to air. You did not have an HIV risk in this situation.


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Reducing Your HIV risks:
With no exceptions, use condoms correctly and consistently for anal or vaginal intercourse
Talk to a healthcare provider about PrEP as another layer of protection

Get tested yearly for HIV and other STIs.
If you don’t use condoms and/or PrEP, test more frequently

Some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other more easily acquired STIs. It is possible to show no signs or symptoms from an STI so testing is the only way to know.

Get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

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Get tested.


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« Reply #70 on: June 19, 2023, 02:02:55 pm »
Okay. I shouldn’t worry if his blood got in my eyes or a deep cut ?

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« Reply #71 on: June 19, 2023, 02:51:44 pm »
Asked and answered already.

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« Reply #72 on: June 20, 2023, 09:02:05 am »
We were fighting and also into each others face with his blood all over the place. Jim my last question is regardless of what happens or risks I think I have gotten into. Just test when is unprotected sex and if sharing syringes if use of drugs ? Those are the two risks we really have to go and test right ? Is there other risks and behaviors I should beware to go get tested? And I always go test  once or twice a year for physical check ups.

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« Reply #73 on: June 20, 2023, 02:56:27 pm »
Unprotected anal/vaginal sex is an HIV risk. Sharing syringes, which pulls someone's blood in and is then injected into someone else, is an HIV risk.

However HIV is a fragile virus and doesn't survive the conditions of being outside of a body and exposed to air. Fighting with blood flying around is not a risk for HIV; but it's definitely a risk for being hurt.

Test at your regular check-ups and consider PreP.

Of course, this is just been the same answer as you've gotten from us already. ;) Time to move on from this situation.
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