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Offline JoelHndez

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I'm worried and scared, Am I infected?
« on: January 02, 2021, 06:34:00 pm »

Hello,
I'm a bisexual 34 years old male from México. I'm very introverted person and don't have many friends or people I can talk about my worries.
In March, 2020 (I don't really remember the day) I gave oral sex with condom and had anal sex both give and take (each time it was a unused new condom) with a stranger man. There was also a lot of skin contact (like holding hands, hugs, and both genitals actually touched).
About 15 days later I noticed scaly skin (like a fungal infection that you get on the feet) on my penis. I didn't think anything about it and applied antifungal cream on that area but it didn't help. Some days later, there was itching on penis, scrotum and anus area. I also noticed that there was also skin peeling between my fingers and felt something on my throat and my tongue turned white, so I decided to go the hospital but due to Covid-19 many health public security institutions were closed and I was forced to go to a cheap doctor's office. I went twice in two months because even though I followed the treatment (fluconazole and antifungal creams) it came back.
I haven't gone to a doctor since that time (lost my job due the pandemic, dont really have that much money to go to good private doctor) and haven't take any new meds (I don't want to create resistance against it) but still have it on my genitals (I have scaly skin, itching and redness, not sure if it is thrush) but also in my hands, and face and hair (last time I went to cut my hair, the barber noticed something on one side of my scalp) and also almost every part of my body itches (I think it has been expanding slowly). I also noticed aphthas in my mouth (small, don't hurt but feel weird) and noticed two little balls on both sides the neck (swollen lymph nodes?).

I use gloves to avoid direct skin contact with things, people or pets because I dont know what I have on my skin or inside my body so It has been 9 very stressful months for me.

I decided to get an HIV test next week but I'm almost sure I'm gonna test positive.
I have read in this forum that only unprotected vaginal or anal sex could be means of getting HIV but my symptoms have been for a long time know and I'm very scared. Thank you for reading and sorry for my long rant.

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Re: I'm worried and scared, Am I infected?
« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2021, 08:25:56 pm »
Hiya,

Sorry to hear that you have been having issues. It does sound like a fungal problem, but we can't diagnose or assist you with this. Please keep working with the doctor whenever you next can to treat this. 

Regarding HIV, understand you had a sexual encounter in March,  I don't see any HIV concern from what you posted if this was your only sexual encounter.

Holding hands, hugs, skin contact and genitals touching or being touched isn't how HIV can be acquired. As for the intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious. There is no reason to be stressing or testing outside of standard routine as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and, the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: I'm worried and scared, Am I infected?
« Reply #2 on: January 03, 2021, 05:35:29 am »
First of all, thank you very much for answering Mr. Jim Allen.
I've been reading this forum for a few days now and I'm grateful for your words and for replying to many (if not all) of the new post of this forum.
Sometimes we just need a word of someone who knows and/or tries to help even at the expense of their precious time and that means a lot to us (at least for me, it does). 

On other thoughts, although there was a new condom being used for both acts (oral sex and anal sex), is there any way for the HIV to trespass easier through the condom because of the fungal infection? The man obviously used his hand (which I think was infected I think) to put both condoms on, so my main worry is about that (and the persistent sickness from the thrush).

Regarless of my test's result I will post it on the corresponding forum, I just hope it is not in the "I just tested Poz" one.

Thanks a lot for your kind words.



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Re: I'm worried and scared, Am I infected?
« Reply #3 on: January 03, 2021, 05:46:25 am »
You're welcome.

A fungal infection on his hands etc would not change the assessment, neither would you having a fungal infection change how hiv isn't passed on.

If this was your only sexual encounter in life then HIV isn't a concern. Keep using condoms and testing out of standard routine yearly for STI's

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Re: I'm worried and scared, Am I infected?
« Reply #4 on: February 08, 2021, 03:30:35 pm »
Hello again Mr Jim Allen and people who reads this wonderful forum!

I have been terrified and dying from stress since January (when I started to develop more intense symptoms) which in my mind I thought were 100% symptoms of HIV seroconversion (swollen lymphs, rash, pharyngitis, muscle pain, oral thrush and many others). Last Friday I went to a HIV specialized clinic in the place where I live and got tested for Syphilis and HIV (1/2) which both came out no reactive (By an Immunochromatographic Screening test, after 11 months from my last sexual encounter, I think I can trust this result).

Althought my body still hurts (both neck and armpits lymphs) a lot, I'm a lot more relieved.

So please to everyone like me, who enters this forum just to read and trying to match your fears and symptons to something you probably don't have, please get tested: stress and fear actually makes things worse and if you actually test positive, the fastest you get treatment the better your body will feel.

Thanks a lot again Mr Jim Allen for being so patient, for reading our crazy stories and fears, for answering so many posts and for telling us how to avoid an HIV infection each time. Also, I'm sorry for my English (I'm pretty sure there are some wrong words and grammatical errors).

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Re: I'm worried and scared, Am I infected?
« Reply #5 on: February 08, 2021, 03:45:06 pm »
Hiya,

Look glad you can move past this but I can't pretend you had any HIV risk or HIV symptoms to start with or that testing over the incident mentioned was warranted.

Take it easy and I hope whatever is making you feel unwell you get better soon.  I also hope you don't end up having the habit of running out and testing needlessly every time over nothing.

Best. Jim

« Last Edit: February 08, 2021, 03:48:47 pm by Jim Allen »
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