What are my chances?

[LostNWorld]

I am a female who decided wrong. I meet someone online and decided to explore. My gut had a knot knowing it was wrong and all signs said that male was shady. But I did it anyway. So here it goes. Please if I can be reassured and calmed I appreciate it greatly!!

It was Jan 5 2013. We met, applied a condom, started vaginal sex doggy style. He pulled out mid activity and the condom was broken at the tip. Not just a little but ripped from the top down to mid shaft. Once I seen it was basically destroyed, I got dressed and sat there worried asking all kinds of questions. His answer was negative for everything that he had been recently tested. (Negative result). The following week I tested full panel. My result was negative. The next week (2 weeks from exposure) I noticed a terrible burning in my vagina. Went back to he MD it was a yeast infection   (gynozole) was givin. In the 3 rd week I developed thrush which hasn't left yet and I am 75 days from exposure. I have these weird headaches that won't subside. (From day 60 to present). On day 68 I did a finger prick test with instant result of negative. I have an appointment for the 13 week PE to get a confirmed answer.

 But my question is if 60 days looks negative why do I have thrush/headache? Which is not normal for me. Never had thrush. Am I wrong to worry?

Please help... I am a wife (another discussion in another forum) & a mother. How do I protect them from me. Plus I can't avoid my husband for much longer, he is getting bitchy due to lack of sex... There is no way I can tell him I would rather kill myself if I am positive!

Sorry my time line was off I tested on 2/7/13(-). Then from that day the events continue.

[jkinatl2]

While yo did have a risk, it seems that your tests are showing great results. Few people seroconvert past 60 days, though I am obliged to inform you that only a 90 day result is considered globally definitive.

Surely there are other ways to keep your husband occupied in the bedroom for just another 20 days?

But from here, it looks like you got through this without HIV transmission.

[Ann]

Lost,

I quoted your second post and inserted it into your original post, and then deleted the second post. I did this so that you still have two free posts (use them wisely). If you want/need to post more than three times, you'll have to take out a subscription. (Details of how to do so are in the top thread on the Am I Infected forum index page.)




Yeast and thrush are two names for the same condition - an overgrowth of a fungus called Candida albicans. We all have C. albicans in and on our bodies at all times. We also have good bacteria in and on our bodies at all times and these good bacteria keep C. albicans in check.

Various things can throw this delicate balance off. The most notorious culprit is antibiotic use, because most antibiotics also kill off the good bacteria that is beneficial to our bodies. Keeping C. albicans in check is only one of the duties they perform for us.

A poor diet (lots of sugar, breads, beer, processed foods etc) can also at times throw this balance off, particularly if you're stressed out about something. Mental stress can really do a number on your physical health in many ways. (Like giving you headaches, for example.)

Continually wearing synthetic panties instead of cotton, particularly if you're wearing synthetics under tight jeans or pants, can also cause thrush and make it difficult to get rid of.

Vaginal thrush can be sexually transmitted, but sexual transmission is by no means the main cause.

You should go back to your doctor to obtain further treatment for the thrush because if you don't get rid of it completely, it's possible for your husband and you to keep passing it back and forth between you.

Most women will get a vaginal thrush infection at some point in their lives, and in most cases it's just "one of them things" and very often tied to antibiotic use. You can always explain to your husband that you have a vaginal infection that is very common (it is) and that until the thrush is cleared up, vaginal sex is off the menu. As JK mentioned, there are other things you can do to keep him satisfied in the mean time.

As for your hiv testing, I totally agree with JK that you're very, very likely in the clear.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks (42 days), with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week (or more) negative is highly unlikely to change, but must be confirmed at the three month point. You should be very confident that your confirmatory test at your next appointment will be another negative.

By the way, if your doctor hasn't already, you may want to be checked out for bacterial vaginosis. I'm suggesting this because you haven't had a good response to the thrush treatment. Sometimes one can be mistaken for the other. Bacterial vaginosis isn't always sexually transmitted either - it can be caused by something as simple as wiping from back to front after a bowel movement.

So the bottom line here is - you are very unlikely to be hiv positive following the negative results you've had thus far. However, you do need to get to the bottom of the vaginal infection and get it properly treated. Don't leave it, go see your doctor about it asap.

And hey, don't beat yourself up over making a bad decision. We all do it - it's called "being human".

Ann

[LostNWorld]

I am a female who decided wrong. I meet someone online and decided to explore. My gut had a knot knowing it was wrong and all signs said that male was shady. But I did it anyway. So here it goes. Please if I can be reassured and calmed I appreciate it greatly!!

It was Jan 5 2013. We met, applied a condom, started vaginal sex doggy style. He pulled out mid activity and the condom was broken at the tip. Not just a little but ripped from the top down to mid shaft. Once I seen it was basically destroyed, I got dressed and sat there worried asking all kinds of questions. His answer was negative for everything that he had been recently tested. (Negative result). The following week I tested full panel. My result was negative. The next week (2 weeks from exposure) I noticed a terrible burning in my vagina. Went back to he MD it was a yeast infection   (gynozole) was givin. In the 3 rd week I developed thrush which hasn't left yet and I am 75 days from exposure. I have these weird headaches that won't subside. (From day 60 to present). On day 68 I did a finger prick test with instant result of negative. I have an appointment for the 13 week PE to get a confirmed answer.

 But my question is if 60 days looks negative why do I have thrush/headache? Which is not normal for me. Never had thrush. Am I wrong to worry?

Please help... I am a wife (another discussion in another forum) & a mother. How do I protect them from me. Plus I can't avoid my husband for much longer, he is getting bitchy due to lack of sex... There is no way I can tell him I would rather kill myself if I am positive!

Thanks for your replies!

The thrush is in my mouth only the vagina has cleared. I have done the oral nystatin and fluconazole tabs. It will not go away.. I get panic attacks very often!! I don't want to touch my husband. I think it's safer that way he can be here to take care of the kids. 

[Ann]

Lost,

Has this "oral thrush" actually been diagnosed by a doctor? And by diagnosed, I don't mean just by looking, I mean by taking a swab to have tests run on it. If Nystatin didn't do anything for it, it probably isn't thrush. Most people get a white coating on their tongue at some point in their lives, particularly smokers and/or if you eat/drink a lot of dairy products.

Also, if what is on your tongue doesn't hurt like hell, it probably isn't thrush. Every single time I've had oral thrush, hot food, spicy food, carbonated beverages, alcoholic beverages (just to name a few things) hurt to put on your tongue. And I mean HURT.

And by the way, I hope you realise that suggesting you'd be better off dead than to have to face up to hiv is very demeaning to those of us who live - thrive, even - with hiv every day of our lives.

You are extremely unlikely to go on to test hiv positive following your negative results so far. Whatever is going on in your mouth has nothing to do with hiv.

Ann