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Do I Have HIV? / Re: PEP Effectiveness
« Last post by bcnusa1976 on Today at 04:51:51 am »
Yo sorry for not speaking clearly as Ingles is not my primary language.  I reread what I wrote and forgot to mention the condom on the floor was broken.  I do not know if it was his condom or someone who used room prior.
Pre-HAART Long-Term Survivors / Re: Feeling overwhelmed
« Last post by Grasshopper on Today at 03:17:23 am »
My aunt was warned by her surgeon about the possible phantom pain if her blind eye were to be removed. She still has the eye in, causing continuous infections in her tear ducts. She is also very vain ...at the age of 70....and worries about her appearance if the eye were to be removed. She eventually lost sight in both eyes, but only one is problematic. I am not the one walking in her shoes, so I have decided not to bring up the issue anymore and just listen. Next Friday I'll be crossing the Atlantic again and will see her soon.
Hang in there....if life gives you lemons make lemonade  ;)
Pre-HAART Long-Term Survivors / Re: Feeling overwhelmed
« Last post by Tonny2 on Yesterday at 12:09:38 pm »

               ojo.          @ grasshopper. By the way, I was carrying my blind eye in a glass jar as you suggested on previous post. (I got my blind eye removed on march 19) and sadly, I’m still having the same pay. I used to have before the surgery…. it is what it is. Life goes on…hugs
Pre-HAART Long-Term Survivors / Re: Feeling overwhelmed
« Last post by Tonny2 on Yesterday at 11:43:52 am »

               ojo.             @grasshopper, yes, 12 blocks each way , when you  are almost blind, one eye with only tunnel vision and seeing everything blurry and foggy, bad cornea, and walking on uneven sidewalks, crossing busy streets, dealing with dogs, it was an adventure, thankfully when I got into the pharmacy, where I couldn’t see anyrhing but the
De Pharmacy’s employees helped me get my mom’s meds…I guess I have to keep going places so I can’t start losing my fears…I walk my dogs, well, now just one dog, around the block several times a day, although I know the route pretty good, uneven sidewalks, where to dock down because of tree’s branches, wrc., etc., you know how bad somebody has it and did you put yourself in his/her shoes… thanks for replying… Hearts.

Ps Forgive my typos
Do I Have HIV? / Re: PEP Effectiveness
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 11:37:08 am »

I read what you posted three times and see no reason for PEP whatsoever, or even testing outside of the yearly routine.

I think you would benefit and should consider PrEP going forward, as in addition to providing an additional layer of HIV prevention PrEP would also give you some peace of mind.  Most commonly people take daily PEP, but there is also event-based PrEP, talk to your healthcare provider. https://i-base.info/guides/prep/real-life-examples-for-on-demand-dosing

1) PEP is highly effective, 90% or better when taken timely and correctly but it will not prevent 100% of HIV transmissions. Of course, if people don't take it correctly it will not be as effective.

2)Yes, it's not the newest combo. 3 drugs + 1 booster.  (Elvitegravir + tenofovir disoproxil fumarate + emtricitabine & cobicistat)


4)Meaningless. I have never seen a whale, but they exist if I believe the nature documentaries. 

Look you have started PEP now, it's done, so continue the course of PEP and out-of-procedure test six weeks after finishing PEP with a blood draw (lab) HIV antibody test. A non-reactive result at that time would rarely change, and retesting at three months is generally unnecessary.

Finally please don't post about this again, thank you!

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV and get vaccinated against HPV, Hepatitis A & B.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards


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Do I Have HIV? / PEP Effectiveness
« Last post by bcnusa1976 on Yesterday at 11:09:57 am »
Hi All - glad I found this forum.   Seems to be a lot of conflicting information on the internet.   I was at a bathhouse and hooked up with a guy where I had receptive anal sex and gave him oral after the anal.  He put a condom on before we started having anal sex.  He kind of abruptly ended and when he took the condom off, I could not tell if it was intact or broken (was dark).  I was worried it broke as he didn't finish and was still hard. There was no ejaculation inside me.  Because I could not tell, I went to sex clinic here and they started me on PEP (Stribild - 1 pill a day); I took my first pill around 12 hours later (+- 60 mins) after the hookup.   I have been taking the pill everyday around the same time (+/- 30 mins).

1.  How effective is PEP?  I read around 80% but that seems to consider people who take it later than 24 hours, have additional exposures or dont adhere to taking it.
2.  Do you have much experience with Stibild?  My research shows it is a 4 drug combo and seems pretty good.
3.  Do you see a lot of cases of PEP failure?  I guess hard to know PEP success as maybe person was HIV negative or wouldn't get HIV anyways.
4.  The sex clinic said at end of treatment, they will do an RNA test at 12 days stating they have never seen one change that was negative.  a 4th generation at 28 days and another 4th generation 2 months later for final confirmation. 

I did test for Gonorhea and Chlamydia for both oral and anal and was negative.  Will test for syphilis at 6 weeks post exposure.

Really hoping that he was negative (as he seemed intent on wearing a condom) or that the PEP works.  Thanks for all the assistance and have a great rest of weekend.  Sorry for any stupid questions.
Pre-HAART Long-Term Survivors / Re: Feeling overwhelmed
« Last post by Grasshopper on Yesterday at 10:01:47 am »
WOW....you did WHAT ?????......walked 12 blocks rondtrip  ...wow.....just WOW.....from me an applause and deep bow for what you've managed to do.
Do I Have HIV? / Re: HIV kissing
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 08:10:28 am »

You can't reply here because you have used your three free posts and require a subscription. See https://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=45006.0

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Pre-HAART Long-Term Survivors / Re: Feeling overwhelmed
« Last post by Tonny2 on May 25, 2024, 02:13:33 pm »

              ojo.            Hello everyone!… I also have those kind of feelings, feeling overwhelmed specially now, if you have read my thread, my mother has been the pillar since my diagnosis in 1994 and she Is still with me after 29 years, obviously now she will be90 years old in June
And now, have to take care of her and sometimes  is a little bit difficult with me being legally blind. The other day she fell down and I came downstairs to check on her and I almost step on her because I didn’t see her on the floor. That makes me feel frustrated, but we have to do what we have to do, we just keep fighting together taking care of each other.
Now that we are positive, we got to be more positive because we are not only dealing with a chronic condition but also, we are getting older and, if we want to keep living some more years, we have to keep fighting… I read a lot about the stoicism philosophy, and I think it has helped me to keep going strong, even with my  disabilities. Like yesterday, my mother needed a medication and there was nobody to help me taking me to the pharmacy, which is around 12 blicks from my house so, I went with my dog to get my mother‘s medication to the pharmacy, it was an adventure But I made it back safe and sound.… It’s OK to feel overwhelmed once in a while, but I think that we need to keep fighting because it we did it back in the day when there was no hope for us, now, for those who didn’t have the chance to be around, I think that we owe them to keep going… Humble opinion… Virtual hugs for every Friday
I don’t think that he wants the same kind of relationship you want.
And then.... and then yesterday, nothing. I don't get it..
I know this story is a little scattered in a couple of threads but let me see if I'm understanding it right. There were dates. there was disclosure. then some time passes.....

(and during this short time, he has been thinking about this health issue that he's probably never really thought about while you've had time since your diagnosis to wrap your head around it.)

next you text about the weekend and he chats back. some times passes and he texts about nba and y'all chat....

...then 1 day passes and your reaction is to think it's all over.

TBH I don't think anyone can predict what this guy is thinking or wants to do because there's not enough information.

IMHO if you want this guy, think y'all had the start/basis for a relationship, and think he'll be a good partner, you should ask him on a date, making sure there is some place you two can talk about moving forward. Make sure he understands your feelings about him. make sure he understands about your current health....and how treated HIV is not an issue for your wellbeing or his. Offer to use condoms (that's how I've always done it) even if U=U is a thing or PrEP is available.

Do all that, and you'll know whether this guy is worth the effort or not.
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