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Offline SANJUANDUDE

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Re: The whole "oral sex" thing
« Reply #50 on: December 12, 2011, 12:26:42 pm »
I just don't mess with it.  This way disclsing status nevder comes up.
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Offline Rockin

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Re: The whole "oral sex" thing
« Reply #51 on: December 12, 2011, 10:19:38 pm »
Quote from: jamesd1967 on December 12, 2011, 12:26:42 pm
I just don't mess with it.  This way disclsing status nevder comes up.

But what if your entering "serious relationship" mode and the guy really wants to suck you? It's very hard to keep this a secret in a relationship for a long time.
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Offline spacebarsux

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Re: The whole "oral sex" thing
« Reply #52 on: December 13, 2011, 02:14:33 am »
Quote from: Rockin on December 12, 2011, 10:19:38 pm
But what if your entering "serious relationship" mode and the guy really wants to suck you? It's very hard to keep this a secret in a relationship for a long time.

If you enter into a 'serious relationship', presumably it would be serious enough for you to not conceal your status, correct ?

Not telling a hot stranger about your status prior to getting a BJ in the sauna is a 'little different' to hiding it from your partner in a 'serious relationship', is it not ?

Edited to add:- It's not transmission risk as much as 'disclosure/trust issues' that seems to be your primary concern.
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Offline SANJUANDUDE

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Re: The whole "oral sex" thing
« Reply #53 on: December 13, 2011, 08:33:06 am »
 :)  I just don't like telling a perfect stranger, "oh by the way I am........."  I am into a serious realtionship and have been for nearly 12 years. 

Years, many years ago, we used to do the gay bathhouse thing, but I viewed that differently.  In our opinnion, if someone was entering a gay, essentially, sex club, then they are well-aware of the risks.  I never have and never would put anyone at risk, but I witnessed lots of unprotected sex going on.
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: The whole "oral sex" thing
« Reply #54 on: December 13, 2011, 09:22:04 am »
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Re: The whole "oral sex" thing
« Reply #55 on: December 13, 2011, 09:47:24 am »
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Offline SANJUANDUDE

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Re: The whole "oral sex" thing
« Reply #56 on: December 13, 2011, 12:52:44 pm »
 :)  what am I supposed to say....  LOL!!!!!  If people are going to hang out in that type of environment, they must be well aware of the risks before they ever walk in the front door. :-*

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