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Offline dad1216

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My boyfriend has died
« on: September 22, 2009, 08:21:44 am »
Today I will bury my boyfriend of 7 years…he committed suicide Saturday…he battled with addiction to alcohol and pain medications….he had been in and out of rehab so many times…and just got out a couple of weeks ago….and once again we all hoped that this time he would beat his addiction…he really had a strong support system…but just not strong enough…

He was just 25 years old….with his whole life ahead of him…a 6 year old son who idolized him….and who found him Saturday as he went to wake him up for breakfast at his parents home…

I spoke with him Friday…and we made plans for Sunday to go out after his son went home…he was in great spirits…looking forward to the weekend with his son…I got a text message late Friday saying “I love you”…it must have been as he was taking all the pills…

I will lay him to rest today
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Offline BT65

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #1 on: September 22, 2009, 09:10:10 am »
Dad, my God.  I am so, so sorry.  I know there are no magic words, but please know I'm thinking about you.  Addiction is a tricky thing.  I'm just saddened that he chose to end his life, but I try to remember how desperate someone who actually does that must feel, rather than judging them. 

I'll definitely keep you in my thoughts, and his young son.  What a horrible memory.  Maybe his last text to you will offer some solace.

In sadness,
  Betty :'(
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Offline bear60

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #2 on: September 22, 2009, 11:23:43 am »
You have my condolences on this tragic occasion.
Peace be with you.

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Offline Robert

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #3 on: September 22, 2009, 12:21:19 pm »

dad, my deepest sympathies.

the evil that addiction does.  It touches us all.

god bless.

robert
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Offline pozniceguy

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #4 on: September 22, 2009, 03:44:03 pm »
such a sad time for everyone , his son, his family and of course you, you are in my thoughts and prayers at this most sad occasion.

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Offline Snowangel

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #5 on: September 22, 2009, 04:18:12 pm »
Dad1216-
I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your boyfriend.  I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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Offline gemini20

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #6 on: September 22, 2009, 05:42:38 pm »
Dear Bob,

I was so shocked to see your post; what an absolute tragedy for you and his family to be dealing with.

My heart goes out to you at this very difficult time.

My thoughts and prayers are with you,


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Offline next2u

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #7 on: September 22, 2009, 05:47:35 pm »
my condolences to you and yours bobs.

sincerely,
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Offline JeffreyM

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #8 on: September 22, 2009, 07:40:31 pm »
Peace and blessings to You and Yours during this difficult time. With Love, Jeffrey M
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Offline aztecan

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #9 on: September 22, 2009, 08:47:17 pm »
I am very much saddened to hear this news.

Please know you and his son and family will be in my thoughts.

Mark
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Offline anniebc

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #10 on: September 22, 2009, 09:07:34 pm »
Prayers coming to you from NZ..I'm so sorry to hear this news, a young life gone but not forgotten.

In sadness
Jan :'(
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Offline J.R.E.

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #11 on: September 23, 2009, 08:30:52 am »
Dad,

My deepest condolences go out to you and his family.


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Offline Texan38

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #12 on: September 23, 2009, 10:16:03 am »
dad1216,

I'm so sorry....my sincerest condolences.

Mark
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Offline AlanBama

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #13 on: September 23, 2009, 10:28:24 am »
A tragic loss, Bob.   My prayers go out to you, and to his family.

Alan   :-*
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Offline Lakis

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #14 on: September 23, 2009, 11:08:53 pm »
My condolences
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Offline Rev. Moon

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #15 on: September 23, 2009, 11:23:50 pm »
Oh my, this is too sad :(

My condolences to you Bob. 

May strength be with you and your loved ones during such a difficult time.

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Offline Jeffreyj

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #16 on: September 24, 2009, 05:12:57 am »
This is very sad and shocking news.

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time.
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Offline dad1216

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #17 on: September 24, 2009, 11:03:27 pm »
I have shed so many tears over the last few days….and yet the tears I shed while typing this are the first ones that really feel good…

To each of you…you have comforted my soul…

Thank you

Bob
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Offline decayingsinner

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #18 on: September 25, 2009, 05:36:54 pm »
I am so very sad to hear your story. I have had a close friend commit suicide and it is a tragedy that I have never forgotten. My thoughts and prayers are for you.
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Offline weasel

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #19 on: September 25, 2009, 07:20:14 pm »
I am very sorry for your loss !

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Offline Jeff G

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #20 on: September 25, 2009, 08:23:48 pm »
You are in my prayers .
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Offline Theyer

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #21 on: October 05, 2009, 06:27:52 am »
Dad
I am sorry to read this tragic news,condolenses to you and all who loved your boyfriend.

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Offline AndyArrow

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #22 on: October 05, 2009, 02:02:52 pm »
Dad--

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I'll be keeping you and his young son in my thoughts.

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Offline smalltown66

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #23 on: November 04, 2009, 06:40:32 pm »
Dad1216,

I pray God will send an angel to wrap his loving arms around you and comfort you through this terrible time.
My condolences


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Offline jm1953

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #24 on: December 01, 2009, 11:29:29 pm »
So sorry to hear this tragic news.  My thoughts and prayers are with you!!!
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Offline BEN1978

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Re: My boyfriend has died
« Reply #25 on: December 02, 2009, 09:19:18 am »


Sorry for you lost and I hope you and your family get through this difficult time.  I don't know who you are but my heart is with you.

Ben
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