Need your advise.

[Angelvera]

Hi, am a kind of worried about settling down. Is it wise for a positive lady to marry a negative guy?

[Lightfighter]

Yes.

I'm poz and my wife is negative.  We've studied the reasesrch and are monogamous and have unprotected sex.  My condition is little more than an extra two pills in the morning and a dr visit twice a year.

Look up Dr Gallant.  He speaks about this through his Tumblr blog often.  The info is out there from the PARTNER study as well.  Both of you research it together so he or she will know for themselves and are informed.

No reason to not live a normal life. 

[CaveyUK]

I have a neg girlfriend.

We know so much more about transmission risk than we did years ago. With long term UD status, the risk of transmission is negligible - even without condoms - and the risk is already fairly modest from female to male transmission, so it is not something you should avoid at all.

The tricky bit relates to disclosure and swerving around the stigma thing whilst dating, but it is more than do-able. There are a huge number of people (gay and straight) in sero-discordant loving relationships.

[Almost2late]

Hi Angelvera, and welcome..

It's no different from a negative girl settling down with a negative guy, as long as he knows and he's cool with it and your on meds, I don't see any issues.. I'm positive and my lady is negative and most importantly we love each other very much Be happy with whomever makes you happy.

[Angelvera]

Thank you so much for your answers, am now relieved.

[Jim Allen]

Hi, am a kind of worried about settling down. Is it wise for a positive lady to marry a negative guy?

In what sense ?
Your status is no barrier to getting married or leading a normal healthy life with treatment. 

If you mean as in sex, well TaSP (Treatment as prevention) is pretty fantastic.
Its an excellent strategy/tool at reducing the chance of a HIV positive person from transmitting HIV.

There are a few if's and but's however end of the day however it whatever you both are comfortable with as a couple.  It puts trust on the HIV positive person to take medication, be adherent and remain UD so its not something I could tell a HIV negative person as example to trust blindly.

The theory on TaSP is that if the medication suppresses the virus to a level called UD than the transmission risk is negligible. The current consensus statement explains this nicely following the HPTN 052 end report (IAS 2015) and the Partner study:

http://www.preventionaccess.org/consensus

People living with HIV on ART with an undetectable viral load in their blood have a negligible risk of sexual transmission of HIV.  Depending on the drugs employed it may take as long as six months for the viral load to become undetectable. Continued and reliable HIV suppression requires selection of appropriate agents and excellent adherence to treatment. HIV viral suppression should be monitored to assure both personal health and public health benefits.

NOTE:   An undetectable HIV viral load only prevents HIV transmission to sexual partners. Condoms also help prevent HIV transmission as well as other STIs and pregnancy. The choice of HIV prevention method may be different depending upon a person’s sexual practices, circumstances and relationships. For instance, if someone is having sex with multiple partners or in a non-monogamous relationship, they might consider using condoms to prevent other STIs.
 
“NEGLIGIBLE” = so small or unimportant as to be not worth considering; insignificant.

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[Tonny2]

      ojo       Hello there...yes, if you are ready to tight the knot and he is aware of your status, marry him...take the guy with you to your doctor's appoinments, learn how to protect yourselves and voila...hoping to get an invitation on the mail...best of luck...hugs for both of you                                                                            ojo