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HIV EXPOSURE ..PLESE HELP ME
« on: March 07, 2021, 05:49:33 pm »
Hi Jim.

I am from Malaysia. Recently i had an encounter with sexual worker.
Started with a blowjob where the woman put on the condom for me. Basically the blowjob was with condom(off brand latex condom)
 as she preferred it that way. We proceeded to sex which lasted almost 10 minutes. Now the problem is she was dry and i was rough during the penetration. I came inside the condom. She removed the condom and wiped me off as i was lying down. Since then i am dead worried on the condom's condition as i was rough, what if the condom tear or broke. When i asked her about the condom condition when she removed it she said it was intact. I could not check as she threw it away. Also when she was aboout to remove the condom i noticed that the condom was not covering my shaft completely, however the head of penis was covered.And also i fingered her and i have the habit of biting fingernails which resulted with a smallcut near myfingerbed. This has been worrying me and 6 days since the incident i have been having few symtomps. Starting with itchiness all over my body, no rashes and feeling heaty all over the body. And now i am having burning sensation on my palms for the past 2 days. My palms are hot and burning as i am writing this to you. I still have to wait 3 more weeks to do the 4th gen test and this is killing me. I am married..please dont judge me, i am dead worried of infecting my wife and have been having suicidal thoughts. Please help me!
The questions are:
1. What is the possibility of condom broke/tore?
2. Am i at risk of contracting HIV?
3. Do i need to do the test?
4. Is my symtomps indicating HiV acute symtomps? As when i googled my symtomps they said could be underlying HIV infection.
5. Can i move on with my life and continue unprotected sex with my wife?

Please help me Jim.  Relying on you.
 
« Last Edit: March 07, 2021, 06:19:52 pm by Reyij »

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Re: HIV EXPOSURE ..PLESE HELP ME
« Reply #1 on: March 07, 2021, 08:14:23 pm »
Hiya

Sorry to hear how much pain you are in and that you have been are feeling unwell. It's not HIV specific or related to HIV from the concerned encounter. See your doctor and treat whatever is making you feel unwell.

I read your post three times, so fingering and receiving a blowjob is no HIV risk to you whatsoever. Nothing you mentioned changes that.

As for the intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse, it's obvious. There is no reason to stress or test outside of the standard yearly routine as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

Regarding your wife, understand this is an ongoing thing as you are married.
If you engage in condomless sex with your partner, then you are obviously at risk. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results. However, this does not prevent HIV, and any condomless intercourse is accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

If you do choose to engage in condomless intercourse, consider testing more frequently for HIV and far easier to acquire STI's. As a sexually active adult, it's would be recommended to test at least out of routine at least yearly for HIV & STI's.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your health care provider about taking PrEP in the future as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as 'safe' in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV.  Test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: HIV EXPOSURE ..PLESE HELP ME
« Reply #2 on: March 07, 2021, 08:18:45 pm »
Thanks Jim
 

To make it clearer..regarding the penetrative sex. Do i have to worry or get myself tested other than yearly routine test? Is there any HIV risk from this incident. Should i be worried about my symtomps if its related to HIV? Pls answer Jim. I promise will end this thread. I am just super worried.

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Re: HIV EXPOSURE ..PLESE HELP ME
« Reply #3 on: March 07, 2021, 08:30:59 pm »
You should see your doctor treat whatever is making you feel unwell, it's not HIV related to the incident with the sex worker.

As said HIV can't transmit through an intact condom and the encounter with the sex worker does not warrant any additional HIV testing.

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« Reply #4 on: March 07, 2021, 08:32:32 pm »
Thanks Jim . GOD BLESS YOU!

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Re: HIV EXPOSURE ..PLESE HELP ME
« Reply #5 on: March 09, 2021, 11:35:55 pm »
Hi Jim,

So sorry to bother again. Symtomps have been killing me. The body heaty i mentioned earlier, i realised that i am having hot flashes and chills especially at night. Not sure if this is due to my anxiety. And i read on HIV symtomps on your website these were mentioned. And also 8 days post the exposure.  I have been having hot throat and feels rough at throat. Checked at clinic today the doctor said it is inflamed and prescribed me antiobiotic.

I am really worried. Could this mean that i am infected and i am having acute HIV symtomps. Please reply.

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« Reply #6 on: March 10, 2021, 01:32:06 am »
Sorry to hear about your sore throat. Understand that the doctor has given you an antibiotic for this non-viral infection.

Hopefully you will fill better soon.

I'm not going to pretend you had an exposure from the sex worker.

The only risk you mentioned here would be the ongoing condomless intercourse. If you want to know your hiv status then test 6 weeks after your last condomless encounter with a blood drawn HIV antibodies test, a non reactive result at that time will rarely ever change. Although generally not needed if you want a conclusive result you can retest at 3 months.

You should see your doctor treat whatever is making you feel unwell, it's not HIV related to the incident with the sex worker.

As said HIV can't transmit through an intact condom and the encounter with the sex worker does not warrant any additional HIV testing.

Jim

Hiya

Sorry to hear how much pain you are in and that you have been are feeling unwell. It's not HIV specific or related to HIV from the concerned encounter. See your doctor and treat whatever is making you feel unwell.

I read your post three times, so fingering and receiving a blowjob is no HIV risk to you whatsoever. Nothing you mentioned changes that.

As for the intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse, it's obvious. There is no reason to stress or test outside of the standard yearly routine as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

Regarding your wife, understand this is an ongoing thing as you are married.
If you engage in condomless sex with your partner, then you are obviously at risk. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results. However, this does not prevent HIV, and any condomless intercourse is accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

If you do choose to engage in condomless intercourse, consider testing more frequently for HIV and far easier to acquire STI's. As a sexually active adult, it's would be recommended to test at least out of routine at least yearly for HIV & STI's.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your health care provider about taking PrEP in the future as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as 'safe' in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV.  Test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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« Last Edit: March 10, 2021, 02:53:03 am by Jim Allen »
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