Nervousposter83:
Hi on the 16th of July I cheated on my Partner and vsited a Female Thai escort for the first time whilst extremely drunk. We had brief protected sex and I received unprotected oral and also very briefly gave unprotected oral on her clit as well as received an unprotected handjob.
Fear kicked in almost immediately and 29 Days later I went to a private clinic and had a HIV Duo test with P24 antibodies which came back the following day Negative thankfully.
Last night me and my long term female partner had a drink and I ended up giving her oral sex on her clit as well as inserting a single finger. My finger has a healing burn that I got from an oven almost a week previously it is practically healed but with just a slight tiny bitt of brown skin/scab. I also noticed this morning what looks like a possible small healing cut near my nail I have just been pressing it really hard to see if any blood will come out and it doesn't so hopefully it wasn't bleeding at the time of insertion.
I'm seriously worried that I could have potentially passed on HiV to her? I have avoided any sexual contact and was going to avoid doing anything until I had another HIV Duo P24 test at the private clinic at the 8 week mark after visiting the escort.
I am totally sick with worry and desperate for advice, have I gave this poor girl Hiv?
I have hopefully attached an image also of my finger if I have done it correctly please advise guys
https://ibb.co/5srFxKN
Jim Allen:
I read your post three times, going to skip a lot of the irrelevant stuff.
In summary, you had sex with a sex worker, and there was no HIV risk, no need to test over this incident for HIV either but you feel guilty because you have a partner and as a result of these feelings you are now stressing about HIV.
--- Quote ---We had brief protected sex and I received unprotected oral and also very briefly gave unprotected oral on her clit as well as received an unprotected handjob. --- End quote ---
Receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV; thus, it makes sense that after 40+ years of this pandemic in terms of BJs, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.
The handjob and cunnilingus also aren't an HIV risk. Zero!
As for intercourse, HIV can't be transmitted through an intact latex, polyisoprene or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing about HIV or testing for HIV outside the standard yearly HIV screening.
In other words, you had no HIV risk.
--- Quote ---my Partner --- End quote ---
I'll mention the same thing I always do whenever someone mentions a relationship; If you engage in condomless sex with your partner, you are obviously at risk of acquiring HIV. In relationships, condomless sex is often based on trust or past test results; however, this does not prevent HIV, so if condomless sex does occur, you should consider testing more frequently.
Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks: Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV and get vaccinated against HPV, Hepatitis A & B.
Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.
Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.
Kind regards
Jim
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Nervousposter83:
Thanks for the quick reply Jim and advice.
Could I just ask and confirm a couple of things if you have the time please?
I had my HIV Duo P24 antibodies test at a supposedly top private clinic called Pall Mall in Manchester it states on there website the following
The HIV Duo test combines a HIV1 & HIV2 antibody test with an HIV p24 antigen test and this makes it the most accurate HIV screening available from 28 days since exposure. This test does not require any further clinical follow-up if negative, giving you total reassurance.
Should I take this statement with a pinch of Salt and continue to have another test with them at 8 weeks?
Secondly would there be any risk at all to my partner with what I stated in my previous post? Say for example if my results from my test had missed the signs of infection?
I totally understand what you have posted Jim and I'm almost certain I haven't contracted Hiv from the information you have posted I'm just scared to death of giving my partner Hiv no matter how slim and you are totally right about the guilt as well.
Thanks in advance Jim I'm so glad there is people like you around.
Jim Allen:
--- Quote ---I totally understand what you have posted Jim --- End quote ---
No, you don't as you are now asking me about testing over a no HIV risk situation.
You had no HIV risk from the encounter with the sex worker, and therefore no HIV testing was needed over this encounter, you did not get HIV from the sex worker, and I will not be pretending otherwise or that testing is warranted just because you feel guilty as that would be a disservice to you and more importantly the community.
Come back to me with an HIV risk and I'll talk to you about that risk and correct testing needs & timeframes.
Jim Allen:
Now this is an HIV forum, your encounter with the sex worker was not an HIV risk.
If you want something to stress about receiving a blowjob and cunnilingus was a risk for several STIs and the levels of protection condoms offer for various STIs depend significantly on differences in how the diseases or infections are transmitted. Most STIs are far more infectious than HIV and some infections (Not HIV) are transmitted primarily by skin-to-skin contact, viral shredding or skin-to-lesion contact, etc., which may infect areas not covered by a condom, such as genital herpes, human papillomavirus [HPV], Chancroid (Haemophilus ducreyi) etc.
So if you want to stress, stress about that instead as at least there was a risk. Although, I see no reason to stress or test each time you have sex, just get tested yearly.
--- Quote ---this poor girl --- End quote ---
--- Quote ---long term female partner --- End quote ---
I presume your long-term female partner is a consenting adult. So whenever she accepts to have sex with you that comes with her accepting certain risks, she isn't some porcelain doll or less responsible for her health or less responsible during sex just because she is a woman.