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TheTruth22 - How do i post
« on: January 29, 2023, 01:55:08 pm »
Hello how do i post a question? I donít see anywhere that leads me to posting on the forum. Thanks

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Re: TheTruth22 - How do i post
« Reply #1 on: January 29, 2023, 01:56:53 pm »
There are instructions here: https://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=68057.0

However, I split your post into its own topic, so now you can just reply here.
« Last Edit: January 29, 2023, 02:00:39 pm by Jim Allen »
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Re: TheTruth22 - How do i post / concerns
« Reply #2 on: January 29, 2023, 02:13:55 pm »
Thank you. I appreciate you helping me in a fast manner. I do have some recent hiv concerns on two incidents that did occur in December of Ď22 & last weekend Janí23.

. I have a timeline of detailed events that I cannot explain and Iím hoping you can because itís really killing my anxiety the past two weeks.


12/15 / 22 - I engaged in oral and vaginal sex via protected condom (Trojan latex thin) with a CSW. She was on an upscale website and she claims she doesnít do as often.  She also stated she gets tested for everything including HIC often via planned parenthood. She claims her last test was a month before in November.

We engaged in oral sex first. She did lick my penis unprotected for less than 15 seconds before i got the condom. The oral sex from there was protected but it was a deepthroat type of oral sex. Before engaging in vaginal sex, i purposefully inspected condom out of fear of it being torn because I dealt with a experience before where a condom breakage occurred  where my full penis was exposed so since then Iíve been very serious on inspecting condoms. Itís been something that scares me now. However, the condom looked very much intact and my penis was covered. So she got on top of me for approx 1-2 mins. Before switching positions, i again inspected the condom. My penis and shaft was covered and i didnít notice any tears but i couldnít tell. We engaged for approx 1 min or so before i stopped her and proceeded to go back to oral sex. Where the situation gets weird is during oral she stated that the condom tasted not like her spit and she stated something else. She said itís better to just change condoms. That immediately got me nervous and before i took off the condom i looked to see if the condom was broken. It looked intact and all but again i donít know if there was tears i couldnít feel or see. All i know is that i was able to fully remove the condom but the comment she made stuck with me. So switching condoms i did finally ejaculate via oral sex protected.

12/17 - i began to experience symptoms. What i believe to be a lymph node under my jaw line area. I also went out to a bar that same night engaging with a woman.

12/18 i started to feel sweaty palms and feet.
12/19  or 12/20 - the lady i engaged conversation with at the bar told me she tested positive for Covid. She told me cause we were literally around one another talking most of the night.

My question is due to the condom. Is there a chance something occurred in the condom. Why would the CSW make a statement like that to me ?? and then 2 days later i experience symptoms. I didnít notice a tear but now anxiety is thru the roof. Also the sweaty palms on hands and feet which is still common. I do have sensitive skin but these symptoms although earlier than what i seen to be symptoms, are common symptoms to have. So hopefully you can assess this issue.

1/23/23 : I had unprotected oral sex with a female followed by protected vaginal sex. The issue kind of occurred when putting on condom. The condom DID FULLY COVER the base and penis, however I realized the whole condom had a tighter feel like it didnít stretch fully down. However the head was covered. After engaging in vaginal sex protected, because I became I couldnít remain erect, we did a lot of friction rubbing. I remember condom still on and kind of rubbing on the female as she was rubbing on top of me and slapping my penis on here. This may of occurred for a few mins or maybe less. My concern is at one point of her being on top of me, and me not being fully erect we tried to do sex again but it just wasnít working because of that issue. Iím not sure if the friction or the constant trying to put the head in caused my concern, but at one point i got her off of me and realized the condom was off which made me nervous. She was on top of me but i donít ever remember putting it in again after the first time because i wasnít fully erect. So was the chances i could be infected? Her rubbing her vagina on me and possibly putting on my penis. Again, i donít remember putting it in at all because there wasnít no act of me penetrating her based on all the factors listed. Did the friction of her grinding on me cause this? Because I didnít feel me penetrating or the condom actually falling off. I found the condom the next morning which seemed still in tact because it wasnít ripped apart.



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Re: TheTruth22 - How do i post
« Reply #3 on: January 29, 2023, 02:34:40 pm »
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12/15 / 22 - I engaged in oral and vaginal sex via protected condom (Trojan latex thin) with a CSW. She was on an upscale website and she claims she doesnít do as often.  She also stated she gets tested for everything including HIC often via planned parenthood. She claims her last test was a month before in November.

We engaged in oral sex first. She did lick my penis unprotected for less than 15 seconds before i got the condom. The oral sex from there was protected but it was a deepthroat type of oral sex. Before engaging in vaginal sex, i purposefully inspected condom out of fear of it being torn because I dealt with a experience before where a condom breakage occurred  where my full penis was exposed so since then Iíve been very serious on inspecting condoms. Itís been something that scares me now. However, the condom looked very much intact and my penis was covered. So she got on top of me for approx 1-2 mins. Before switching positions, i again inspected the condom. My penis and shaft was covered and i didnít notice any tears but i couldnít tell. We engaged for approx 1 min or so before i stopped her and proceeded to go back to oral sex. Where the situation gets weird is during oral she stated that the condom tasted not like her spit and she stated something else. She said itís better to just change condoms. That immediately got me nervous and before i took off the condom i looked to see if the condom was broken. It looked intact and all but again i donít know if there was tears i couldnít feel or see. All i know is that i was able to fully remove the condom but the comment she made stuck with me. So switching condoms i did finally ejaculate via oral sex protected.

12/17 - i began to experience symptoms. What i believe to be a lymph node under my jaw line area. I also went out to a bar that same night engaging with a woman.

12/18 i started to feel sweaty palms and feet.
12/19  or 12/20 - the lady i engaged conversation with at the bar told me she tested positive for Covid. She told me cause we were literally around one another talking most of the night.

My question is due to the condom. Is there a chance something occurred in the condom. Why would the CSW make a statement like that to me ?? and then 2 days later i experience symptoms. I didnít notice a tear but now anxiety is thru the roof. Also the sweaty palms on hands and feet which is still common. I do have sensitive skin but these symptoms although earlier than what i seen to be symptoms, are common symptoms to have. So hopefully you can assess this issue.

The symptoms within 2-3 days had nothing to do with HIV from the encounter even if you had told that you had engaged in a night of condomless intercourse with half the street and also had been sharing needles with a dozen drug users.

As for what the sex worker tasted its irrelevant, glad she could taste something  given the covid but my only doubt in your story is what you mean with;
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"I also went out to a bar that same night engaging with a woman."

Does this mean talking or something else?

I also read about the Jan 2023 encounter and will reply about both soon with an assessment.

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Re: TheTruth22 - How do i post
« Reply #4 on: January 29, 2023, 03:32:31 pm »
So you received oral sex, had frottage (rubbed/grinded against her) and had vaginal intercourse with a condom.

Firstly, receiving a blowjob with or without a condom lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV; thus, it makes sense that after 40+ years of this pandemic in terms of BJs, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

The same can be said for frottage.

Regarding intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing or testing for HIV outside the standard yearly HIV screening.

All that leaves is to question what you mean on the 17th of Dec with "I also went out to a bar that same night engaging with a woman." ?

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

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Re: TheTruth22 - How do i post
« Reply #5 on: January 29, 2023, 03:48:34 pm »
Thank you for your assessment and replies. The incident that occurred on the 23rd still leaves me confused on how the condom fell off but didnít tear as i found it on the bed the next morning. If she sat on me unprotected but i didnít penetrate does that warrant a risk? Thatís me assuming the worse case scenario even tho i donít recall due to me not being fully erect.

To answer your question : ďAll that leaves is to question what you mean on the 17th of Dec with "I also went out to a bar that same night engaging with a woman." ?

 I stated that as a possible reason why i developed early symptoms so early. That woman told me she tested positive for Covid days later. I meant to say engaging in conversation. I had no relations with the woman at the bar. Again i thank you for taking time out to reply to me.

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« Reply #6 on: January 29, 2023, 03:50:44 pm »
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If she sat on me unprotected but i didnít penetrate does that warrant a risk?

It's not an HIV risk.

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That woman told me she tested positive for Covid days later. I meant to say engaging in conversation. I had no relations with the woman at the bar.

Okay, perfect, just wanted to double-check check and thanks for clarifying.
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Re: TheTruth22 - How do i post
« Reply #7 on: February 01, 2023, 06:23:23 pm »
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« Reply #8 on: February 01, 2023, 06:31:40 pm »
Creating multiple accounts will be noticed and cause you to get banned.

You still have one more free post left, so if there is something you want to say, you can.
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