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Offline Cblueguy

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Should I be worried?
« on: March 03, 2021, 01:24:01 pm »

I had an sex with a girl on Friday, we discussed sexual history before hand, she was 30 and had only last her virginity 3 years ago, she had one stable sexual partner last year and practiced safe sex everytime which was only every 2 months. Before Friday the last time she has sex was Mid December. If course she could have lied about that.

I have anxiety and that has been played up by the fact that I realised I had a scrap on my finger that came in contact with Vagina Fluid, the scrap never bleed and was not bleeding at the time. I also shaved my penis 3 hours before which there was a slight knick towards the lower half of my penis, that bleed slighlty in the shower but then was fine within minutes and was not bleeding when we had sex 3 hours later.  We used a condom for the sex but I still am worried maybe some fluid could have got on the knick if it was not covered completely by the condom or my scrap on the finger. She did not get very wet and we had to use lots of water-based lube.

 I did the rapid hiv test 3 days later because I went to my gp to discuss and was negative. She said that to be sure she wants me to do a test in 6 weeks as well.

Suffer from high anxiety and the wait to do the tests at 6 weeks is quite stressful.

I do trust she was free but in a normal case should I be seriously worried? My anxiety is bad

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Re: Should I be worried?
« Reply #1 on: March 03, 2021, 01:29:49 pm »
Hiya.

Whatever she and you claimed about your history is totally irrelevant and it only takes once.

Anyhow, what you posted is not a concern. Asides from a number of barriers to your concerns and conditions that lack, shaving cut and scrapes are not routes for HIV.

Relax, move on with your life. Continue to use condoms for any intercourse and as you are sexually active test out of standard routine at least yearly for STI's and HIV.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your health care provider about taking PrEP going forward as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Should I be worried?
« Reply #2 on: March 03, 2021, 01:33:54 pm »
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She said that to be sure she wants me to do a test in 6 weeks as well.

Look either your GP is very outdated, you told her something you did not tell me or you are telling a little lie.

Whatever the case, I am not going to pretend what you posted is a concern.
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Re: Should I be worried?
« Reply #3 on: March 03, 2021, 01:50:13 pm »
Hey Jim,

Thank you so much for your response. Told you everything, she said that I should do it because in her words "its her personality to be sure." So I went with it

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Re: Should I be worried?
« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2021, 02:21:19 pm »
How HIV can or can't transmit does not care about personality. It's a biological event.

You had no HIV risk unless you have had other sexual activities/encounters not mentioned here.

Jim

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Re: Should I be worried?
« Reply #5 on: March 05, 2021, 04:23:37 am »
Hi Jim

I am aware it does not care about personality, I was just providing context to why she wanted me to test in 6 weeks.

Thanks for your help thus far, struggling with an anxiety is tough and sometimes reassurance of facts is helpful. May I ask do you know if it is true that a cut needs to be actively bleeding to allow HIV to be transmitted?


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Re: Should I be worried?
« Reply #6 on: March 05, 2021, 06:03:24 am »
Hiya,

Good because you had no risk from the cut, it's that simple.

As said asides from several barriers to your concerns and conditions that lack, shaving cut, minor wounds, and scrapes are not routes even if bleeding.

For a cut to be a theoretical route you would not be having sex, you would be having urgent medical care and stitches. Even if you had a deep knife wound as an example it by itself would not pose an HIV concern in the situation you described. 

Move on with your life. Continue to use condoms for any intercourse and test yearly out of routine for STI's.

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