Author Topic: I need your thoughts and support (Read 12993 times)

Lisa · « **on:** March 15, 2007, 11:16:31 am »

On Tuesday night, my son, his GF, and my granddaughter were in a devastating automobile accident. Head injuries all around, and social services has taken custody of Serentiy. Our family will all be attending a hearing tomorrow morning while a determination is made of where to place Serenity.
Son and GF were inebriated, and GF was driving. She has been charged with reckless endangerment amongst other things.
Luckily, social services is already familiar with my son, because of what he went through with Christy before she committed suicide. Serenity is all he has in this world, and he realizes that this was his wake-up call.
We believe they will likely place Serenity with my other son, while Mike completes whatever tasks they impose on him.
He is entirely undone by the fact that he cannot see her(none of us can), and what she may be going through without any familiar faces around.
Please keep us in your thoughts.

mjmel · « **Reply #1 on:** March 15, 2007, 11:33:57 am »

So sorry to hear of this terrible heartache, Lisa. So much regret, confusion and pain at times like this. <sigh>
You and your little granddaughter, and your son, will be in my thoughts and prayers. You son knows he made a big mistake.
This is so tough on him too. I sure hope you will be able to visit with Serenity soon!
xxx,
Mike

RapidRod · « **Reply #2 on:** March 15, 2007, 12:00:31 pm »

Lisa, diffidently we'll have you all in our thoughts. Hope everyone recovers quickly and gets everything back in order.

Robert · « **Reply #3 on:** March 15, 2007, 12:03:27 pm »

Oh lisa...

I am so, so sorry. Your whole family at home is part of our family here and I feel crushed reading this. I'm not an especially religious person but as I'm planting in my garden this morning, I'll be thinking of you.

robert

ACinKC · « **Reply #4 on:** March 15, 2007, 12:05:28 pm »

Lisa, im so sorry to hear this news. I am with you in spirit and all my positive energy is now focused in your direction. Good luck sweetie. keep us posted.

bear60 · « **Reply #5 on:** March 15, 2007, 12:05:38 pm »

Dear Lisa
I am sending you a "blank check" for support. All the support you need you will get. Keep well.
Joel aka Bear

David_CA · « **Reply #6 on:** March 15, 2007, 12:22:42 pm »

Lisa,

I'm really sorry to hear about that situation. I know it must be especially frustrating since you're basically powerless to do anything at this point. You know you've got support from us all. Take care and I'll be thinking of you (and family).

David

Cliff · « **Reply #7 on:** March 15, 2007, 12:27:45 pm »

oh Lisa. You have been through far too much. Your family is in my thoughts and I hope Serenity is quickly reunited with her family.

allopathicholistic · « **Reply #8 on:** March 15, 2007, 12:28:41 pm »

Certainly Lisa. Will be thinking of you guys for the best options and outcomes.

Love,
Alex

Ann · « **Reply #9 on:** March 15, 2007, 01:11:56 pm »

Aw shit Lisa, does it never end? You poor woman... and poor Serenity. Neither of you deserve to have all this trauma in your lives constantly - wish I had the dosh to bring you both over here for the summer where you could relax for a change in a safe environment!

You're back up to the top of my love, light and positive energy list - maybe if I'd kept you on top to begin with... ~sigh~

Hang in there hun. Better days have GOT to be around the corner!

Big Lisa, Serenity and Sweetie sized hugs,
Ann
xxx

Bucko · « **Reply #10 on:** March 15, 2007, 01:33:23 pm »

In whatever way my support brings you comfort, Lisa, you know you have it.

I truly hope that your family is soon healed from both physical and emotional trauma-

Yours with love-
Brent

milker · « **Reply #11 on:** March 15, 2007, 01:38:41 pm »

Lisa,

this is very difficult news to deal with. My thoughts and support are with you and your family.

Milker

RAB · « **Reply #12 on:** March 15, 2007, 01:47:43 pm »

Hey Buttercup

I just want to echo what Ann said. You and Serenity have gone through so much, my thoughts and support are going out to both of you.

RAB

Denver Toad · « **Reply #13 on:** March 15, 2007, 01:56:10 pm »

Damm Lisa, Are your shoulders getting tired from carrying the weight of the world? I'm glad that your son survived the crash. When you say head injuries, how bad is it? All my thoughts, love and prayers are winging their way to you.

cjc · « **Reply #14 on:** March 15, 2007, 02:08:55 pm »

Lisa, Sorry to hear that things are rough for you and your family right now. I hope everyone will be okay especially Serenity.I'll be keeping you in my thoughts. Cristy

Longislander · « **Reply #15 on:** March 15, 2007, 02:32:56 pm »

Lisa, so sorry to hear this.

Firstly at or before/after the court hearing , your son should provide CPS/DSS ( whatever the agency is called there, a CPS liason should be in the courtroom) with a list of names of people to be checked out to be supervisors for his visitation. Should none pan out as suitable to CPS, CPS should provide someone to supervise (usually just one hour per week).

This is going to be a long road, and hopefully your son will do everything they say, ASAP and without faltering, so he can get Serenity back as soon as they will alllow it.

You don't mention it, but I hope that your 2 sons and youhave a good relationship. That'll help a lot in the coming year.

I wish you and your family all the best.

BIGHUGS

Alain · « **Reply #16 on:** March 15, 2007, 02:45:52 pm »

Lisa, keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

Sending you Love and energy for the best possible outcome in regards to this tragedy.

I am really sorry that you have to go through this.

Be strong.

Alain

SASA39 · « **Reply #17 on:** March 15, 2007, 03:05:57 pm »

Besides my own family tragedies ( mom , father , sister (uncle) , and uncle died from cancar ) I have a sister from my my other uncle that have something similar to a autism.
Why I`m telling you this .
In this moment maybe all that we can offer to you are words an they are not sufficient enough. You need a hug , a look , a kiss maybe .
So my advices are ( speaking of a point of own family tragedies ) :
1. Seek for hug , a look , a kiss maybe , from any person close to your hart.That helps a lot.
2. Person who is most jeopardized need help the most ! And you know who is it.Try to find a way to be together.
Al

Teresa · « **Reply #18 on:** March 15, 2007, 03:39:40 pm »

Lisa,

Im so sorry you and your family are going thru this. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!

BIG HUGS
Teresa

Matty the Damned · « **Reply #19 on:** March 15, 2007, 03:56:26 pm »

Weasel Keeper,

You and yours are in the scattered thoughts of Matty the Damned at this time.

MtD

david25luvit · « **Reply #20 on:** March 15, 2007, 04:19:02 pm »

Hey Lisa....

Oh baby what can I say.... I am so sorry and how awful it must be for your son and for Serenity. Let us pray that things will
change soon and that father and daughter will be reunited. You and your family are in my prayers sweetheart. Hang in there....
your son and Serenity need your great strength and love....take care of yourself.

Sending you a .......

{{{{{Big Hug}}}}}

Val · « **Reply #21 on:** March 15, 2007, 04:25:52 pm »

I'm speechless, Lisa, and wanted to send you the biggest hug ever!

Love,
Val
___
___

aztecan · « **Reply #22 on:** March 15, 2007, 05:44:06 pm »

Hey Lisa,

You know you have my support for you and your family. I will send some positive energy your way to help you through this trying time.

HUGS,

Mark

curmudgeonly · « **Reply #23 on:** March 15, 2007, 05:51:53 pm »

I am very sorry to hear about the situation with you, your son, and Serenity. I hope he is able to jump through all the hoops correctly and Serenity will be restored to her family as quickly as possible. You and family are in my thoughts.

AlanBama · « **Reply #24 on:** March 15, 2007, 06:37:15 pm »

Honey, you've had more than your fair share of troubles lately. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family...

Love,

Alan

newt · « **Reply #25 on:** March 15, 2007, 06:46:53 pm »

Big hug for you missie - matt

manchesteruk · « **Reply #26 on:** March 15, 2007, 06:55:37 pm »

What a terrible thing for your family to go through Lisa you are all in my thoughts.

frenchpat · « **Reply #27 on:** March 15, 2007, 07:01:06 pm »

Lisa,

I am so sorry for you.
A big warm hug, you're in my thoughts.

Pat

aupointillimite · « **Reply #28 on:** March 15, 2007, 08:13:18 pm »

I am so sorry, Lisa!

I hope everything turns out OK!

J.R.E. · « **Reply #29 on:** March 15, 2007, 08:15:01 pm »

Dear Lisa,

I am sorry to hear that this has occurred. My thoughts go out to you and your family.You know it, I know it....unfortunately, it is going to be a very rough road ahead.

(((((HUGS)))) Ray

anniebc · « **Reply #30 on:** March 15, 2007, 09:05:51 pm »

Derest Lisa

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers...sending you all hugs from NZ.

Love
Jan

Queen Tokelove · « **Reply #31 on:** March 15, 2007, 09:08:47 pm »

Sorry to hear the news, Lisa. I will be praying for you and your family.

ndrew · « **Reply #32 on:** March 15, 2007, 10:23:52 pm »

Dear Lisa,

Wishing you well in this tough time. Good care to you and your family.

Kindest,
Drew

Rockit · « **Reply #33 on:** March 15, 2007, 10:39:05 pm »

all i can say is have Faith, thag God will get u through this situation. even if ur hope runs low remember that God with not make u go through a situation u guys can not handle.

Nadine · « **Reply #34 on:** March 16, 2007, 07:26:50 am »

Lisa, Sweetheart...my heart is breaking for you.

You and your family are in my thoughts...hang in there the best you can!

Lisa · « **Reply #35 on:** March 16, 2007, 07:46:47 am »

I have tears in my eyes, and am deeply touched by all of your warm wishes. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart. I'll be off to the court house in about an hour, and will let you know what happened when I get back.
We are trying to keep a positive attitude. I have a gut feeling that things will work out, but am still prepared in the event that it doesn't.
I really love you guys. Thanks again.

woodshere · « **Reply #36 on:** March 16, 2007, 09:57:12 am »

Hope all goes well.

Woods

Christine · « **Reply #37 on:** March 16, 2007, 11:00:55 am »

Lisa,
I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. Sending you good thoughts, prayers, positive vibes, happy thoughts...you name it, anything you need to stay strong.

Christine

Andy Velez · « **Reply #38 on:** March 16, 2007, 11:04:59 am »

Dear Lisa,

Hope things go well in Court today. This kind of thing can be overwhelming, tough and scary to get through. But you and your family will get through it even if there are bumps in the road.

Keeping fingers and other crossed for you and waiting to hear your report.

Big hugs,

JPinLA · « **Reply #39 on:** March 16, 2007, 11:05:56 am »

Good luck Lisa..I am new here but I am sending you and your family thoughts of strength and love!

JP

penguin · « **Reply #40 on:** March 16, 2007, 02:27:58 pm »

thinking of you, n sending trans-atlantic hugs..

kate

emeraldize · « **Reply #41 on:** March 17, 2007, 01:11:58 am »

Lisa
Sending a hug and hope that all goes well at every level of healing for your son, his daughter and girlfriend, and you.
Anne

cjc · « **Reply #42 on:** March 19, 2007, 07:41:06 pm »

Lisa,is everything okay. I am thinking of you and your family. Let us know soon. Cristy

Lisa · « **Reply #43 on:** March 22, 2007, 06:45:13 pm »

Hey Y'all,
Sorry that I dropped the ball. I have been a smidgen overwhelmed over the past week.
Despite the fact that Michael was not the driver, and was not responsible for the accident,......the dept. of Social Services found him to be neglectful due to his state of intoxication the night of the wreck.
While our whole family was in court on MOnday regarding her placement, Serenity was being released to a foster home. The DSS prosecutor made Mike sound like public enemy #1 in court, but that is her job, and we expected it. She and Mike were being driven home at 10:00PM(past a respectable bedtime for a little 4 yr old girl), and daddy had had too much to drink.

This morning was his first visit with Rennie. Needless to say it was incredibly emotional. When she first walked through the door at DSS, he said there she is, and she locked eyes with him, moaned aloud "Daddy", and ran straight into his arms. It was a speechless kind of moment. She clung to him as if it were her only chance. My heart was overcome with the tenderness of the moment.

We got to meet Martha, who is one of the foster parents, and her husband Brandt. They seemed to be very nice people, and we are encouraged that Rennie is in good hands through this difficult trial.
Next week a home study will be completed on Brian's home(Mike's twin brother), by DSS, to see if it is a safe environment in which to place her.

It was heart wrenching to witness Rennie's tears when she had to leave. She came ever so closely to the gutteral, deeply grievious voice that she unleashed at her mother's funeral. It was nearly more than my heart could stand, so I can only imagine how torn Mike is. He knows he has majorly fucked up, and has thrown himself upon the mercy of the court, and Social Services. He is normally an exemplary father, but got lost in wrong things following Christy's death.

We return to court on Monday, to revisit her foster placement, but a home study will have taken place in the interim.
We are all cautiously anticipating her placement with Brian(Mike's twin), shortly thereafter.
I remain optimistic.

bear60 · « **Reply #44 on:** March 22, 2007, 06:50:01 pm »

That is heart wrenching Lisa.
I know you will have the strenght to get through this.

Lisa · « **Reply #45 on:** March 22, 2007, 06:53:49 pm »

Thanks Bear,
I'm just going on automatic pilot these days.

Queen Tokelove · « **Reply #46 on:** March 22, 2007, 06:55:33 pm »

Lisa,

My heart goes out to you on this one. It's on a personal level for me because I was in foster homes from age 9-12. I got adopted when I was 12. I know how those visits can be also. Keep the faith...

Lisa · « **Reply #47 on:** March 22, 2007, 07:04:26 pm »

You know it Queen.

cjc · « **Reply #48 on:** March 23, 2007, 12:33:16 am »

Lisa, Thanks for letting us know what is going on. Hopefully it will all work out,soon. Will they let you or Serenity's father call or write her while she is in foster care. That might ease her pain. Anyway best of luck. PM me if I can help. Cristy

allopathicholistic · « **Reply #49 on:** March 23, 2007, 09:43:14 am »

Quote from: Lisa on March 22, 2007, 06:45:13 pm

We return to court on Monday, to revisit her foster placement, but a home study will have taken place in the interim.
We are all cautiously anticipating her placement with Brian(Mike's twin), shortly thereafter.
I remain optimistic.

Your optimism is gonna help greatly. We're optimistic too. Best wishes for Monday and for the placement with Brian, hopefully soon. Glad you got to meet the foster parents.

Love,
Alex

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