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Author Topic: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!  (Read 12254 times)

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Offline Ac75088

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I have talked to this guy for over 4 years now and we have become good friends..He knows of my status and has been very helpful and understanding..He's a police officer from VA but I live in TX and am visiting family in Maryland at the moment..I'm flying down to see him and stay a couple days tomorrow..We have never met in person before so I am very excited yet nervous too..he's even picking me up at the airport tomorrow..Not sure why I'm so nervous cause he really is a cool person..Any words of wisdom from anyone that has also gone thru this?

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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #1 on: February 20, 2012, 09:39:12 am »
I have talked to this guy for over 4 years now and we have become good friends..He knows of my status and has been very helpful and understanding..He's a police officer from VA but I live in TX and am visiting family in Maryland at the moment..I'm flying down to see him and stay a couple days tomorrow..We have never met in person before so I am very excited yet nervous too..he's even picking me up at the airport tomorrow..Not sure why I'm so nervous cause he really is a cool person..Any words of wisdom from anyone that has also gone thru this?

Is this just a friend?  or a ....FRIEND?

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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #2 on: February 20, 2012, 09:49:19 am »
My advice, based on experience, is that you should have an escape plan -- taxi number and hotel. A Good Time Girl™ should always be prepared.
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #3 on: February 20, 2012, 09:57:08 am »
My advice, based on experience, is that you should have an escape plan -- taxi number and hotel. A Good Time Girl™ should always be prepared.

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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #4 on: February 20, 2012, 10:01:39 am »
Just a friend...but we've seen pics and talked on phone for hours so I feel like we've known each other for years..just that initial first meeting..I'm hoping it's not awkward

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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #5 on: February 20, 2012, 10:06:13 am »
"Where are you?  Oh NO!?  Do You need me?  I'll be RIGHT THERE!"

Sorry I have to go, what Terrible Timing!"

And because I refused to have sex with him, he hired two well known porn stars to fuck me while he watched it all. After that I figured I need to leave. Quickly.
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #6 on: February 20, 2012, 10:07:45 am »
And because I refused to have sex with him, he hired two well known porn stars to fuck me while he watched it all. After that I figured I need to leave. Quickly.

I didn't see a credit for Miss P in the actor's list...was there one for submissive?

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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #7 on: February 20, 2012, 10:11:09 am »
Good luck AC, hope your meeting goes well.

Please do have an escape route planned out, just in case. And make sure someone knows where you're going (specific address), and when you're due back home. Better safe than sorry.

Good luck!
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #8 on: February 20, 2012, 10:13:44 am »
I didn't see a credit for Miss P in the actor's list...was there one for submissive?

Actually my starring role happened 3 years before the production of this legendary early bareback genre inter-racial production. There was this period in the late 90's where I somehow kept scoring porn stars, including that filthy man who gave me gonorrhea.

Alas, my star has faded...
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #9 on: February 20, 2012, 10:25:46 am »
..We have never met in person before so I am very excited yet nervous too..he's even picking me up at the airport tomorrow..Not sure why I'm so nervous cause he really is a cool person..Any words of wisdom from anyone that has also gone thru this?

My Adivce, take your time, meet in a public place ( safer that way ) I met a former ex cop (like myself) from Newark, NJ back in the late 90's that I had talked to on the net for a while,

 When I met him, he was the very nice guy ( I loved his NJ accent)
 he later moved to Syracuse, NY and to this day were still good friends (Platonic Friends)

 and everytime hubby bob & I go up that way, we make sure we stop by and see him ( he's on SSDI like I'm)  and were the same age, he's a good friend to both bob & I...... good luck, sounds like fun  :D
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #10 on: February 20, 2012, 10:36:29 am »
My other stellar internet hook ups included the boy with the live chicken running around in his apartment and a diamond attached to his front tooth, the Santeria priest with a taste for Chicharrón and hours of rimming, and then the freak who impersonated someone I'd previously slept with only to try and beat me up/rape me when I went to his apartment and it wasn't the guy he said it was. Fortunately he had a lot of drugs so I just got high and tried to forget what was happening.

I'm sure I'm missing other things...
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #11 on: February 20, 2012, 01:21:25 pm »
Good luck.  Someone close to me married the guy she got to know over the Internet.  Long happy successful marriage now, to boot.  So, you never know....
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #12 on: February 20, 2012, 01:48:27 pm »
My advice, based on experience, is that you should have an escape plan -- taxi number and hotel. A Good Time Girl™ should always be prepared.

This.  I had two different experiences with this recently.  The first was a friend that visiting me in NYC from Vancouver.  We'd never met before, and I offered to let him stay at my place for a few days.  Big mistake.  Huge!

He took that as an invite to come visit for 10 fucking days.  By day 3 I was done with him, and wanted him gone.  Luckily he had other friends in the city he could stay with for a few nights to give me my space.

The second was a friend I had know online for a few years.  He moved to NYC a few months ago, and we only just met recently because of our schedules.  We've become really great friends since actually meeting.

So, yeah, have an escape plan if things aren't what you expected.

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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #13 on: February 20, 2012, 03:05:59 pm »
Thanks guys..I think I'll be good..Like I said, he's a great guy, a handsome police officer..always has interesting things to talk about..I'm more nervous of how he will perceive me in person and if he will still feel the same about me..I always think too much of how others think of me..I know that's wrong...but I'll definately keep y'all updated :)

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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #14 on: February 20, 2012, 04:37:21 pm »
I dated a couple of police officers in NYC. I can't clearly say I enjoyed the experience.
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #15 on: February 20, 2012, 05:34:17 pm »
Sounds like it will be great for both of you. Why should you be nervous - -you've kept his attention for four years!!

Em

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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #16 on: February 20, 2012, 05:48:09 pm »
I don't mean to be a bitch, but aren't y'all acting a bit paranoid?  Poor AC is gonna freak out.  There is probably more possibilty for danger in a run of the mill one-nite-stand/NSA trick than in this scenario.  I'm sure you queens don't take all these precautions before you head off to the neighborhood bathhouse.

AC, I hope you have a great time with your friend, boo boo.
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #17 on: February 20, 2012, 06:20:00 pm »
Thanks Rev...and it's all good..Everyone's responses are appreciated..I should probably add that he is already taken and this is just a friendship..not a potential for a date..He listened to a lot of my problems when I was first diagnose and was always there to hear me vent..I'm sure I'll be good after the initial meeting at the airport..but every hour that goes by I get more anxious

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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #18 on: February 20, 2012, 08:03:07 pm »
No shit -- this isn't even about sex? Why the nerves then, sister?
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #19 on: February 20, 2012, 08:06:22 pm »
No shit -- this isn't even about sex? Why the nerves then, sister?

Yeah, everything aint always about sex  ::) well maybe for all you single queers it is  ;D
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #20 on: February 20, 2012, 08:54:51 pm »
So, I guess I don't have to suggest that you wear GPS tracking device underwear. 

Just jib-jabbing ya. :D

Honey just enjoy yourself and let Common Sense be your chaperone.  ;)
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #21 on: February 21, 2012, 01:12:33 am »
So, this guy (who is neg? and taken) invited you to stay at his house.  How did you both come to meet on the internet?  It does seem unusual, but we can't always base what others would do on what we'd do.  Since you described him as handsome and being nervous about whether he'll still like the in-person you, are you sure you don't have romantic feelings?  I only ask, because that could cause an issue with his partner/boyfriend. 

I am disappointed I refused to let this circus hottie stay with us.  My partner is a teacher and this circus group comes to the school every year for a week.  They stay with teachers and parents.  When first approached about this one guy staying with us, I said absolutely not.  However, I met him tonight.  First, he's sooo hot.  But, he's also very interesting and a seemingly nice guy.  He's from Ireland.  So, next year, he's sleeping in between us.   ;)  He's an acrobat, so I want some lessons.     

Anyway, hope it goes well and you create a life-long friend.  Well, friends, since he has a partner. 

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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #22 on: February 21, 2012, 02:17:52 am »
Yeah, everything aint always about sex  ::) well maybe for all you single queers it is  ;D

Wrong.  Need I remind you that we've already been down that road before
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #23 on: February 21, 2012, 02:41:18 am »
All the best for your meeting AC. Hope it goes off well.  :)

I think all this 'meeting in a public place' business is a tad dramatic. Since you guys have been chatting a long while and have developed a good rapport, I am sure you've gauged the sort of guy he is, which I am sure is not the kind who lure innocent victims after playing elaborate charades of friendship.


 
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #24 on: February 21, 2012, 03:19:46 am »
I think all this 'meeting in a public place' business is a tad dramatic.

Like its the early 70's and a good girl dares to meet an unfamiliar gentleman for lunch at Charleston Garden at B. Altman so she invites an Eve Arden like pal as a safety precaution.
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« Reply #25 on: February 22, 2012, 01:50:18 pm »
I met an internet acquaintance when I first moved to south Florida.  It was just at a pizza shop.  We kind of became friends.  Turns out a few years later that he wanted me to be his friend, but he didn't really make an effort to be mine.  I knew he didn't have much money, so I paid whenever we went out, but then when he came into some money he forgot about me.  The last straw was when he was having a get together and didn't invite me.  Then he called me the morning of the get together, but it was too late.  Afterwards I let him know that what I thought was a friendship was over because of his slight via PM.  Instead of apologizing he lied about losing his phone (months earlier) and his computer crashing and losing my number, oh but he forgot he called me a week earlier.  I have no regrets meeting him, he's just not the kind of friend that I need.  By the way people love this guy on the internet, he sells himself great, but eventually people see him for what he is.
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« Reply #26 on: February 22, 2012, 01:55:06 pm »
"A lot of wash but not much hangout."
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #27 on: February 22, 2012, 03:44:42 pm »
  By the way people love this guy on the internet, he sells himself great, but eventually people see him for what he is.

Yeah, I can relate to such individuals, met a few in my lifetime too, also heard of many of them right here on the very web-site thur other members, you really have to be careful, sometimes people will take your kindness
for weakness, lot of TAKERS out there, I 've been taken before, so I know what I'm talking about here  :-[
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #28 on: February 22, 2012, 05:20:47 pm »
UPDATE!!

Well everyone, I'm having an awesome time! Both are awesome people..I actually hate to go back to Dallas tomorrow :( me and the Internet friend had lots to talk about in person..We did lunch both days and he's an awesome cook..I'm invited to come back sometime soon, so I take it this will be a great friendship..I spotted him at the airport baggage claim right away and he greated me with the biggest smile and hug! At that point I knew it would be ok :)

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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #29 on: February 22, 2012, 05:26:03 pm »
Question: what are you nervous about? What do you think could go wrong? Just allow yourself to think freely about that without holding on to it.

You've gotten a bunch of very sensible suggestions. That's all to the good.

Now, just breathe. Who you are is enough. You don't have to be anyone other than that. 

Keep it simple. If it seems to fit you can always say something about you'd wondered how it would be in person. If there are quiet moments just can just let them be. You don't have to rush to fill the silence.

It's perfectly natural to be nervous. Try to keep in mind that you two connected well online because you spoke honestly.

Have a good time. We await your report.
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« Reply #30 on: February 22, 2012, 11:40:28 pm »
I'm glad it went well!
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #31 on: February 23, 2012, 10:41:58 am »
That's great. Glad to hear it went so well.
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« Reply #32 on: February 23, 2012, 11:07:42 am »
Now you see, you had nothing to worry about in the 1st place, so glad things went well, I thought they would  ;)
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Re: Meeting Internet friend of 4 years for first time tomorrow..very nervous!
« Reply #33 on: February 23, 2012, 07:49:42 pm »
Glad you had a great time!!

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« Reply #34 on: February 23, 2012, 08:13:57 pm »
Glad it went well.

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