Author Topic: I'm looking forward to what's to come (Read 19978 times)

decayingsinner · « **on:** June 07, 2009, 10:57:59 pm »

This sounds insane.. I think for the first time in 5 years and the first time since my diagnosis I think I may be getting into a relationship. First off, I'm scared, nervous, and of course feel like this is my first time getting into this. I have a friend , a drinking friend that I would get together with who is also poz and he had always said I would probably hit it off wit this one guy Seth. Now he seemed to like him a lot but just the other night after a while of chatting through AIM mainly about our mutual friend we decided to get together. now of course I found out all about him through manhunt which led to more chatting. but when he came over we totally hit it off. We both thought each other looked better in person. He seems to be so similar to me and yet so different. I just really look forward to what is to come. We also discussed our mutual friend who is also hiv + and have both tried persuading him to get into treatment but he does not want to hear any of it. But honestly, that's where the connection of us both meeting up ended. Our conversation was like we were speaking the same language. We watched a movie and had some drinks and yes, we both slept with each other. Of course we said it was the alcohol that led to that the next morning. We talked on the phone today and ever since then and the whole conversation we both were so in awww of each other. He is just what I am looking for in a guy. We have plans on Tuesday for dinner and then will have a day together on Saturday. He kinda hinted on the phone that we should be a couple but I'm hesitant to move that fast. I did that in my last relationship where my ex lived with me for two years and it ended with him cheating on me. Any tips? I'm so excited right now but want to take this seriously and slowly. I do regret sleeping with him right away and don't want it to be a sexual thing and I think it is more than that. I am just looking for some tips and just sharing my happiness.

BT65 · « **Reply #1 on:** June 08, 2009, 12:51:04 pm »

Just have fun with it; that's about all I can say. Don't stress over it-life is stressful enough without creating stress. I'm sure you'll be fine.

Robert · « **Reply #2 on:** June 08, 2009, 08:03:07 pm »

like you said, just look forward to what's to come. I certainly wouldn't regret having sex with him already. Like you said, the first time you met, things just clicked and I would say that includes the sex. I'm sure that's part of the equation he considered when he was 'hinting' at the 'coupling' possibility.

enjoy. sounds like a great way to start summer.

robt

decayingsinner · « **Reply #3 on:** June 14, 2009, 10:21:25 pm »

So today we had the best possible date ever...being he is originally from Boston, we saw the Phils take on the Red Sox. Phils won of course. Best news of all is we are now dating. I'm just so happy.

Longislander · « **Reply #4 on:** June 14, 2009, 11:13:27 pm »

Short story, but very sweet~

I wish you two the best.

Paul

decayingsinner · « **Reply #5 on:** June 15, 2009, 07:49:17 pm »

Here's the full blog I wrote about this past weekend.

Saturday and Sunday I got together with Seth. I met him a week ago and we really hit it off. Since then we have been talking on the phone looking forward to this weekend. We decided to watch a movie Saturday night and we both ended up bidding on tickets to Sunday's Phillies / Red Sox game. Being that he is originally from Boston, I figured it would be a fitting first date. Well he had the same idea! On Saturday I headed over to see his place and we started to watch Heroes. He has the cutest kitties. yea for us both being cat/animal lovers. He totally could not believe I had never seen that show and got me hooked. We've only gotten through two episodes, but damn this show is good. Really good. Later we headed back to my place where I made us NY strip steak, baked potatoes, and carrots. Since he had never seen The Exorcist, it was a must. The vibe has been really good all along and by now I know there definitely is an attraction, so I figured I would pop the boyfriend question. Without hesitation he said yes and I was relieved and happy. The rest of the night was just fantastic, cuddling watching movies before bed.

Sunday we woke up, or he woke me up and we headed to the diner before the game. We had a great breakfast. The game was awesome.. some great bonding times. I had not realized that it was his first time to Citizen's Bank Park. We both were camera happy, taking pictures of us, each other, the players, the park, everything. Unfortunately for him, the Phils did not get swept... they killed the Red Sox. Although, we both did have our happy winning moments in the game. Those cheesesteaks there are killer as well. Plus what is a baseball game without beer? We really had a great time. After taking him home, I got to meet his parents. I don't have too much of his perspective quite yet, but I thought they were very nice and we engaged in conversation right away (thanks to the game).

I really am ending this weekend on such a natural high (hey, for the first time in a very long time). This feeling really hasn't been there in such a long time. A relationship was definitely the furthest thing from my mind, but now it's what I am SO ready for. I really look forward to getting to know more about Seth and him learning about me and just devoting myself to him. It's a crazy feeling, one that I haven't felt in quite a long time, but I really like it.

Longislander · « **Reply #6 on:** June 16, 2009, 01:13:46 pm »

You guys make a handsome couple, I wish you both the best!

Paul

Texan38 · « **Reply #7 on:** June 16, 2009, 07:48:17 pm »

I so enjoyed reading your 'blog'. I have a smile from ear to ear! I love reading about the beginnings of a relationship...very romantic. Sounds like you've met your match and I agree with Paul, both of you do make a very handsome couple! Congrats on an exciting new beginning!

decayingsinner · « **Reply #8 on:** June 16, 2009, 09:36:56 pm »

Thanks so much! Just got in from his place. He had made some awesome quiche and we watched Transformers. This weekend we'll be having lunch with my mother for the first time.

alantalbot · « **Reply #9 on:** June 16, 2009, 11:31:05 pm »

Absolutely awesome. You guys look great together too.

fearless · « **Reply #10 on:** June 16, 2009, 11:43:27 pm »

Fantastic news.

I was single for 7 years but just recently celebrated my one year anniversary with my man. I know how happy you must me.

I'm jealous though - I so want to go to a ball game one day.

Maybe you should change your user name from Decayingsinner. All I see is someone radiating.

Well done

Ann · « **Reply #11 on:** June 17, 2009, 06:45:02 am »

DS,

Your story is so sweet! And I agree with the others, you two make a very handsome couple. It's like you're made for each other in so many ways! I'm really happy for both of you.

But one question - what are you doing wearing Miss Philicia's shirt?

Ain't love grand? Long may it continue for you.

Hugs,
Ann

tendai · « **Reply #12 on:** June 17, 2009, 07:52:23 am »

im so happy for you guys..wish u all the best

decayingsinner · « **Reply #13 on:** June 21, 2009, 10:18:55 pm »

Thanks for the lovely comments. We had another fabulous weekend together. I am definitely falling in love. We went to see the proposal this weekend and did some gay outlet shopping. hahahhA. A total gay weekend. Love it. I definitely love how this is all going.

Queen Tokelove · « **Reply #14 on:** June 22, 2009, 02:05:20 pm »

Congrats. You both make a very handsome couple. I am just starting in a new relationship too so I definitely know how you are feeling.....Enjoy!!!!

PeteNYNJ · « **Reply #15 on:** June 22, 2009, 05:46:56 pm »

Totally handsome fellas

Glad to hear you found someone.

quiche and Transformers...keep that man around

xo
Pete

joemutt · « **Reply #16 on:** June 22, 2009, 11:46:38 pm »

It is so great to be in love.

I was single for so long and now I'm with someone I really feel good with for a good while already.
Enjoy every single minute!

decayingsinner · « **Reply #17 on:** June 24, 2009, 09:26:28 pm »

Quote from: joemutt on June 22, 2009, 11:46:38 pm

It is so great to be in love.
I was single for so long and now I'm with someone I really feel good with for a good while already.
Enjoy every single minute!

And enjoying every single minute I am. We watched a movie yesterday and I can't wait until I see him until Saturday. I look forward to our conversations everyday. It rocks because the feeling is mutual. We both want to take it slow and I have to watch myself because I tend to jump right into things. This is a nice feeling though. He lives at home for the time being so I usually go there on Tuesday's and he cooks me dinner and then we get to spend the night at my place Saturday and Sunday. It's just enough time to have our own lives going on as well until we decide to take the next step.

elf · « **Reply #18 on:** June 25, 2009, 09:55:28 pm »

You two are way cute.

decayingsinner · « **Reply #19 on:** June 28, 2009, 07:42:05 pm »

I just have to, so forgive me. We had such a great weekend together. I am asking why this is happening, this is a dream... but actually, a dream come true. We only had pizza, watched movies, and walked around the park this morning, but I am just loving everything we do. He came over yesterday and gave me a gorgeous purple rose. Crazy thing is that I was going to get him one too but I didn't know if he was into flowers or not.
some more pictures... sorry I just have to. Crazy thing is... I feel more healthy and alive and he does as well before our diagnosis.

I also got a hot new outfit and haircut to look uber sexy for my man.

Longislander · « **Reply #20 on:** June 29, 2009, 05:45:07 pm »

doesn't look like he has a problem with you taking all these pics!lol

Sometimes simple is better. I'm glad things are going great, and I hope they stay that way for a long long time to come.

Paul

decayingsinner · « **Reply #21 on:** July 05, 2009, 08:28:16 pm »

We spent 4th of July in Philly and had a blast. Sheryl Crow put on a free concert on the parkway where about a half a million people probably were. During the day we hit the gay bars for some drinks. I met his first boyfriend from Boston from about 10 years ago. It took them a while to become friends after the break up and there are no feelings what so ever on either part. He's really happy to see him in a relationship and happy. We both got camera happy.

Brian and Seth

mewithu · « **Reply #22 on:** July 05, 2009, 09:11:21 pm »

To early to be going to the bars, That's just my opinon though. Not that it is a deal breaker or anything just that there are so many other things to get you started in a relationship. Don't take me wrong be happy you definetly seem that way now. Just that meeting someone new and the bar don't mix. It is very hard to explain. I am very happy for you, I hope you last for an eternaty together. So many things to do that can be so much more romantic you would surprize your sweetheart in so many different ways

next2u · « **Reply #23 on:** July 05, 2009, 09:48:48 pm »

ds,

omg and congratulations. i am SO living vicariously through you. please, please keep the blog going : )

you two are sooo handsome. and how could you not have known about heroes? i like this man for you already...hehehe. wait till the next season starts!

those pics are amazing. can you say peas in a pod? keep us posted and have a great day.

best,
d

GNYC09 · « **Reply #24 on:** July 05, 2009, 09:55:51 pm »

You two look so full of joy together! I am happy for you! congrats!

Miss Philicia · « **Reply #25 on:** July 05, 2009, 11:16:16 pm »

Quote from: mewithu on July 05, 2009, 09:11:21 pm

Just that meeting someone new and the bar don't mix.

bullshit... depends on the maturity of the two cocksuckers in question now doesn't it?

next2u · « **Reply #26 on:** July 05, 2009, 11:22:18 pm »

maturity or suppressed gag reflex?

i like your train of thought miss p : ) ~

next2u · « **Reply #27 on:** July 05, 2009, 11:23:19 pm »

gosh, those two are cute. every time i see those pics i can't help but smile. congrats again!

decayingsinner · « **Reply #28 on:** July 06, 2009, 04:09:54 pm »

Thank you so much for the comments.

mewithu- The only reason why we went to the bars is because his friend is from Boston and wanted to see what the gay bar scene was like (like it's any different anywhere you go). We both were internally reluctant to go, but wanted him to have a great time while staying. We both are also very sure of our relationship. okay.. here's a couple more.

Miss Philicia · « **Reply #29 on:** July 06, 2009, 04:46:32 pm »

Gay bars in Philadelphia are horrific and best avoided. Then again, most of the queens think Abercrombie is creatively fashionable.

There's a cute bartender at Knock though. Now, before I moved here a few years ago I'd come visit in the 90's and there were some very fierce places -- notably the Nile, which was on the 2nd floor of the building to the south of Woody's, and then Stars on Sansom. At least the lesbian mafia stopped their shenanigans at the 2-4 (now Pure). There's something extremely pathetic about how the girls will rush out of Woody's at 1:45 am to go to an after hours club across the street that's only open until 3 am.

Oh well, NYC is only a hour and a half away.

decayingsinner · « **Reply #30 on:** July 06, 2009, 10:42:27 pm »

He just sent me the pictures he got. Apparently, all of his have the ones of us making out.

Love park. we were feeling the love definitely.

me caught off gaurd

next2u · « **Reply #31 on:** July 06, 2009, 11:11:50 pm »

ahhh, look at the happy homos. brings a tear to my eyes and a tightness to my pants...

Longislander · « **Reply #32 on:** July 07, 2009, 05:54:12 pm »

Texan38 · « **Reply #33 on:** July 07, 2009, 06:29:52 pm »

Ahh, L'Amour, L'Amour.

In Texas that means ~ "Hot Damn, I got myself a hot man!"

decayingsinner · « **Reply #34 on:** July 13, 2009, 09:43:49 pm »

here I go again. On Sunday we were going to head to the beach, but when we woke up the weather looking a little uncertain. We decided to sleep for a bit more, I got up and made Seth some breakfast... and of course the weather turned out to be beautiful. We ended up going to a park about 30 minutes from my house that I had never been to. We had a picnic and walked some trails. It turned out to be a lovely day.

he got a really good shot of me with the dam in the waterfall in the background.

and the breakfast I made...

decayingsinner · « **Reply #35 on:** July 25, 2009, 05:21:27 pm »

Last night, I introduced Seth to my best friend Karen. It went over very well. I'm always paranoid just because it's another side shown that was once unfamiliar. We went to a nice Irish pub and then to a really sleek martini bar. We loved it.

Seth and I at the irish pub.

Karen clearly did not want me to take her picture.

Seth taking a photo of me

martini bar

decayingsinner · « **Reply #36 on:** September 04, 2009, 03:44:20 pm »

We're taking our first trip together up to New Hampshire tomorrow. Can't wait. Doing some hiking, biking, driving to the top of Mount Washington (tallest mt. on the east coast of the US), and walking this gorge at one of the ski resorts.

chguy78 · « **Reply #37 on:** September 04, 2009, 03:52:51 pm »

Have a great time at Mt. Washington - it's so beautiful (and always so windy). That said, it was beaten into our heads during elementary school that NC has the highest mountain in the East: Mt. Mitchell :-) I must defend my state's honor.

piercedPINOY · « **Reply #38 on:** September 09, 2009, 08:57:11 am »

nice couple and so is lovely, i am personally encouraged. well continue and enjoy life, never be scared of trying a relationship which i strongly trust that only through dating is the only way to find your perfect mate..

so now, i am hopeful that oneday he'd come to complete my heart. =) AWWW!

decayingsinner · « **Reply #39 on:** September 12, 2009, 12:02:50 am »

Some photos from vacation:

Me above the clouds at Mt. Washington

decayingsinner · « **Reply #40 on:** November 10, 2009, 10:03:11 pm »

I just had to reply to this message and bump it because I am so happy about my recent numbers, my cd4 is steadily going up and I'm undetectable!!

My partner and I are having a fabulous relationship. This is what I've always wanted in a relationship. We're taking it slow, going towards our 6 months, and have done things I never thought have (like ride the tallest roller coaster in the world). I have nothing to complain about.

megasept · « **Reply #41 on:** November 10, 2009, 10:07:06 pm »

Quote from: Longislander on June 16, 2009, 01:13:46 pm

You guys make a handsome couple, I wish you both the best!

Paul

If 2 guys could make babies, yours would be very very fine!

-Steven (megasept)

Basquo · « **Reply #42 on:** November 10, 2009, 10:37:55 pm »

Quote from: megasept on November 10, 2009, 10:07:06 pm

If 2 guys could make babies, yours would be very very fine!

I'm sure they are trying!

Agreed that you are a very good-looking couple, and you look as happy as your posts describe!

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