He beats around the bush enough that there's almost no way I WOULDN"T know by now - I'd have to be an idiot.
Would it be possible for you to ask him, when he's "beating around the bush", as you put it, to ask him if there's something he is trying to say, or wants to tell you? You'd want to choose a quiet and private time, when you're both relaxed.
I know there is a forum for HIV- folks with HIV+ friends, but this forum seems more active and I want the opinion of someone who's poz. I have a friend who is HIV+, but he doesn't know that I know. We spend a lot of time together, travel together, and I've basically figured it out based on things he has said, my own knowledge of how the virus works, and finally I saw some of his meds.
I love him, and want him to know I will support him always - no questions, no doubts. Should I tell him I know? Or wait until/if he tells me? He beats around the bush enough that there's almost no way I WOULDN"T know by now - I'd have to be an idiot.
I admit, part of why I want him to know I know is selfish. I don't know how long he's been poz, what his Tcell counts are, etc, and so I don't know if he's sick or doing well.
I want to do the right thing. What are your thoughts, please?
Hi Painter,
Normally, I'd tend to agree with aupointillimite, but something you said makes me wonder:
It sounds as though maybe he's been dropping hints, but backing off?
Would it be possible for you to ask him, when he's "beating around the bush", as you put it, to ask him if there's something he is trying to say, or wants to tell you? You'd want to choose a quiet and private time, when you're both relaxed. You don't want him to feel interrogated, you want him to feel safe to share - or not, as he sees fit. If he replies "no", you'll have to let it go. At the end of the day, it's his choice to tell you or not.
Ann
I agree with the others on approaching him on the subject since it seems he is looking for your support in a round a bout way. Reassure him and tell him to never doubt your support as a friend.
Then just get really drunk and play truth or dare. It sometimes doesnt have to be as dramatic as we make it!