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Title: Really scared from 4 yr old encounter
Post by: worriedsick17 on January 23, 2021, 01:59:18 pm
Hi
I am suddenly paranoid about an encounter had 4 yrs ago.
I received a blowjob and had protected sex afterwards from a friend.
Recently she broke all contacts and thats when my paranoia kicked in.
I am married now and never had sex with any other women after this.
I have mostly been healthy in these 4 yrs with no major problems.
Is my anxiety justified or Am I overthinking now ?
Here I was planning to start my family and suddenly I am all paranoid.
Please help
Title: Re: Really scared from 4 yr old encounter
Post by: Jim Allen on January 23, 2021, 03:39:47 pm
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I am married now and never had sex with any other women after this.

Wait a sec, so either this means you married the friend from 4 years ago or you married someone else but never had any sex with your partner or anyone else since having sex 4 years ago with this friend ??

Title: Re: Really scared from 4 yr old encounter
Post by: worriedsick17 on January 23, 2021, 03:58:01 pm
I am sorry for creating confusion, I married another woman and been in a monogamous relationship with her since my marriage. This one encounter that happened with another friend happened 4 years back and is  worrying me suddenly.
Title: Re: Really scared from 4 yr old encounter
Post by: Jim Allen on January 23, 2021, 04:14:06 pm
Okay, thanks

Look about 4 years ago receiving a blowjob is no HIV risk to you whatsoever and HIV can't transmit through an intact condom.

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I married another woman and been in a monogamous relationship with her since my marriage.

Look no judgement but if you do engage in condomless sex with your partner then you are obviously at risk. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV and any condomless intercourse is accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

If you do choose to engage in condomless intercourse, consider testing more frequently for HIV and easier to acquire STI's. As a sexually active adult, it's recommended to test out of routine at least yearly for HIV and easier to acquire STI's.

Now is as good of a time as any to start yearly testing for STI's.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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