HIV positive boyfriend

[odyssy5red]

My bf is HIV+ and we made out the other day about 8 hours after I had gotten novocaine injections from the dentist in my gums. There was no bleeding, and as far as i could tell, there was no blood in his mouth.  I know you're probably going to automatically respond with the same line you give everyone who asks about kissing, but I'd just like to know what you make of this guy's story:
http://gaylife.about.com/cs/hivaids1/a/hivstory.htm

Here's the section that concerned me:
"On really analyzing the history of my progression, I realized that I did get the virus from my husband, but in one of the most boring and unexpected ways possible. I had been having oral surgery on a regular basis, and blood from his saliva was transmitted to the minor tears in my gums during simple kissing. Not the "go for the tonsils" kind of thing, but simple kissing!"

you make it sound like you're only at risk for kissing if there are cavernous bleeding wounds in both you and your partner's mouths, but these "minor tears"  sound a bit like what I had.  what do you make of this person's situation?

[Andy Velez]

The only absolutely safe sex is with your own hand. However, longtime evidence and experience has shown the only CONFIRMED risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse.

I'm not going to say transmission couldn't happen in the manner you are concerned about. But I will say it's beyond unlikely.

I suspect in your case you may not rest easily until you get tested. And yes, I do expect you to test negative. From my point of view testing on your part would be strictly for your peace of mind. Your saliva has enzymes and proteins which form a very effective barrier to the transmission of viable HIV.

[odyssy5red]

Thanks for your reply, but I thought that if there wasn't any bleeding in your mouth transmission really was impossible.

[Ann]

Od,

Just because someone claims to have been infected in some particular way does not make it true. I very much doubt the story you linked to is factual.

There has never been a confirmed, documented case of transmission via kissing. Not a single one. There have been claims, sure, but these claims never held up under scientific scrutiny. I doubt this guy's claim would either.

You're not going to be infected through kissing your boyfriend. Not unless you're in the habit of repeatedly punching each other in the mouth before kissing.

If you don't believe that kissing isn't a risk, go test and collect your negative result. Provided you and anyone you have anal or vaginal intercourse have been using condoms for the act, then you're going to test negative.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

Ann