oral and protected sex

[keon]

lately i have diarrhea just after 3 to 4 weeks ago when i have sex with a guy , is that one of the Ars symptoms , we deep kissing have oral sex where he perform more and a very rough one  , i believe my mouth health is fine when i do oral sex to him and he never cum in my mouth but i am not sure about his precum so if precum present will it post a risk , then we had protected anal sex where he bring the condom to me the thing is i am not sure weather is a expired or a low quality type , somehow the condom is still there and never break and when i take it off it still stick well on my penis , i have never see a condom break before  is it obvious to be notice . After that we just masterbate and finish the act .  What should i do now as i dont know about his status  at all .

[RapidRod]

You were never at risk of contracting HIV in the situations you've provided.

[Andy Velez]

The only confirmed risks for HIV transmission are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. As long as the insertive partner always wears a condom then both partners are well protected.

Other STDs are much easier to acquire so if you are sexually active it's a good idea to at least once a year have a full STD panel done.

As far as HIV is concerned you don't have to worry further about this recent incident nor is there any need for testing.

[keon]

Thank you , but yet i have another encounter it happen to be he was giving me an oral sex but i never blow him anyway , we have lots of stoking  including holding our penis together and masterbate ,   got one time he sat on top of me where his buttock is on top of my penis  ,   then  he grab and masterbate  my penis up and down and so do his body was moving up and down too  pretending to be like having  a penetration but we never have anal penetration throughout the act  ,  i believe my penis touches his outside anus a lot  will that be fine  , now im also worry that what if my penis head goes in a little into his anus anyway i suspect only  not too sure about that  , after that i ask him have my penis goes into his anus and he said no  ,but im just too worry that while he was stroking my penis up and down using his hand that time and when it was so near his anus....  what if my penis head  enter a little into his penis  i don't  know really  ,  may be im too suspicious and  what if matters ...but i do know how actual penetration feels like  ,  is just don't seems to be like this one around  but i am suspecting .  What do you think dear expert about this whole incident . Am i ok . Thanks

[Andy Velez]

Your penis rubbing against his anus, masturbation and all of the touching are NOT risks for HIV transmission.

I'm going to say it again and please read this: the only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected anal and vaginal intercourse. Everything else is theoretically risky but in the real world of HIV it's about unprotected intercourse.

Nothing you have done has put you at risk for HIV.

Other STDs are easier to acquire so we do recommend that anyone who is sexually active ought to regularly have a full STD panel done. That means at least once a year.

[keon]

Im sorry again , i keep on thinking and worrying that just what if my penis head did went in a little or a little more into his anus while he was masterbating my penis near his anus with his hand that i dont really notice .   Am i on high risk 

[Andy Velez]

Penetration feels quite different than rubbing. I believe you would have known if you had penetrated him.

If you can't stop with what ifs and worrying, there is a simple solution. Get tested and collect the inevitable negative result. You will have to decide if you need to do that to move on with your life.

[keon]

Recently i have some headache with chilling in bones and a fever is that a symptoms of HIV , im getting more worry lately..i just dont know what else i should do .
Sorry May i know that have you guys here ever get to know that someone else who has the same exposure like mine become infected .
Am i at high risk ? Scared here .

[Andy Velez]

Are you actually reading and taking in the responses you've received? It doesn't seem so. Rather everytime you have a new burst of unwarranted fear you panic and write in as if nothing had been said to you previously.

I've already told you that nothing you did put you at risk for transmission. I also told you that if you can't let go of this baseless concern then get tested and collect the inevitable negative result.

Whatever is causing your symptoms has nothing to do with HIV. If they persist you should discuss them with your doctor.

If you continue to return here about the same risk incident you are going to find yourself getting a 28 day Time Out from the site. HIV is not your problem. Period.

[keon]

Sorry Andy i didn't mean to ask a lot , i was too worry about "what if" really did happen . I have decided to go test . Hope that i will be ok . Anyway thanks a lot for the help here .

[Andy Velez]

Good. In your case it seems you won't feel ok until you get tested and receive your negative result. Based on what you have reported I certainly expect your result will be just that: negative.

[keon]

hi Andy , after 5 weeks plus another 4 days i guess is around almost 6 weeks time so i took the oralquick test because i feel like i can't wait any longer and the result came back negative . Will that be ok , do i still need to take another test later on ?

[Ann]

Keon,

As you did NOT have a risk for hiv infection, you do not need further testing over this incident. You do NOT have hiv. You are hiv negative.

Protect your hiv negative status by using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will continue to avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple! Read through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use the correctly and with confidence.

Ann