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Offline RapidRod

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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #50 on: October 02, 2008, 09:54:57 am »
No CSW is going to use a condom that doesn't protect them and for all your other question reread the replies that you have already been given.

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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #51 on: October 02, 2008, 09:56:59 am »
Once again I would say you are worrying needlessly. Getting a blowjob is absolutely no risk for HIV transmission. No guy has ever been confirmed to have been infected in that way and you aren't going to make history by becoming the first.

Condoms were used for intercourse which is exactly what you are supposed to do. It's very likely that the fellow who provided the condom used latex. The other kind are substantially more expensive. Anyone hip enough to be using a condom is also likely to know that latex is the kind to use.

Remember that we do recommend that anyone who's sexually active ought to regularly have a completed STD panel done. That means at least annually. It's just a good precaution to follow.

This time I don't see any cause for concern nor for testing over any of the three incidents you have mentioned.
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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #52 on: October 02, 2008, 10:02:25 am »
Thanks guys.  I know that there is zero risk for getting a BJ and protected anal sex.  I am really just concerned about the condom used for the first guy.  I have never used a lambskin condom, and just don't know if they are basically the same as latex ones (minus the STD protection), or are they so drastically different that anyone should immediately know the difference?

This person wasn't a CSW.  I don't suspect that he has a reason to use anything but latex, but if he were to use lambskin, I guess it would be because of the heightened sensation for his receptive anal sex.

Thanks.


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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #53 on: October 02, 2008, 10:34:40 am »
good,

As a bottom myself, I can tell you that it doesn't make much difference to a bottom what condom is used. It mainly makes a difference to the top. Lambskin condoms are expensive and usually difficult to find and it's highly unlikely this guy would use them. You're worrying unnecessarily.

Did you ever seek counseling to sort out your feelings about your sex life? This isn't the place to do that.

Ann
« Last Edit: October 02, 2008, 10:36:18 am by Ann »
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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #54 on: October 02, 2008, 12:13:57 pm »
OK... Thanks.  Ann, I do not intend to seek help for those problems on this board.

I gather from what you are saying (rather what you are NOT saying), that I really would know beyond any doubt if a condom were of the lambskin variety - they really are that different?  And thus - since the condom was likely latex, I have absolutely no reason to even test (for HIV)?


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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #55 on: October 03, 2008, 09:42:58 am »
Can anyone tell me if using a lambskin condom is THAT noticeable from a latex one?  Are there any tell-tale signs (besides the se feeling "better") that would clue me into the material of a condom?

Thanks.

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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #56 on: October 03, 2008, 09:54:25 am »
good,

I have never used a lambskin condom and I don't know anyone who has, either. As I told you before, one, they are much more expensive than ordinary latex condoms. Two, they are hard to find. I've never seen a packet of lambskins on sale anywhere - other than at The Condomerie, which is a specialist condom shop in Amsterdam. If I remember correctly, they were much more opaque than latex or polyurethane. In other words, they were more whitish than latex.

What I'm trying to tell you is that this guy is more likely to have two dicks than he is to have lambskin condoms. It's a well-known fact that lambskin only protects against pregnancy and I'm quite sure any lambskin condoms would be clearly labeled as such. Why would he buy a more expensive option when it wouldn't even do the job he needs them for? You're worrying unnecessarily.

Please do not go on and on about this NO RISK situation.

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #57 on: October 06, 2008, 05:03:35 pm »
Thanks, everyone.  I was going on and on about the lambskin thing... All one needs to do is go to youtube and search for videos, and anyone who wants to see can see the clear difference between a naturalamb and a latex condom.  Are naturalamb condoms the ONLY natural membrane condom on the market these days?
I now feel like I would know if it wasn't a latex condom...

So to close this out - I got 3 unprotected bjs (one was rough), but that is absolutely, 100% not a risk for HIV.
I had 2 rounds of anal sex, where I was the insertive partner, and I wore condom that did not break - also absolutely, 10)% not a risk for HIV - right?

So I just have one final question for myself that I did not find answered outright in the lube info section...  If you use oil-based lube on a latex condom, is that a risk because it can make the latex just break, and you get the "fringed hula hoop" more easily?  Or is it that it breaks the condom down in a different way, where it is not effective even though the condom remains intact?

What I'm asking is if the condom doesn't outright break with an oil-based lube, does the presence of the oil-based lube itself afford less protection?

Not that I ever used oil-based lube - I'm just looking for the definitive answer.

Thanks everyone!


Offline goodguy

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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #58 on: October 07, 2008, 12:50:58 pm »
I was wondering if someone could answer...  Am I being TOTALLY irrational here?
Also, could someone answer the oil-based lube question?
I don't know if I'm way off base or not.

Thanks.


Offline RapidRod

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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #59 on: October 07, 2008, 01:11:13 pm »
If it didn't fail you weren't at risk.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #60 on: October 07, 2008, 01:41:22 pm »
It would have been very immediately apparent if the condom had failed. It's not a subtle event as you have been told before.

You need to let this go.
Andy Velez

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Re: Worried husband and dad
« Reply #61 on: October 07, 2008, 03:19:54 pm »
Thanks for your sound input.  So it is NOT like if you use oil-based lube, it could compromise the condom in other ways, making it less effective as HIV protection, while NOT breaking the condom outright?


 


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