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Thank you for the info you provided for me, Mitch.
I really appreciate it.
Yes, I have been to Vegas during the summer, I know itís no joke!
I canít get Medicare yet so I would have to buy an insurance or get employed
by a company that offers insurance benefit.
I will check with the medical facility you showed me. Thanks again.

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I Just Tested Poz / Re: Intro Violetta - tested Positive 1 Day Ago
« Last post by leatherman on Yesterday at 08:53:32 pm »
No one will want to be in the same room with me again or eat from the plate I have use. Then I will be all alone. Am so scare. I donít know what to do. Am just 25yrs old in my final year in the university. How do I get past this.?? I had a bright future but I ruined it.
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. But don't lose you hope and zest for life. It sounds like you're laboring under some really old ideas about HIV. No one can catch it by being in the same room or using the same plates or utensils. The only ways to transmit HIV are through unprotected sex or injection needles. As long as you're not having unprotected sex with your family and friends, there is NO way to transmit HIV to anyone you know.

And there's no reason to not still have a bright future. HIV in 2023 is a manageable illness. By taking daily meds to keep HIV suppressed you will live a long normal life span. Matter of fact most people living with HIV actually live longer because having regular checkups with your doctor actually helps you stay healthier than people who don't see a doctor regularly. Definitely plan on doing whatever it is you were planning to do with your life.

Personally, I've already been living with HIV for almost 40 years and plan on another 40 since I'm hoping to live as long as my grandmother did, who died at 104. And I'm not am abnormality. There are plenty of people here who have been living with HIV just as long and I know a lot more long term survivors in real life too. My husband has been living with HIV just as long as I have, and he's never been sick with HIV at all.


heís not answering or returning any of my calls, thatís when I realized that probably he knew of him HIV status all along and did this on purpose.
I think you may be assuming a lot. Maybe he as never been tested and doesn't know if he's HIV+ or not. You tipped him off that you have a health concern that he needs to know about and maybe you scared him. He's probably freaking out that YOU gave HIM HIV. Quite frankly the myth of people giving other people HIV on purpose is just nonsense. That kind of thinking assumes your partner was a pretty hateful evil person (and I doubt that's the kind of people you date) and totally ignores that your partner is probably simply clueless about their status.

If he was already HIV+ then he would already on medication. Once someone has been on medication, reaches an undetectable viral load, and keeps being undetectable for 6 months, they can no longer transmit HIV. So if he actually already knew and was on treatment, he wouldn't have transmitted HIV. For all you know, he's tripping just as much as you about the situation.

Your best bet right now is to get on treatment, work on adjusting to your new situation, give it some time to see how things work out with your boyfriend, and remember to give him the benefit of the doubt until you can discuss the situation.

Best wishes to you. It sounds like you're catching the issue pretty quickly, and once you start meds you should get some peace of mind and be more hopeful about continuing your plans for you life.
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Do I Have HIV? / Re: TheTruth22 - How do i post
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 03:50:44 pm »
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If she sat on me unprotected but i didnít penetrate does that warrant a risk?

It's not an HIV risk.

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That woman told me she tested positive for Covid days later. I meant to say engaging in conversation. I had no relations with the woman at the bar.

Okay, perfect, just wanted to double-check check and thanks for clarifying.
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Do I Have HIV? / Re: TheTruth22 - How do i post
« Last post by TheTruth22 on Yesterday at 03:48:34 pm »
Thank you for your assessment and replies. The incident that occurred on the 23rd still leaves me confused on how the condom fell off but didnít tear as i found it on the bed the next morning. If she sat on me unprotected but i didnít penetrate does that warrant a risk? Thatís me assuming the worse case scenario even tho i donít recall due to me not being fully erect.

To answer your question : ďAll that leaves is to question what you mean on the 17th of Dec with "I also went out to a bar that same night engaging with a woman." ?

 I stated that as a possible reason why i developed early symptoms so early. That woman told me she tested positive for Covid days later. I meant to say engaging in conversation. I had no relations with the woman at the bar. Again i thank you for taking time out to reply to me.
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Vivir con el VIH / Re: LA ESPERANZA MUERE AL ULTIMO
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 03:48:19 pm »
Sorry to hear that your sister has been diagnosed with breast cancer and wishing you and the family all the best. Also, sorry to hear you might need your eye stiched to keep the lens in.

I normally don't reply to your thread as I don't speak Spanish, but I read all your posts, and I wish you the best. Keep us posted, hugs.

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Do I Have HIV? / Re: TheTruth22 - How do i post
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 03:32:31 pm »
So you received oral sex, had frottage (rubbed/grinded against her) and had vaginal intercourse with a condom.

Firstly, receiving a blowjob with or without a condom lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV; thus, it makes sense that after 40+ years of this pandemic in terms of BJs, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

The same can be said for frottage.

Regarding intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing or testing for HIV outside the standard yearly HIV screening.

All that leaves is to question what you mean on the 17th of Dec with "I also went out to a bar that same night engaging with a woman." ?

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards

Jim

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Vivir con el VIH / Re: LA ESPERANZA MUERE AL ULTIMO
« Last post by Tonny2 on Yesterday at 03:21:16 pm »









                  ojo.            Hola a todos!!!



Quť es vivir con VIHÖ Aparte de la responsabilidad y disciplina de seguir tomando los medicamentos como se nos ordenador y seguir con nuestras visitas mťdicas, se sigue viviendo con los problemas de tŪa Tia, el trabajo, la familia, las flemas econůmicos, las enfermedades familiares y a veces hasta la muerte de algunos de ellos. Por eso ahora que somos positivos tenemos que vivir la vida mŠs positiva mente. A mi hermana acaban de detectar cŠncer de seno, desgraciadamente, pero ella, como yo, es muy fuerte y lo estŠ tomando todo con positividad y ya le seguirť contando quť pasa con ella. Tambiťn como es que les comentť a mi prima en Mťxico tiene cŠncer terminal pero tambiťn, creo que estŠ en nuestros genes, seguir luchando y viviendo positivamente. A pesar de quť le han dicho que es terminal, ella sigue tomando quimio.
Vivan cada dŪa como si fuera el ķltimo dŪa de sus vidas. Y humilde consejo
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I Just Tested Poz / Re: Tested Positive 2 Days Ago
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 02:41:20 pm »
Glad to hear that your family are supportive and you have looked into peer support. Keep us posted on the VL & CD4 results on Monday.

There is also a POZ.com forum members meeting online on the 18th of Feb that might be useful to join if you wish; it includes people who have been living with HIV for a few weeks and others who acquired HIV in the early 80s.

I would disagree and say there are good ways to share your HIV status, bad ways and terrible ways, but that's not relevant at the moment and a discussion or something to learn another day.
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Do I Have HIV? / Re: TheTruth22 - How do i post
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 02:34:40 pm »
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12/15 / 22 - I engaged in oral and vaginal sex via protected condom (Trojan latex thin) with a CSW. She was on an upscale website and she claims she doesnít do as often.  She also stated she gets tested for everything including HIC often via planned parenthood. She claims her last test was a month before in November.

We engaged in oral sex first. She did lick my penis unprotected for less than 15 seconds before i got the condom. The oral sex from there was protected but it was a deepthroat type of oral sex. Before engaging in vaginal sex, i purposefully inspected condom out of fear of it being torn because I dealt with a experience before where a condom breakage occurred  where my full penis was exposed so since then Iíve been very serious on inspecting condoms. Itís been something that scares me now. However, the condom looked very much intact and my penis was covered. So she got on top of me for approx 1-2 mins. Before switching positions, i again inspected the condom. My penis and shaft was covered and i didnít notice any tears but i couldnít tell. We engaged for approx 1 min or so before i stopped her and proceeded to go back to oral sex. Where the situation gets weird is during oral she stated that the condom tasted not like her spit and she stated something else. She said itís better to just change condoms. That immediately got me nervous and before i took off the condom i looked to see if the condom was broken. It looked intact and all but again i donít know if there was tears i couldnít feel or see. All i know is that i was able to fully remove the condom but the comment she made stuck with me. So switching condoms i did finally ejaculate via oral sex protected.

12/17 - i began to experience symptoms. What i believe to be a lymph node under my jaw line area. I also went out to a bar that same night engaging with a woman.

12/18 i started to feel sweaty palms and feet.
12/19  or 12/20 - the lady i engaged conversation with at the bar told me she tested positive for Covid. She told me cause we were literally around one another talking most of the night.

My question is due to the condom. Is there a chance something occurred in the condom. Why would the CSW make a statement like that to me ?? and then 2 days later i experience symptoms. I didnít notice a tear but now anxiety is thru the roof. Also the sweaty palms on hands and feet which is still common. I do have sensitive skin but these symptoms although earlier than what i seen to be symptoms, are common symptoms to have. So hopefully you can assess this issue.

The symptoms within 2-3 days had nothing to do with HIV from the encounter even if you had told that you had engaged in a night of condomless intercourse with half the street and also had been sharing needles with a dozen drug users.

As for what the sex worker tasted its irrelevant, glad she could taste something  given the covid but my only doubt in your story is what you mean with;
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"I also went out to a bar that same night engaging with a woman."

Does this mean talking or something else?

I also read about the Jan 2023 encounter and will reply about both soon with an assessment.

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Do I Have HIV? / Re: TheTruth22 - How do i post / concerns
« Last post by TheTruth22 on Yesterday at 02:13:55 pm »
Thank you. I appreciate you helping me in a fast manner. I do have some recent hiv concerns on two incidents that did occur in December of Ď22 & last weekend Janí23.

. I have a timeline of detailed events that I cannot explain and Iím hoping you can because itís really killing my anxiety the past two weeks.


12/15 / 22 - I engaged in oral and vaginal sex via protected condom (Trojan latex thin) with a CSW. She was on an upscale website and she claims she doesnít do as often.  She also stated she gets tested for everything including HIC often via planned parenthood. She claims her last test was a month before in November.

We engaged in oral sex first. She did lick my penis unprotected for less than 15 seconds before i got the condom. The oral sex from there was protected but it was a deepthroat type of oral sex. Before engaging in vaginal sex, i purposefully inspected condom out of fear of it being torn because I dealt with a experience before where a condom breakage occurred  where my full penis was exposed so since then Iíve been very serious on inspecting condoms. Itís been something that scares me now. However, the condom looked very much intact and my penis was covered. So she got on top of me for approx 1-2 mins. Before switching positions, i again inspected the condom. My penis and shaft was covered and i didnít notice any tears but i couldnít tell. We engaged for approx 1 min or so before i stopped her and proceeded to go back to oral sex. Where the situation gets weird is during oral she stated that the condom tasted not like her spit and she stated something else. She said itís better to just change condoms. That immediately got me nervous and before i took off the condom i looked to see if the condom was broken. It looked intact and all but again i donít know if there was tears i couldnít feel or see. All i know is that i was able to fully remove the condom but the comment she made stuck with me. So switching condoms i did finally ejaculate via oral sex protected.

12/17 - i began to experience symptoms. What i believe to be a lymph node under my jaw line area. I also went out to a bar that same night engaging with a woman.

12/18 i started to feel sweaty palms and feet.
12/19  or 12/20 - the lady i engaged conversation with at the bar told me she tested positive for Covid. She told me cause we were literally around one another talking most of the night.

My question is due to the condom. Is there a chance something occurred in the condom. Why would the CSW make a statement like that to me ?? and then 2 days later i experience symptoms. I didnít notice a tear but now anxiety is thru the roof. Also the sweaty palms on hands and feet which is still common. I do have sensitive skin but these symptoms although earlier than what i seen to be symptoms, are common symptoms to have. So hopefully you can assess this issue.

1/23/23 : I had unprotected oral sex with a female followed by protected vaginal sex. The issue kind of occurred when putting on condom. The condom DID FULLY COVER the base and penis, however I realized the whole condom had a tighter feel like it didnít stretch fully down. However the head was covered. After engaging in vaginal sex protected, because I became I couldnít remain erect, we did a lot of friction rubbing. I remember condom still on and kind of rubbing on the female as she was rubbing on top of me and slapping my penis on here. This may of occurred for a few mins or maybe less. My concern is at one point of her being on top of me, and me not being fully erect we tried to do sex again but it just wasnít working because of that issue. Iím not sure if the friction or the constant trying to put the head in caused my concern, but at one point i got her off of me and realized the condom was off which made me nervous. She was on top of me but i donít ever remember putting it in again after the first time because i wasnít fully erect. So was the chances i could be infected? Her rubbing her vagina on me and possibly putting on my penis. Again, i donít remember putting it in at all because there wasnít no act of me penetrating her based on all the factors listed. Did the friction of her grinding on me cause this? Because I didnít feel me penetrating or the condom actually falling off. I found the condom the next morning which seemed still in tact because it wasnít ripped apart.


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