Feeling so scared

[pleasehelp2013]

Hello...
I just wanted to get some feedback on my situation...here it goes
I had sex with a guy back in November.  It was protected, but he lingered inside of me a little too long to the point that he was no longer hard.  I turned my body some kind of way, and the condom slipped off of his penis and remained inside of me.  I then proceeded to remove it (I didn't have to fish for it).

Well...
I have been having consistent night sweats for the last month and I have been experiencing shortness of breath.  In addition, my hand was numb for about a week a while back.  I also have dry mouth and right after it happened my entire body was itching and I had some hair loss.  I am horrified to go and get tested

Please someone out there give me some insight!  It will be greatly appreciated.

[jkinatl2]

What you described is a very common thing. It is NOT a risk for HIV infection and it is only a minor risk for other STDs. In the future, you might ask the top to hold onto the base of the condom as he pulls out to avoid this.

This is NOT an HIV risk, however.

But of course I always recommend that EVERY secually active person who is not in a mutually monogamous relationship have a complete STD panel (including, of course) an HIV test at least twice a year.

[pleasehelp2013]

Hello...thank you for your response!
I am actually a woman...does that make a difference in what you've said?

[Ann]

Please,

No, it doesn't make a difference to what JK told you as far as hiv goes. However, women have been known to end up pregnant if semen spills out of the condom onto the outer vaginal area. Sperm, UNlike hiv, can swim and they're programmed to find that egg. They're persistent little so-and-so's. Hiv on the outside of your body, even in the vaginal area, is NOT a risk for hiv infection.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. For this reason, getting cum on the outside of your body is not a risk.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER THIS LEFT-BEHIND CONDOM, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann