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Author Topic: What are my Risks totally out of my mind with worry and depression  (Read 628 times)

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Offline Danspur

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Hi Guys, last year I engaged at a massage parlor a Titjob in October and 3 handjobs during the period of November and December.
The titjob was unprotected but the handjobs she wore gloves and the last one I wore a condom.
During the last handjob I ejaculated prematurely as I was struggling to get the condom on before she touched me and it caused me some pain, she went on to touch me for around 10 seconds after.
At no point did my penis in all episodes come into contact with any of her private parts.
The next couple of days I went on to get some kind of Prostatis and Epydidimus.
My urine tests came back clear and my blood results normal too.
Reading all the comments on here I know everyone says itís no risk, but nevertheless I have tested negative at 28 days, 9 weeks, 90 days and 98 days all with 4th generation tests.
Iíve also done loads of Biosure rapid finger prick tests, last one at 108 days.
For the Prostatis I was put on Ciproflaxcin and Tamosulin the muscle relaxant, would these effect my tests?
After I have finished long courses of antibiotics nearly 3 months worth I have got Oral thrush and Acid reflux.
Terrible headaches and a swollen lymph node appeared under my armpit for two weeks.
Iíve been literally unwell for 3 months non stop, I just dunno what to think and have convinced myself itís HIV.
I hear about people serconverting after 3 months and presume Iím one of those.
I really donít know where to turn and Iím petrified what I have done, Iíve never slept with anyone apart from my wife and it was a stupid mistake to engage in these handjobs.
Should I do more testing?
Please can somebody give me some advice.

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Re: What are my Risks totally out of my mind with worry and depression
« Reply #1 on: April 06, 2021, 05:21:18 pm »
Hiya.

Read your post three times. What you posted over handjobs and titjobs was no HIV risk to you whatsoever, and not testing over these incidents would have been conclusive already.

You tested anyway, and the result was negative. It's not going to change unless you have had more recent sexual encounters that were a real risk.

Sorry to read that you have been feeling unwell. It is not HIV from these events; that much is certain, and it's not HIV specific.  I hope you feel better soon but see your doctor and work with them to diagnose and treat whatever is causing you to feel unwell.

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Iíve never slept with anyone apart from my wife


Somewhat obvious but I mention it to anyone who is in a relationship. If you engage in condomless sex with your wife, you are obviously at risk. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results. However, this does not prevent HIV, and any condomless intercourse is accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

So as you are sexually active test at least yearly for STI's and if you do choose to engage in condomless intercourse, consider testing more frequently for HIV and STI's.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your health care provider about taking PrEP going forward as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: What are my Risks totally out of my mind with worry and depression
« Reply #2 on: April 06, 2021, 06:57:05 pm »
Thank you Jim, very kind of you to reply does medication like antibiotics or alpha blockers effect Test results?
And finally Jim if it was Hiv that was making me unwell it would show up on the tests right?
Thank you again mate.

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Re: What are my Risks totally out of my mind with worry and depression
« Reply #3 on: April 06, 2021, 07:02:41 pm »
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Thank you Jim, very kind of you to reply does medication like antibiotics or alpha blockers effect Test results?

No.

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And finally Jim if it was Hiv that was making me unwell it would show up on the tests right?
Thank you again mate.

Symptoms or not if you had HIV it would show on the tests after the window period

I've also already answered that your concerned encounters were no HIV risk whatsoever and these symptoms are not HIV related from those encounters.
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Re: What are my Risks totally out of my mind with worry and depression
« Reply #4 on: April 06, 2021, 07:26:04 pm »
Finally Jim
Regarding the window period, 3 months is sufficient correct or 6 months, there is so much contracting info on this.

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Re: What are my Risks totally out of my mind with worry and depression
« Reply #5 on: April 06, 2021, 07:33:04 pm »
6 months would be about 30 years outdated.

Lets recap.

You had no HIV risk from the handjob, no need to test over this as HIV can't be acquired that way and we're not going to pretend it was an HIV risk. It lacks all the biological and environmental conditions needed.

So relax and move on with your life. Regarding your wife, that's your ongoing risk and as you are sexually active make sure to test at least yearly and more frequently if you engage in condomless intercourse.

Finally, I am sorry that you have been stressing about and feeling unwell, I hope you feel better soon. Work with your doctor and treat whatever is making you feel unwell.
« Last Edit: April 06, 2021, 07:43:26 pm by Jim Allen »
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