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Thanks Jim for the reply.

I already answered it's not an HIV concern, you are asking me the same questions after playing at home with a banana. This thread has had all the top myths in it so far, Subtypes with new or unknown transmission modes, fingering and PEP, the banana test, water testing and the old condom mirco holes.

Poking holes in a condom and sticking it on a banana is not the same mechanics, stress and it's not an issue during intercourse or an HIV concern. You are not going to find out something new at home after 40 years of this pandemic.

All I can recommend is that you eat the banana, use condoms for intercourse and test out of routine yearly. Stop playing arround and move on with your life.


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I am a bit OCD type, so please bear with me. I tried to replicate the act with a condom on a banana and found that it is easy to poke holes on the condom with teeth if care is not taken to avoid teeth... and the condom doesnt shred into pieces (as you have mentioned in many posts in this forum) and it is as if there is no damage ... only when I fill water, the small holes made with the teeth are found (pardon me for filling water again to test, I am worried and anxious) ...

so if we assume that the sex worker is not so professional and the condom got few minute holes on it from her teeth..., and after her blow job, with the same condom on (say with a few minute unnoticeable holes) I had vaginal sex ... would it be a concern?

Thank You.
Hey, Jim...thank you so much for the prompt reply. Just to confirm, I need not get tested myself for HIV over this incident? And, my concerns about small holes on the condom that may be formed by her teeth during oral sex are unfounded?

Thank you.

Read your post three times.

HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse due to defects or damage it's obvious to the insertive partner. There is no reason to be stressing about intercourse as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

Testing the condom after intercourse could damage the condom, as it's not designed as a reusable (re-stressed) product and this could lead you to mistakenly think that the condom was damaged during sex, when in fact you actually caused the damage after the intercourse by trying to "test" it with water. In short, testing the condom yourself before or after use is not a reliable way to tell you anything.

Testing condoms yourself is basically a step shy of paranoia if you ask me. Instead, use condoms correctly and consistently.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your health care provider about taking PrEP going forward as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards


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Hi, I am a male who a week back had sex with a female sex worker. She gave me oral sex with a condom on my penis. After a while I inserted my penis inside her vagina with the same condom on. Due to the tightness of her vagina and her displeasure I did not thrust but just removed my penis out in a few seconds. Then again inserted for a few seconds and removed. This is my sexual encounter.

My worry is that I did not change the condom (with which she gave me oral sex) while having vaginal insertion. I am afraid that during the oral sex her teeth might have made some minute holes on the condom. Usually I test with water after the sex, but this time I did not do. Am I at risk with the said encounter. Should I get tested over this incident?

Thank you for your great service to the humankind.
Do I Have HIV? / Re: I'm Worried about a sex I had
« Last post by Jim Allen on Yesterday at 03:01:45 pm »
You're welcome.

So rubbing is not an HIV concern, not even with day to day cuts, nicks,scrapes or small wounds.

Best, Jim
Pre-HAART Long-Term Survivors / PTSD
« Last post by OzPaul on Yesterday at 12:17:04 pm »
Hi Everyone,

Itís been quite a long time since Iíve posted. Iím wondering if  any other us Long Term Survivors, have been dealing with PTSD? Iíve starting suffering with this a few years ago, and am now about to embark on Cognitive Processing Therapy, to find a way to better cope with late onset PTSD.

Iíve been dealing with HIV, since the bad old days (early 80ís) and the difficulties of been given, what was then, a death sentence. Even though Iíve been quite blessed to be an LTNP/EC for 40 years now, the fear, anxiety and stress of being poz, haunts me still, as i i imagine is true for other LTS.

Iíd appreciate any info you can share about CPT for PTSD.

Thanks so much for your feedback. I hope to learn from other LTS with PTSD any beneficial ways of coping with the distressing diagnosis of PTSD

Kind regards,
Do I Have HIV? / Re: I'm Worried about a sex I had
« Last post by anony6461 on Yesterday at 11:56:43 am »
Thank you so much Jim. I think Iím able to relax and move on now so thanks again for my reply. The only other thing we did was really just rubbing - I masterbated while he was in front of me with his behind to me, and so my scrotum was in between the buttocks and rubbing his anus. I am assuming this is not a risk as the skin of the scrutiny is in tact. All I had was a spot of dried blood from a shaving nick I picked up about 5 days prior. No fresh wound.
Kind regards
Living With HIV / Cholesterol & Heart Risk Percentage
« Last post by Loa111 on Yesterday at 08:39:17 am »
Had my ID doc appointment yesterday. Everything went well and the ID doc mentioned my Cholesterol level in passing. I never was told nor asked about Cholesterol before, so this was interesting to me. 

My cholesterol level is 5.8 and doc said once it stays under 6 then that is fine. I was wondering after is it the actual HIV or the medication or both which cause higher cholesterol?  (Was searching this forum but didn't find a specific on this).

I was surprised as I expected my Cholesterol reading to be lower since I don't smoke, don't drink, I exercise regularly & usually eat clean most of the time. General health websites say 5.8 is high. So wondering about this?

Also ID Doc mentioned my cardiac risk percentage which I think was 1.6% he said this number is fine, and since I turn 50 later this year, it will be important for them to keep an eye on my heart going forward due to the effect HIV can have on it.
He did advise me to keep exercising.  Again this is a new figure for me which i was not aware of before. Delighted to know they are very thorough :)

Doc also mentioned weight again, and said it is expected over time with the treatment I am on Tivicay & Descoy, and he mentioned a few extra kilos is a better option than potentially weaker bones caused by older treatments.

Aside from this, it is 3 years to the month I ended up in hospital with PCP & found out I was poz. Happy Birthday lol.

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