Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
May 07, 2021, 07:21:29 am

Login with username, password and session length


Members
Stats
  • Total Posts: 759550
  • Total Topics: 64406
  • Online Today: 268
  • Online Ever: 4912
  • (November 13, 2019, 02:56:14 am)
Users Online
Users: 4
Guests: 216
Total: 220

Welcome


Welcome to the POZ Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and others concerned about HIV/AIDS.  Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning:  Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

  • The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own physician.

  • All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

  • Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators of these forums. Click here for “Do I Have HIV?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ community forums.

  • We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge.

  • Product advertisement—including links; banners; editorial content; and clinical trial, study or survey participation—is strictly prohibited by forums members unless permission has been secured from POZ.

To change forums navigation language settings, click here (members only), Register now

Para cambiar sus preferencias de los foros en español, haz clic aquí (sólo miembros), Regístrate ahora

Finished Reading This? You can collapse this or any other box on this page by clicking the symbol in each box.

Welcome to Do I Have HIV?

Welcome to the "Do I Have HIV?" POZ forum.

This special section of the POZ forum is for individuals who have concerns about whether or not they are HIV positive. Individuals are permitted to post up to three questions or responses in this forum.

Ongoing participation in the "Do I Have HIV?" forum (posting more than three questions or responses) requires a paid subscription, with secure payments made via PayPal.

A seven-day subscription is $9.99, a 30-day subscription is $14.99 and a 90-day subscription is $24.99.

Anyone who needs to post more than three messages in the "Do I Have HIV?" forum -- including past, present and future POZ Forums members -- will need to subscribe, with secure payments made via PayPal.

There is no charge to read threads in the "Do I Have HIV?" forum, nor will there be a charge for participating in any of the other POZ forums. In addition, the POZ Basics "HIV Transmission and Risks" and "HIV Testing" basics, will remain accessible to all.

NOTE: HIV testing questions will still need to be posted in the "Do I Have HIV?" forum; attempts to post HIV symptoms or testing questions in any other forums will be considered violations of our rules of membership and subject to time-outs and permanent bans.

To learn how to upgrade your Forums account to participate beyond three posts in the "Do I Have HIV?" Forum, please click here.

Thank you for your understanding and future support of the best online support service for people living with, affected by and at risk for HIV.

Author Topic: I am an idiot.  (Read 874 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline FordRangerRick

  • Standard
  • Member
  • Posts: 3
I am an idiot.
« on: March 01, 2021, 10:22:43 am »
I am a circumcised heterosexual male with a self diagnosed sex addiction. I will regularly hoomup with girls I meet in public or via dating apps. I will wear a condom if they ask, otherwise I usually don't. I get tested every 6 months or so for STDs and only caught Chlamydia once. I will also see a hooker once or twice a month.

6 weeks ago I met up with a hooker. She agreed to BBJ and covered anal for $60. I thought to myself " Good deal!" I get to her place, start with a BBJ and put on a condom. Upon entry to her butthole she says "Whoops!" The condom had split. I pullout, put hand sanitizer all over my genitals and put on a new condom and finish. I pay up and leave.

On the way home I start stressing out. She was a bargain and regularly engaged in anal. I started panicking. I did what everyone else on this forum does and I start reading about HIV. Percentages for insertive vs receptive anal, oral, broken condoms, window periods, symptoms etc. I learn about PEP. At around 58 hours from the exposure I get my first dose. Take my next dose 12 hours later. I finish the full 28 day course of Truvada once a day and Isentress twice a day. My initial HIV test was negative from when I consulted for PEP.

I took my post PEP blood test yesterday, more than 6 weeks after exposure. I am nervously awaiting the results. I know the odds are generally in my favor. Logically I doubt I caught HIV but there is always a chance. I have never been this stressed before in my life. It seems silly but I cant help it.

6 weeks from exposure seems to be pretty conclusive but with PEP there are studies that say the window period may be delayed. I am really stressed out. Its my own stupidity that got me this way. I hate myself for it. I know there isn't really a question here. I just needed to vent. I haven't told anyone about this. I have no one to talk to about it. I just needed to get it out, even if its just typing.

Thanks for reading. I will update when I get my results back.

Offline Jim Allen

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 17,042
  • Twitter @JimAllenDublin
    • HIV Lessons
Re: I am an idiot.
« Reply #1 on: March 01, 2021, 11:00:36 am »
Hiya,

Understand you regularly engage in condomless intercourse and post your last encounter you got worried and started a course of PEP that you finished. The blowjob was no HIV risk to you whatsoever.

As for the odds per act its doesn't really mean anything or apply to individual cases.

The good news PEP is highly effective when started within 72 hours, test at 6 weeks post finishing the PEP course with a blood-drawn HIV antibodies test to know your HIV status. A negative (non-reactive) result at that time would rarely ever change. If you wish, you can repeat this test at 3 months post finishing the PEP for a definite result, although it's generally not needed.

Try not to focus on HIV, don't be hard on yourself, just live your life and test when due.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP in the future as an additional layer of HIV protection

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and, the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

Please Note.
As a member of the "Do I have HIV?" The forum you are required to only post in this one thread no matter how long between visits or the subject matter. You can find this thread by going to your profile and selecting show own post and it will take you here. It helps us to help you when you keep all your thoughts or questions in one thread and it helps other readers to follow the discussion. Any additional threads will be deleted.



« Last Edit: March 01, 2021, 11:11:39 am by Jim Allen »
HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
HIV 101
Read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
Read about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
HIV TasP
You can read about HIV prevention here:
HIV prevention
Read about PEP and PrEP here
PEP and PrEP

Offline FordRangerRick

  • Standard
  • Member
  • Posts: 3
Re: I am an idiot.
« Reply #2 on: March 02, 2021, 09:21:28 am »
Haven't heard back about my own bloodwork yet. Still waiting. With all of my anxiety though I went out and purchased 2 Oraquick tests from a local pharmacy.

I found the prostitute from 6 weeks ago. She was very patient about the whole thing. I said I would pay her $100 for her to take the Oraquick test with me. She said that she was last tested in December and always wears condoms. She was pretty sure she is negative but that she would humor me.

We each followed the directions with the kit andnboth came back negative. HUGE relief! Now just waiting on my own bloodwork.

Offline Jim Allen

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 17,042
  • Twitter @JimAllenDublin
    • HIV Lessons
Re: I am an idiot.
« Reply #3 on: March 02, 2021, 11:56:02 am »
Hiya.

Look just focus on your own blood work, that's the only result that matters.
The OraQuick is only good after 3 months post-exposure without PEP and it's cheaper and better to just test yourself when due.

Best, Jim
HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
HIV 101
Read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
Read about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
HIV TasP
You can read about HIV prevention here:
HIV prevention
Read about PEP and PrEP here
PEP and PrEP

Offline FordRangerRick

  • Standard
  • Member
  • Posts: 3
Re: I am an idiot.
« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2021, 10:14:32 am »
Negative at 46 days post possible exposure via 4th gen test. 16 days post PEP.

The person I was worried about getting HIV from also tested negative via an Oraquick test.

Will test at 12 weeks out just as a precaution but I feel like a weight has been lifted off of me.

The anxiety of the last 6 weeks was very difficult. The amount of information available about HIV while very good to help understand the disease but also floods the mind with possibilities. The symptoms of seroconversion mimic just about every other viral infection. The long window period for testing leaves weeks of worry. The studies that show that one guy out of a thousand who seroconverted months after most makes for a lot of anxiety.

I have learned a lot about HIV in these last 6 weeks and have gained a new sympathy for those that do test positive. I am also amazed at people who march gracefully forward with their lives who are positive. It has changed my mind a lot about the HIV community.

Thank you for reading.

Offline Jim Allen

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 17,042
  • Twitter @JimAllenDublin
    • HIV Lessons
Re: I am an idiot.
« Reply #5 on: March 03, 2021, 10:20:16 am »
Hiya.

I recommend you stop reading up about things that simply don't apply to you or aren't relevant.

Try not to focus on HIV and remind yourself that PEP is highly effective. Just see testing as confirmation and test at 6 weeks post finishing the PEP course with a blood-drawn HIV antibodies test to know your HIV status.

If you wish, you can repeat this test at 3 months post finishing the PEP for a definite result, although it's generally not needed.
HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
HIV 101
Read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
Read about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
HIV TasP
You can read about HIV prevention here:
HIV prevention
Read about PEP and PrEP here
PEP and PrEP

 


Terms of Membership for these forums
 

© 2021 Smart + Strong. All Rights Reserved.   terms of use and your privacy
Smart + Strong® is a registered trademark of CDM Publishing, LLC.