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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: curiousguy on November 27, 2008, 03:30:32 pm
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Hii I may be the most stupid person on this earth. 3 days ago I met a 'working girl' in other words an escort in a pub. After a drink or two she asked me if i would like to come to her house. And like a stupid I went. We had protected vaginal intercourse, before climax i removed my penis but I saw it was bit slipped but still covering my glans penis and later she said she will give be a blowjob without condom I said i wanted with a condom but she said that she was clean and since i was under influence of drink I let her do the job without a condom Now I am scared and running on mild fever of 99.2 F
Am I infected because of this incident Please Help I am so scared I read on a medical website that people can contract HIV because of Oral without Condom
Please Help
I just cant concentrate on anything
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Curious
Nothing you have described has put you at ris for HIV, protected sex is just that ..protected.
There are no documented cases of anyone becoming HIV+ from having oral sex, so you have no need to worry about this incident, please read the Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=220.0) on how HIV is and isn't transmitted.
You did the right thing using condoms so continue to use them for vaginal/anal sex and you will be fine, just remember condoms at all times..NO EXCEPTIONS.
Please refrain from using the the word "Clean" when asking for advise it is considered disrespectful towards those of us who are living with HIV..thank you.
Jan
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Yeah I will make sure not to use that word again
I sincerely apologise for the same
But what about the fever ???
I dont have any symptoms of Genital warts or Herpes
Then why i am running on fever
Please advice
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See your doctor. Your fever is NOT and HIV concern.
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Curious,
As you've been told, nothing you did was a risk for hiv infection. As for your fever, we're right in the middle of cold and flu season and there's plenty of bugs going around at the moment. If you feel unwell, see a doctor. It's nothing to do with hiv as you didn't have a risk.
Along with reading the Transmission Lesson linked to in our Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=220.0), here's what you need to know in order to remain hiv negative:
You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever. You need to be using condoms no matter who you're having intercourse with - not just sex workers.
Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.
ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SPECIFIC INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.
If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.
Ann
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JUST ONE MORE QUERY
A friend of mine told that sexual fluids get exchanged between male and female only when they climax
Is it true ???
when does sexual fludis get exchanged between two individuals
And also is a bit slipped condom a sign of broken condom ???
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curious,
No, your friend is wrong. Sexual fluids get exchanged when people have unprotected intercourse.
A slipped condom is not a broken condom, it is a condom that is too big for your penis. As long as it remains covering the head of your penis, you're protected. Have you checked out the condom and lube links in my signature line like I asked you to? If not, get reading.
You didn't have a risk for hiv infection.
Ann
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Hi
I just went through the sypmtoms of HIV and I just got a bit confused
They say fever is a sypmtom of HIV
Can you tell me exactly how much temperature in degree F should a person suffer from ????
And is swollen glands a necessary symptom for HIV ?
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You didn't have a risk so your symptoms has nothing to do with HIV.
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Curious, are you listening? It doesn't seem so. You've been repeatedly told that you weren't at risk and all you do is come back with more questions about symptoms. And all totally irrelevant.
You did not have a risk. If you have persistently troublesome symptoms you should discuss them with your doctor. They have nothing to do with HIV.
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HII GUYS
SORRY TO DISTURB YOU AGAIN BUT I HAVE SOME DOUBTS REGARDING HIV
I JUST READ IN A JOURNAL THAT REPEATED EXPOSURE TO HIV PUTS TO YOU AT MORE RISK OF HIV THAN A SINGLE ONE. AND IF YOU HAVE SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME IT IS LESS LIKELY TO ACQUIRE INFECION AND THAT MALE TO FEMALE TRANSMISSION IS HIGH COMPARED TO FEMALE TO MALE
IS IT RIGHT ???
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SORRY BUT FORGOT IN THE LAST POST
ONE MORE THING IS THAT A FREIND OF MINE SAID THAT IF YOU DONT DEVELOP ANY SYMPTOMS OF HIV WITHIN TWO WEEKS OF EXPOSURE THEN YOU ARE NOT AT RISK OF HIV
IS IT TRUE ???
I AM QUITE IMMATURE IN THIS MATTER
SO I WOULD BE GRATEFUL IF YOU GUYS HELP ME OUT IN THIS
I SINCERELY APOLOGISE FOR BOTHERING YOU GUYS
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Your friend is totally wrong. Some people like myself never had symptoms.
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Hi,
First of all, please don't write all in caps. We can pay attention to you without your doing that. All caps is considered to be the rude equivalent of shouting.
OK. Now to your questions. Some people never develop noticeable symptoms after an exposure to HIV. So neither the presence nor the absence of symptoms should ever be taken as how to know your HIV status. If you have had unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse, (which are the only real risks for transmission sexually), the only way to know your HIV status is to get tested at 13 weeks past the most recent such incident.
As for repeated sex incidents as compared to a single incident, it's UNPROTECTED that matters, no matter how many or how few times. I've known someone who became infected after a single exposure and others who had many before becoming infected. Best of all is to consistently wear condoms for intercourse because then you are well protected.
Cheers.
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Hii
First of all I appologise for writing in caps last time
Ok I know what you told me about HIV
From last week I am suffering from fever only its like 99.3 F max (when meausred orally) but then suddenly drops to 97.7F min (again measured orally) without medicine
I went to my doctor and he said that I am perfectly healthy and then later on I narrated what happened to me
He said that I may possibly acquire HIV infection and that chances are 1/1000
Please tell me what should I do
This was first experience and I am so scared about this
And yeah for condoms I just read that a condoms breaks only when you have intercourse for more than 30 mins and that chances of condom breaking is less if its woman on top poisition
Is all these information true ???
Please help !!!!
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Your doctor gave you incorrect information. You had protected sex. You do not contract HIV from correctly and consistently used condoms. Condoms fail when they are not used correctly "User Error."
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Just keep always using latex condoms everytime for intercourse and you will be well protected against HIV. I've never known of either the length of intercourse or the position of the woman to make a difference in terms of condom breakage. It does happen from time to time, but generally speaking latex condoms are durable and do the job if put on properly. If you need to practice a few times with just putting them on by yourself then do that.
As long as you always use condoms for intercourse you don't have to worry about getting HIV sexually. Forget about those nonsense statistiscs from your doctor. Just use condoms and you'll be ok.
Cheers.
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Hii
I am sorry to bother you again
But I really cant concentrate on anything
My fever is just not letting me live
I consulted three health care workers and nobody has assured me that I am safe
My question is can a fever which becomes normal on its own without any medicine be a concern when it comes to HIV ???
I had protected vaginal interocurse which lasted 4-5 mins and an unprotected blowjob
Did I made a stupidity of which I will have to suffer for the remining of my life ??
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What part of "you didn't have a risk" is it that you don't understand? See your doctor for your flu symptoms they have nothing to do with HIV.
Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.
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Curious,
99.3F isn't much of a fever. It's a slightly elevated body temperature. Nothing more, nothing less.
You didn't have a risk. As Rodney pointed out, if you keep posting about this no risk event, you'll be given a time out.
Ann
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HII
Just one query and again apologises to bother you again
What are the chances of HIV transmission from female to male when a condom is torn ??
I read that it is bit difficult for HIV transmission to take place in such a case
Is it true ???
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Are you referring to the same incident again? Because you have not previously mentioned "a torn condom." Did you actually have an incident in which your condom broke?
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No not about the same incident during mine it was not torn
I was talking to a friend of mine and he said that during his incident the condom was torn but he did not contract HIV even though the female was positive and he showed me an article in which it was written about torn condoms
So i really got confused and baffled about HIV transmission
At some places it is written that a HIV transmission from female to male is less and in some its written the other way. In this torn condoms it was written what i asked
So i just popped out the question to clear my doubts
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This is the last time, you weren't at risk. You are on the verge of getting a time out.
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Quit "popping.! We responded to your situation. We're not here for you to bring up just any other HIV-related question that pops up for you. We deal with specific details of specific incidents, no hearsay and what your friend said or whatever.
You need to move on with your life. Just always use condoms for intercourse and you will be well protected as far as HIV transmission is concerned. And finally, there is absolutely no question that HIV is more easily transmitted from male to female during intercourse rather than the other way around. Any article that says otherwise is incorrect.
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I dont know where to start but I have been cheated upon by my live-in partner. A month back she was on her business tour and she had a one night stand with a guy she met in a pub. I came to know about this a week ago. Of recent she is showing flu like symtoms and I probably had 3 times unprotected sex with her last month. Now I am scared. Can you please advise me what are the chance of me getting HIV infection ???? :'(
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Curious,
I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.
If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.
Please also read through the Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=220.0) so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.
If your partner had protected intercourse, then you're worrying over nothing. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection.
If she had unprotected intercourse, then she needs to test at three month past this incident and the two of you need to be using condoms until you know her hiv status. You don't need to test unless she tests positive.
Just because she has flu-like symptoms doesn't mean she's been infected. Symptoms or the lack of symptoms mean nothing where hiv is concerned. You should know that from your previous time here - and that's part of why we insist on you using your original thread no matter if it's a different concern or not. This way we can see exactly what you've already been told so we don't have to repeat ourselves ad nauseum.
Again, if she and this bar person used a condom, then she had no risk and you're worrying unnecessarily. If she had unprotected intercourse, then she needs to test. You only need to test if she tests positive.
Ann
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I asked her she said she was drunk and had unprotected. i would like to know what are my chances if she is tested positive ?
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HIV is not a guessing game. The only way to know your status is by testing.
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ok after how many days i need to get myself checked and what if i get tested as positive what should be my first course of actions
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You're way jumping ahead on this situation. It's significantly more difficult to transmit HIV from woman to man than the other way around. So the odds are in your favor that you're going to test negative.
Ultimately you need to test at 13 weeks.
However, judging by your past entries, I expect you will want to test sooner. The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. All but the smallest number of those who are going to seroconvert will do so within 4-6 weeks after an exposure. So test at 6 weeks. Assuming you get the negative result I expect, you will almost certainly continue to test negative.
Meanwhile get busy with other things in your life and the waiting time will pass more quickly than you may think possible at this moment.
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Hey guys this is getting on my nerves unfortunately my partner has been tested positive ... I don't want to leave her I really love her but now I am under constant fear of HIV .. What are the chances of me getting infection from her ??? .. What should be my next course of actions ?
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Yes, get tested. And make sure that everytime you have intercourse you are wearing a condom. No exceptions. Whomever you are with.
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I Know that it is important to get tested. However before getting tested I would like to know what are my chances of getting infected ? I just read on a particular website that its difficult to transmit hiv from woman to man and that the chances are 1/300th for a infection to take place. Is it true ? Are there any slim chances that I might escape from the infection ?
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Curious,
You have a very good chance of testing negative. I was with someone for eighteen months before I was diagnosed. We never used condoms during that time yet he tested negative and he's hiv negative to this day. We stayed together for around seven years after my diagnosis. We used condoms for the rest of the relationship and he's fine - and hiv negative.
Just go test and get it over with. You will not be permitted to use this forum to wring your hands over your inability to go test. I don't expect to see you post again until you're here to report your results.
Ann
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Thanks for the encouragement I shall only come back with my reports