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Title: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 09, 2010, 01:42:47 am
so, i have a date for tomorrow night. and it is date number 3. backgammon, gears of war 2 and true blood. food will be provided by farmer boys. late night walk included : )

best,
d
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: fearless on July 09, 2010, 03:39:36 am
good luck. hope you get something more than a game of backgammon and video game.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Ann on July 09, 2010, 08:19:48 am
Farmer boys? Please explain to the uninitiated.

I hope this guy treats you better than the last one. Have fun!

Oh, and beat his ass at backgammon. I love that game.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 10, 2010, 04:46:56 am
thanks. i hope this works out too. he's gonna teach me how to play backgammon and i'm looking forward to it and other things too. unfortunately,  he wasn't able to make it tonight  :-[

but we talked a few times on the phone and we're scheduling something for some time soon.

best,
d
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 10, 2010, 12:55:03 pm
Farmer boys? Please explain to the uninitiated.
 

I think that's a brand name for the poppers he'll be using.  I thiink.... not sure though, but sometimes when I guess I am correct.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 10, 2010, 01:04:09 pm
im sorry, i was so toasted last night when i posted i didnt address that. its a local drive thru that serves awesome food.

http://www.farmerboys.com/

he's never been so i offered to take him. i love their chicken anything, lol. yeah, and another lil problem has kinda emerged. i havent told him about my extracurricular smoking activities yet. and i think i've been pretty faded on every date. and maybe half of the times we've talked. he hasn't noticed : )

lol, the first time he came over (our second date) it was kind of a surprise. i was supposed to roll to his pad but those plans were cancelled. instead he offered to come here. i was really stoned during this conversation (as in i just killed a fat bowl of amnesia haze) and as he said the words i turned around and looked at my destroyed living room. i tried to figure out how the hell i was supposed to clean my apt in 2 hours. i got it worked out though.

it didnt matter in the end, he was happy to see me and didnt really care how my apt looked (i cleaned it with a quickness and efficiency a protestant would admire).

and i need to take mtd's advice about drunk posting.

enjoy your weekend.

best,
d
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Queen Tokelove on July 10, 2010, 01:34:43 pm
LOL, does that mean you stuffed everything in the closet til he left? That's the quickest way to clean an apartment when you have company. And I am sure he knew you were high as hell especially if he doesn't smoke. Non-smokers have noses like freaking bloodhounds... ;) I hope he is able to accept it. Anyhoo, good luck with this one, I hope he has waaaay less baggage than the last one and is stable.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 10, 2010, 02:57:46 pm
hello QT,

lol...i have no idea if he knows. i smoked hours before he came over...well maybe an hour (had to maintain...ya know?). and yeah, those non pot smokers can smell us after a fresh bowl.

i spent july 4th with mom. before picking her up i smoked a phat bowl in my car. rolled the windows down and sprayed some body spray in the car...lol. i mean, she knows. and i knew it would be a while before i could smoke again. fuck it, might as well.

midway through my 2nd date with dude i was trying to figure out how i could stealth toke a bowl. i couldnt figure out an easy way (suggestions anyone?) so i didnt. i think the truth needs to come out. i have a feeling dude will be okay with it...i am legal afterall : )

i dunno if he is more stable...we are still getting to know each other. when we met he had a roommate and an apt in los angeles. he has a job (full time), his field involves technology (maybe a tech for some company), has a car and seems to like me. he's also cuban, a few years older and has a good relationship with his family. plus we both have a strong penchant for star trek...go figure.

best,
d
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Miss Philicia on July 10, 2010, 03:03:36 pm
If you can't make it through a date without weed you might have a problem. 
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Ann on July 10, 2010, 03:08:45 pm
D, you need to get a one-hit bat. We used to get away with smoking in study hall with one of those.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 10, 2010, 03:17:11 pm
@ miss p - i did make it through the date without smoking. but the date was on one of my smoking days ...aka the weekend. sun-thurs i do not usually smoke. some weekends (most weekends, especially during summer) i do. and, mind u, i am legal. on the weekends it is usually on and cracking my luv.

@ ann - it would have to be a big bat. i'm not sure if it's the pleasant smell or the giggles that usually give me away : )
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 10, 2010, 03:19:00 pm
miss p - u did see he was cuban...right? aren't you suffering through a heat wave? shouldnt you be posting pics of the hot sweaty men lingering outside your door? walking aimlessly down the street scantily dressed in that oppressive weather?
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 10, 2010, 05:29:30 pm
so, today's the day. he's coming down. and what do you know, i'm stoned again. so i'll let him know about the bud...third date and all rules. i hope we'll end up playing lots of good video and board games : )

best,
d
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Hellraiser on July 10, 2010, 05:54:54 pm
so, today's the day. he's coming down. and what do you know, i'm stoned again. so i'll let him know about the bud...third date and all rules. i hope we'll end up playing lots of good video and board games : )

best,
d

Most people don't really care about weed D.  As a non pot smoker I don't really care if someone does smoke pot, although I draw the line at someone who smokes on a daily basis.  I see it as a negative trait but not a deal breaker.  Hope he takes it well, also out of curiosity have you told him you're poz?
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Miss Philicia on July 10, 2010, 06:28:40 pm
I don't care about weed smokers in terms of dating either, but I have dated (or tried) those that smoke it too much and need it.  It just gets old, like the boozer or pill popper (of which, of course, I'm one... pills that is).  However, I'd never go on a date zonked out on sedatives.  Ever.  But my larger point is that it's not cool to be zonked out when they arrive, whatever your choice of substance.  If you want to get drunk together or get stoned together then that's totally cool, as it's a mutual agreement.  If someone was fucked up on the first date I might still trick with them (and have in such a situation) but I won't consider dating them seriously after that.  A proper lady simply must have standards!
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: BT65 on July 10, 2010, 06:58:43 pm
A proper lady simply must have standards!

Here, here.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: mecch on July 10, 2010, 07:31:52 pm
Assumez vous your stonerness alors.
But i agree, a lady shouldn't be ripped before a date, only during or after.  Little fineries in life count.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 11, 2010, 11:33:17 pm
lol...yeah...i hear that. don't want to catch a ravenous case of the munchies on the first date.

things went well. he knows im poz. he knows i smoke pot. and i smoked it around him...all this weekend ;)

he's cool with it.  and we have a future date planned.

hope you all are having a good one as well.

best,
d
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Hellraiser on July 11, 2010, 11:53:30 pm
lol...yeah...i hear that. don't want to catch a ravenous case of the munchies on the first date.

things went well. he knows im poz. he knows i smoke pot. and i smoked it around him...all this weekend ;)

he's cool with it.  and we have a future date planned.

hope you all are having a good one as well.

best,
d

Glad it's all working out for you D.  I really hope this guy treats you better than the previous one, you deserve it.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 12, 2010, 09:29:16 am


  Amnesia Haze??  Are you close to Riverside?  I'm going to have to make a trip out to Cali soon.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Cliff on July 12, 2010, 10:16:05 am
Glad the dates went ok.  Dating and getting to know someone is exciting!  Enjoy it and take things slow. 
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Queen Tokelove on July 12, 2010, 02:51:54 pm
Hot damn!!! I am glad things worked out for you and this dude so far. He has scored a point for being a Trekkie. And I never knew you were one. I am also glad that he accepts you for being a toker. Now excuse me while I hijack your thread for a few seconds......

Ms. P and I think it was Hellraiser, if I am wrong Hellraiser, I will apologize now. I am just too lazy to go quoting and see who says what. Now what is so wrong with a toker who smokes on a daily? I don't see a problem with that as long as you are functioning and not selling your shit to get high.If anything a toker is going to make sure they have plenty of food in the crib... ;) And other than meth, weed is a habit cheaper to maintain than a few others I can think of. And what is wrong with being high before a date? For one, it prolly calms down those butterflies D or anyone else might have on a first date or make a dinner conversation more interesting.

I am not trying to start an arguement both of you should know that. But for as many bad things you can say about it, I can come up with just as many good things. Plus y'all know any thread that mentions weed, I am going to say something.


D, Happy for you babe. You deserve some happiness. :-*
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Miss Philicia on July 12, 2010, 03:08:39 pm
If you want to suck on the end of a bong all day, every day more power to you sweetpea.  I still don't want to date you.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 12, 2010, 03:33:58 pm


   Throw that head back and exhale in confidence D

    (http://i181.photobucket.com/albums/x87/nitr3/funnypicfarm/weed/fpfweed2.png)
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 12, 2010, 10:21:15 pm


   You could always make yourself some Green Dragon (ftp://Green Dragon) for those times when you can't grab a quick hit.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Queen Tokelove on July 12, 2010, 10:28:05 pm
If you want to suck on the end of a bong all day, every day more power to you sweetpea.  I still don't want to date you.

You wouldn't want to date me even if I wasn't toking, Miss Thing. I don't have the right package. Bong? I am from the hood, we smoke blunts or wraps, darling. Though I have tried a bong in the past. It's too much like sucking a dick. And there's a time and a place for that.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 12, 2010, 10:49:30 pm
Bong? I am from the hood, we smoke blunts or wraps, darling. Though I have tried a bong in the past.

Plus it makes the weed tasteless.  I smoke mine the old fashion way like this:

(http://www.friendsofcannabis.com/directory/images/stories/m/bob-marley-spliff.jpg)

My preferred way though would be to smoke it in fresh frontle leaf, but that's only available in Jamaican stores in Miami.  Hey D, it seems like you have a variety available to you.  Go easy on the Haze strains, I always found them to cause paranoia and anxiety when used over a long period of time.  IMO it's not good for casual use. Treat yourself to some White Widow sometime, and go easy... noob.


Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Miss Philicia on July 12, 2010, 10:55:04 pm
If you're going to smoke daily you should use a bong.  Even I know that much.

btw, I was a daily smoker for a year in college, until I graduated to acid and coke.  Grass is SO amateur.  And I was so coked up the night I snagged butt flu.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Matty the Damned on July 12, 2010, 10:56:12 pm
If you're going to smoke daily you should use a bong.  Even I know that much.

btw, I was a daily smoker for a year in college, until I graduated to acid and coke.  Grass is SO amateur.

Bongs are the only way to go.

MtD
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 12, 2010, 11:04:52 pm
 Grass is SO amateur. 

Heh, not the strains he's playin with.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Miss Philicia on July 12, 2010, 11:11:24 pm
Heh, not the strains he's playin with.

That's cuz it's dipped in dust.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 12, 2010, 11:20:27 pm
That's cuz it's dipped in dust.

LMAO...  No no no he's smoking geek joints.. lol
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 13, 2010, 01:42:05 am
damn potheads...lol
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Queen Tokelove on July 13, 2010, 02:23:36 pm
damn potheads...lol

Hehe, what did you expect? We're true to this not new to it, Skee and I that is. And who, Miss P says that if you're a daily smoker it should be in bongs? Skee, I have the hardest time rolling with leafs cause I always end up ripping them. Do they still give the weed names over there in Miami? I use to get a kick out of that. I was watching Drug Inc last night which was talking about all drugs but you know I perked up when they got to talking about trees.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 13, 2010, 02:32:57 pm
Do they still give the weed names over there in Miami?

LMAO- you know it sweetheart!! All of them: Budah, Confidential, 100%, and Mr. Sense still live on!! 
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Ann on July 13, 2010, 02:38:40 pm
And who, Miss P says that if you're a daily smoker it should be in bongs?

The cooler the smoke, the less damage to your lungs.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 13, 2010, 02:49:20 pm
The cooler the smoke, the less damage to your lungs.

I'm on board with it, you are right.  It's just I can't feel anything when I smoke from a bong, chalice, or pipe.  I find I get more flavor and effect when I role in a cone or paper.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Cliff on July 13, 2010, 03:27:22 pm
Dating is like an interview.  You wanna put your best foot forward.  Getting high before an interview doesn't sound like a good idea; neither does before a date.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 13, 2010, 03:50:06 pm
Dating is like an interview.  You wanna put your best foot forward.  Getting high before an interview doesn't sound like a good idea; neither does before a date.

It always worked for me though, guess because I've been smoking since 7, maybe?

Honesty though D, weed really makes one lose their ambition.  And I'll tell ya, 41 years went by awfully fast.  In moderation weed is a nice treat.  If your smoking daily and are waking up to it, it's a problem.  I'll even go so far as saying it can cause one to become Bipolar, which I think might be a problem in my case although I won't go see anyone to be sure of that.  I was a very heavy user at one time. 

I've had to cut back and by January I need to quit altogether in order to be considered for the RN program next Summer.  While HIV has played a part in me reconstructing my life (career wise), weed has played a part in this as well.

We don't really see it, but it makes us selfish.  And this is why you chose to smoke before a date with someone who put effort into making an impression on you.  He deserved the same.

I'm not judging you, I hope you know this.  I'm just pointing out something from my own experience with it.

I'll be lighting up some kush tonight once I put the kids to bed with you in my thoughts.

Sincerely, your friend.

Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 13, 2010, 10:00:36 pm
dude...i've been toking for a minute. sometimes we even plan adventures around it. but those adventures usually involve a killer case of the munchies...lol.

and, for the record, i'm a pan-toker. that's right...im good with bongs, pipes, blunts, one hitters, tinctures, edibles, marinol...you name it.

and all my close peeps are too. from the docs to the lawyers to the trouble makers... we all got good hearts.

SOOOO....

we have another date planned for this weekend : ). i don't plan on being sober either.

have a good one.

-d
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Queen Tokelove on July 14, 2010, 03:24:40 am
Hmmm, well when I do have some, I usually do a wake and bake when I get up. I don't see myself having a problem. But for those of you who think  I do......Hi, my name is Queen and I am a weed addict....Reminds me of Half Baked with Dave Chappelle.....

Skee---I remember when I was in Miami, I was smoking on some John Blaze, that was the name of it. There were some other names too but I don't remember them at the moment.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: fearless on July 14, 2010, 10:08:59 pm
I agree with Skeebs. I certainly wouldn't deny anyone a smoke but over time and overuse can be detrimental to some people.
I smoked daily for nearly 25 years. I never really noticed any bad side effects, except on my general motivation every now and then. I worked fulltime and everything was hunky dory. But, generally I would say I thought I was fine.
I hadn't smoked for 6 months till recently. Admittedly, I tend to overdo things and as I had a quarter ounce, I was pretty much gonna smoke till I finished it. I got really sad and depressed though. Crying for no reason, taking a whole week off work sick, not leaving the house. I think my pot daze are done.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 15, 2010, 11:14:44 am
i'm thinking im gonna take this weekend off (don't feel like smoking much). don't know yet, its up in the air and i pretty much go with my feelings. right now i don't feel like smoking much. also grappling with some serious apathy and this heat has been kicking my ass.

Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 15, 2010, 02:46:39 pm
i'm thinking im gonna take this weekend off (don't feel like smoking much). don't know yet, its up in the air and i pretty much go with my feelings. right now i don't feel like smoking much. also grappling with some serious apathy and this heat has been kicking my ass.



This heat just magnifies the cottonmouth effect as well.  I am so done with Summer, it sucks.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: hope_for_a_cure on July 15, 2010, 07:15:38 pm
All this talk about weed makes me want to roll up a big one and get stoned.  I would really get off on it no doubt since it has been a long time.  I was a bonger for the most part  Loved the first 3 bong hits of the day with LOTS of coffee.  'Those were the days my friend... we though they would never end'.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: hope_for_a_cure on July 15, 2010, 07:33:18 pm
Speaking of weed and dates, I had an incident back in the 80s in Philadelphia.  My boyfriend at the time and I went to see some of my friends there one weekend.  While Edgar (name changed to protect the idiot) had a conniption fit when we smoked a couple of joints during the time he was in the shower.  I was SOOOO glad I drove that weekend because I am sure I would have been left in Philly.  The poor soul thought it was the end of the world and even called my mom in SC to tell her that I needed to be institutionalized for drug rehab.  No joke, he went off the deep end.  Needless to say that was the end of Edgar and me and I continued to indulge whenever I chose to.  No regrets.  I really did not think it would be a big deal but with some folks it is.  I am glad that your new beau does not have an issue with it.  Enjoy smoking if thats your thing!  Its even more important to not hide it from your significant other as it may cause a bigger issue down the road. 
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 15, 2010, 07:34:19 pm
Loved the first 3 bong hits of the day with LOTS of coffee.  'Those were the days my friend... we though they would never end'.

LMAO, I went through a bad time back in 99' and I swear I lived off this diet for about 3 months.  Anyone else enjoy their weed with coffee?  
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 16, 2010, 12:46:32 am
kush & monster.

the date has  been confirmed for this weekend. we will do a daytime date. he wants an all day all night thing and i'm leaving that open. lets see how it works out : )

best,
d
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 18, 2010, 12:10:06 pm
the date was executed nicely : ). looks like there will be another one in the near future!

best,
d
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: HippieLady on July 18, 2010, 12:33:05 pm
LMAO, I went through a bad time back in 99' and I swear I lived off this diet for about 3 months.  Anyone else enjoy their weed with coffee?  

I enjoy my weed with any beverage.  ;D

the date was executed nicely : ). looks like there will be another one in the near future!

best,
d

Glad to hear the date went well!!
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Ann on July 18, 2010, 12:43:51 pm
the date was executed nicely

You executed your date? That's scary!
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Hellraiser on July 18, 2010, 12:44:59 pm
You executed your date? That's scary!

Par for the course amongst us gays.  I mean you can't take any chance you may accidentally sleep with someone a second time.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: hope_for_a_cure on July 18, 2010, 12:51:02 pm
OH MY!  I certainly hope the execution of your date was as pain free as it could be.... of course the S&M side of me would prefer otherwise. 
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: max123 on July 18, 2010, 01:30:37 pm
Par for the course amongst us gays.  I mean you can't take any chance you may accidentally sleep with someone a second time.

i dunno, trey...sounds like mecch was going for seconds with his bushmen  :o
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Merlin on July 18, 2010, 02:06:51 pm
the date was executed nicely : ). looks like there will be another one in the near future!

best,
d

Good job, u let the 3rd one live through the date.
Guessed u resisted biting and stayed on True Blood Type O this time.  ;D
Good luck!  :-*
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 18, 2010, 02:49:02 pm
the date was executed nicely : ). looks like there will be another one in the near future!

best,
d

You've killed your date and already have another victim picked out? 
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: max123 on July 18, 2010, 04:09:55 pm
You've killed your date and already have another victim picked out? 

oh snap, jeffrey dahmer is on da loose... :o
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 19, 2010, 12:47:08 am
you gals & guys are just wrong, lol.

glad to find you in all in good spirits : )

yeah, my date yesterday was pretty nice. we went to the beach. we had sushi for dinner and indian food for the late night munchies. also held hands walking around the downtown area: : )

best,
d
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: next2u on July 19, 2010, 10:29:45 pm
and another date has been scheduled.  ;D things are coming along pretty nicely and this time i want kill him. and i totally paintballed yesterday for the first time. it was pretty awesome. have a good one.

best,
d
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Rev. Moon on July 19, 2010, 10:32:23 pm
things are coming along pretty nicely and this time i want kill him.

Uh?
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Queen Tokelove on July 20, 2010, 12:09:55 am
oh snap, jeffrey dahmer is on da loose... :o

OMG, if it is Jeffrey Dahmer then we better get a priest and some holy water!!!!!
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Hellraiser on July 20, 2010, 12:11:38 am
OMG, if it is Jeffrey Dahmer then we better get a priest and some holy water!!!!!

What's the priest for, do we have young boys that need "loving"?
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Queen Tokelove on July 20, 2010, 12:15:23 am
What's the priest for, do we have young boys that need "loving"?

Well sweetie, with Dahmer being dead and all, who is going to do the exorcism?
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Ann on July 20, 2010, 10:35:13 am
i totally paintballed yesterday for the first time.

I suppose that's better than partially paintballing.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Hellraiser on July 20, 2010, 10:41:43 am
Alright D now it's time to start withholding.  Tell him you want to see him tomorrow and then cancel on him.  Then blow him off for a couple of days and don't answer his phone calls/texts.  Then when you have him right where you want him you own his soul.

That's how people date, right?
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Queen Tokelove on July 20, 2010, 09:00:57 pm
Alright D now it's time to start withholding.  Tell him you want to see him tomorrow and then cancel on him.  Then blow him off for a couple of days and don't answer his phone calls/texts.  Then when you have him right where you want him you own his soul.

That's how people date, right?

Are you trying to make him lose this man? I would say withhold on the sex, don't give up the booty too soon.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Rev. Moon on July 20, 2010, 09:12:22 pm
Alright D now it's time to start withholding.  Tell him you want to see him tomorrow and then cancel on him.  Then blow him off for a couple of days and don't answer his phone calls/texts.  Then when you have him right where you want him you own his soul.

That's how people date, right?

Uh no.  This is the time when he should ask him to marry him in one of them gay places and consider the possibility of adopting an adorable baby girl. 
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: Hellraiser on July 27, 2010, 11:23:03 pm
Uh no.  This is the time when he should ask him to marry him in one of them gay places and consider the possibility of adopting an adorable baby girl. 

Gay is the new lesbian.
Title: Re: yup, a date
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 27, 2010, 11:30:03 pm
Then when you have him right where you want him you own his soul.

  And did you know that a woman can do this to a man as well?  A woman gives a man roots when he goes down on her when her period is on.

  SILVERFISH HAND CATCH!!!!