Poz Neg Relationships...

[lilred122214]

Hey so I have been Pos for 7 months now that we actually know about... I have been dating my boyfriend for just about a year. When we found out i was 100% honest with him about but we still continued to date...
It been seven months and im starting to feel that every time he sick or something he being extra procausious.  Is it possible for us to be dating and for him to not get it cause theres alot he doesnt understand or can relate to feeling wise... My biggest fear is for him to get it... what advice do you have?

[Inchlingblue]

There are many poz/neg relationships that do just fine, both gay ones and straight ones. What's important is communication and knowledge about how HIV is spread in order to avoid spreading it.

Check out this other thread that has some more info., with some specific couples as examples:

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=29464.msg361964#msg361964


There are also members of this thread that are in serodiscordant relationships, I'll bet some of them will chime in.

[bocker3]

The best advice -- learn all you can (you meaning both of you).  You can have a very full sex life without passing the virus on.  Hopefully the more you learn the more your fear will subside.

My partner is negative and we have every intention of keeping him that way.  I completely understand your fear of infecting him -- it stills gets to me at times, even though I KNOW what we need to do to avoid that.  It's simply human nature to be worried about someone we care for.

You do have to work this out in your mind -- then you can help him too.  So, learn -- read past threads here.  Read the lessons, read, read, read.

Good luck!

Mike

[weasel]

Hey LILRED  ,
                        I have been with my husband for  28   years !

                Bob is NOT HIV POS !

            for 24 years  we never did safe sex !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

          NOW we do !!!!!!!!!!!!

          The older I get and the more heart trouble Bob has the more we know HE  must

           NEVER   get HIV , It would be a death sentence for him .

             My partner does NOT really understand any of MY HIV issues !

            Yes it annoys me ! But I don't do sex with out a rubber !


                                      Be well , life is good !

                      I am sure LOVE will prevail  , it always does   

                                                                  Carl

[leatherman]

and to be on the safe side, at least once year have your partner tested for HIV
hopefully, you're relationship should stay +/- but if things would ever change you two will know in time to get the proper treatment 

[Teresa]

I have been married to my hubby for 7 years. We found out 4 years ago that he is HIV+. I am and continue to test negative. As a matter of fact i just had my yearly HIV test a couple of weeks ago...negative. Like others have said the best thing you and your boyfriend can and should do is learn all you can about HIV. The lessons here are a great source of information. Have him read them and if you havent read them yet you should. Remember to use a condom with plenty of lube each and every time you have sex. and he should be fine.

Hugs
Teresa

[Moffie65]

Me poz, he not, 21 years, never boring...........   

[unclespongebob]

im poz and john is neg we use a condom every time we have sex for 5 months now things have been the same as it was. john is my rock and i believe that your partner will be also.


                                                              peace bobby

[rioz]

Hey Lilred,

I have been married AND positive since 1985.  I hesitate to tell you that we had (have) two children and my wife and two sons are all negative. We were very fortunate in that I got tested after the birth of our first son and our second was unplanned. How they ALL escaped the virus is a huge mystery but my point is that you can have a very fulfilling, satisfying and healthy relationship with your negative partner especially if you BOTH educate yourselves.

Good luck and health to you both.

Richard