First of all thank you very much for your amazing support and time.
I have been trying to overcome my fear of STD's for a while. I am gay and while it had already taken me long enough to accept my identity, I was also too late to explore my sexuality and now I could overcome my fears by trusting in science.
I have had various sexual experiences with nearly six different people in the last two months. Although not all of them had anal sex, there was mutual oral sex for all.
1- I pay attention to my oral hygiene, but I may have bleeding gums or I have large tonsils. Even if I don't deep throat brutally, the other person's penis may have touched my tonsils. When oral sex is performed on me, deep throat can be included in this...
2- I was top in anal sex two or three times. I made sure to put the condom on correctly every time, checked it frequently to make sure it wouldn't come off, and had sex by gripping the condom with my thumb and index finger.
3- I've only been bottom once. It was a week ago. I put the condom on my partner with my hands and checked the condom frequently with my hand during sex. The only problem was that the lube we used was expired. Other than that, the condom was intact. I checked the condom at every stage.
I have been feeling a burning sensation in my left groin for a week now. I keep pressing on it to check if it is swollen. There does not appear to be any swelling, but when sitting there is a discomfort/burning/fullness feeling as if it were swollen. Maybe it's swelling, I'm not sure.
I don't want to regret what I experienced because I believe that I acted with responsibility and was truly careful. But I'm still not sure... What if I made a mistake somewhere, at some point that I don't know about, and this swelling in my groin is caused by it?
Even though all of them have said that they are on Prep, I know that their words cannot be trusted.
What do you think the risks of what I wrote are? Especially oral sex, I was unprotected...
Thanks a million
Jim Allen:
--- Quote ---Even though all of them have said that they are on Prep --- End quote ---
Their PrEP status is irrelevant to you.
--- Quote ---I have been feeling a burning sensation in my left groin for a week now. I keep pressing on it to check if it is swollen. There does not appear to be any swelling, but when sitting there is a discomfort/burning/fullness feeling as if it were swollen. Maybe it's swelling, I'm not sure. --- End quote ---
Stop pressing it as you will make it sore and swell. Do not ignore the burning, see your GP and get it checked and treated.
--- Quote ---1- I pay attention to my oral hygiene, but I may have bleeding gums or I have large tonsils. Even if I don't deep throat brutally, the other person's penis may have touched my tonsils. When oral sex is performed on me, deep throat can be included in this...
2- I was top in anal sex two or three times. I made sure to put the condom on correctly every time, checked it frequently to make sure it wouldn't come off, and had sex by gripping the condom with my thumb and index finger.
3- I've only been bottom once. It was a week ago. I put the condom on my partner with my hands and checked the condom frequently with my hand during sex. The only problem was that the lube we used was expired. Other than that, the condom was intact. I checked the condom at every stage. --- End quote ---
You gave a blowjob, received a blowjob and had anal intercourse as insertive & receptive partner.
Receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV; thus, it makes sense that after 40+ years of this pandemic in terms of BJs, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.
As for giving a blowjob, the mouth generally lacks a route for HIV to infect. The bleeding gums or touching your tonsils make no difference and saliva also neutralises HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells and that's just one barrier to this, so giving a blowjob is such a minute HIV risk that it doesn't warrant testing outside of yealry routine.
As for intercourse, HIV can't be transmitted through an intact latex, polyisoprene or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing about HIV or testing for HIV outside the standard yearly HIV screening. The expired lube made no difference in this case. (In other words, no HIV risk)
In summary, what you posted here isn't an HIV concern, however, receiving & giving blowjobs was, of course, a risk for far easier-to-acquire STIs and intercourse even with a condom also remains a risk for far easier-to-transmit STIs but no need to panic, move on with your life and get an STI screening yearly out of standard routine.
Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks: Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV and get vaccinated against HPV, Hepatitis A & B.
Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.
Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.
Kind regards
Jim
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DiaDuit24:
Thank you very much for your reply Jim, that's amazing help!
I had my first dose of HPV vaccine two months ago. I have been vaccinated against Hepatitis A & B.
I will always continue to use condoms. However, I am still very concerned about this pain/swelling/burning feeling in my groin. I try not to touch it. However, on the other hand, when I searched on the internet, it says that this is an early symptom of HIV.
I don't want to bother you with my questions any more because you answered them quite clearly.
Thanks a million
Jim Allen:
You're welcome.
--- Quote ---I am still very concerned about this pain/swelling/burning feeling in my groin. I try not to touch it. --- End quote ---
It's not HIV-specific, stop googling. You should be concerned though, no need to panic but see your GP, and get whatever is causing the problem treated. There are plenty of other infections and problems that cause these issues.
--- Quote ---I had my first dose of HPV vaccine two months ago. I have been vaccinated against Hepatitis A & B. --- End quote ---
Good, also consider PrEP as an additional layer of prevention and prehaps more importantly it will offer some peace of mind for the future.
--- Quote ---DiaDuit --- End quote ---
I'm not recommending buying online but ill give you the information.
If you don't meet the HSE guidelines for free PrEP, some people source it online as it is cheaper than buying in Ireland (Like most products :( ) HIV Ireland has some pointers and pros/cons of online sourcing and I've also included a UK site that deals with some online pharmacies.
Thank you very much for all the info, really appriciated.
Jim, I know you've gotten these ridiculous questions many times. I'm so sorry to be one of them. However, in this process of identity and sexuality exploration, I think I may have gone a little overboard.
I have had various experiences with 10 different people.
With these 10 different people I did the following activities:
- Receiving Oral
- Performing Oral (without ejaculation and I haven't done that with all the people)
- Protected anal intercourse (Top) with two different people.
- Protected anal intercourse once (Bottom)
- Got fingered and I don't know If the persons cuticles are healthy or If he has any open sores on his fingers... Or he masturbate himself and some fluids contacted with my anus? I'm really not sure with this.
First of all, I am leaving this discovery process because I realized that I have discovered enough... :)
I still feel a sense of discomfort/fullness/burning pain in my groin. Sometimes I even wonder if this pain is coming from my testicles. In other words, I generally feel discomfort in that area. Now I've started checking my lymph nodes in the neck/chin area or underarms/around the breasts... There's no obvious swelling, but it feels like there is... I can't be sure.
There are only a few things I can be sure of: I used a condom during all intercourses, checking every moment. Everything was fine. I try to remind myself of this. However, I am not sure if I might have missed something or made a mistake because of unprotected oral sex or fingering.
I'm really sorry about this nonsense. I'm just waiting for enough days to pass, then I'll go straight to St. James hospital.