Unprotected anal (bottom) and unprotected oral

[Swimmingdonner]

Hi

First of all thanks for this great community and forum, so much information and helpful people.

I feel very silly to say the least. 2 weeks ago I had an encounter with a transsexual (top). It was very out of character of me but she contacted me through an online ts/tv dating/sex work website and told me she wanted to top me. She has been in porn movies btw, and is a sex worker from what I can see on her profile. Not that it matters, I'm in London.

We started off with unprotected oral, both ways. Then she rimmed me and lubed me up, and slowly topped me. This was  the first time I've received without a condom, she was very gentle and careful...  Using a combination of spit and lube. I know it was stupid of me and I regret it but she insisted she would put the condom on later but never did. I did not allow her to cum inside, instead on my chest. Once she had finished, I topped her, unprotected... For a short while but did not cum. When I got home, I was a little sore and there was a small small bit of blood on my anus.

As it's only been 2 weeks, is this too early for a test? I have booked one for later anyway at a clinic in London.

Appreciate any help or advice and will never be doing this again.

[RapidRod]

You put yourself at risk by having unprotected anal sex. You can obtain your conclusive negative test result 3 months post exposure.

[Ann]

Swim,

The earliest you should test is at six weeks. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point, but is highly unlikely to change.

The only thing a two week test will tell you is what your hiv status was six weeks ago.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

[Swimmingdonner]

Thanks for your replies. Got the rapid test done today and tested negative. Also had a couple of blood samples sent off for testing, I'll be back for testing in 2-3 weeks as the dr suggested. Fingers crossed.

[Jeff G]

Thanks for your replies. Got the rapid test done today and tested negative. Also had a couple of blood samples sent off for testing, I'll be back for testing in 2-3 weeks as the dr suggested. Fingers crossed.

As Ann and Rod advised already . Its too early to test . The earliest you should test is at six weeks. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point, but is highly unlikely to change.

The only thing a two week test will tell you is what your hiv status was six weeks ago.

[Swimmingdonner]

I got tested again (roughly 6 weeks since the intercourse), which has shown as all clear. I will get tested again in 2 months time to confirm I am negative.

[Ann]

Swim,

Good news. Your six week negative is highly unlikely to change - but you must confirm that in another six weeks time. You don't have to wait two months, six weeks will do (for a total of twelve weeks since the incident).

Please, please learn from this and start insisting on condoms. Don't let this negative result make you feel invincible - the more you engage in risky behaviour, the more likely it becomes that you'll be unlucky. It only takes once, after all, and I've lost count of the people who got caught out after only one lapse of reason. Don't let that be you.

Ann