For all the Ladies here.........."Dating Thread" by Al

[SASA39]

Not about dating,……………..
Mere about love………………
About feeling when you ……..

………..feel naked smooth and sleepy body of your lovely female soul mate in the morning…
………clothed only in a scent of a perfume that tingles your nostrils…………………………
……drink first cup of a warm coffee in silently and brightly spring morning………………..
……….give her bouquet of natural meadow flowers picked up by you after your jogging…
…..eat a meal that she has been cooking for you and adore it every time , because of her effort to make it……………………………………………………….
…….dance body to body to your favorite songs………………………………………………
………..surprise her with an unusual present (not ulimativelly expensive) but a present that she has been dreaming for a long time………………………………………………………………………..
……….pay a whole day treatment in a spa center for her………………………………………
……..know her favorite songs, books, movies, ……………………………………………
……….buy her sexy underwear and enjoy when she put it on when you go out………………
……know what she is going to say before she start a sentence…………………………………..
……ask/pay for her favorite artist to be a guest on her birthday………………………………..

……….gaze at a clear Greek Island summer  night sky ,head to head ,  with a glass of red wine , bonfire in front , in the deserted sandy beach , listening to some favorite ballads……………

Robbie Williams “Feel “
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvnOSDstWkQ
Justin Timberlake “Until the end of time “
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJCThGQKPWY
Barry White :
“Let the music play “
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V6NVnKFyY24
“The Secret Garden “
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FE0WmzYjchs
“I`ve got so much to give “
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXur958KRAQ   
and many many more………………………………

I had to put this here , but it took me some time to grow enough……..missing all of that………………….
                                                                  Al

[BT65]

Al, I am 100% against marriage, but damn, if I could find a man (besides johns) who would treat me like that all the time, I might have to reconsider. 

Hang in there, baby.

[Queen Tokelove]

Ok, where have you been all my life? And were you raised by a house full of ladies?

[SASA39]

 
Quite opposite..........
I used to practice some martial arts and hang out with some tough boys....
"Hard top , soft shoulder " C.Rea
But deep down below I realized that find a true soulmate is one of the greater blessings ( beside kids , and doing a job that you love ) in life........
Commitment , and giving , ...............without asking why.........
My intentions were not so ever  , to be , or present my self as some kind of Don Juan...........
Those thoughts were  just my inner me..............

[sunflower99]

I think that was beautifully written !

[tendai]

that was beautiful. if only it was like that for real...

[BT65]

Al, it was a very touching read.  Thanks for putting some of your inner self out here.

[SASA39]

And yes one more thing or book to be precise :
Eric Fromm : "The Art of Loving "
Maybe you can download that book from some e-book website like Guthenberg or so........................
                    Al

[SASA39]

that was beautiful. if only it was like that for real...

What do you mean by that ?.................Yes it is real..............

[Snowangel]

Very beautiful!

[tendai]

Just that i havent seen a lot of it, its more like the stuff from romantic novels and movies. or maybe i've lost my sense of romance or something.  but it is beautiful Al. Like the perfect relationship..

[BT65]

What do you mean by that ?.................Yes it is real..............

I think what Tendai is saying is that not everyone can have that idealistic of a relationship.  Like, if only what you were saying was always true, know what I mean.

[SASA39]

Yes I`m maybe more idealistic that I should be but to quote myself from my another post "Life mistakes and meanig of life- PART II " :

"To have faith means to dare, to think the unthinkable, yet to act within the limits of the realistically possible; it is the paradoxical hope to expect the Messiah every day, yet not to lose heart when he has not come at the appointed hour. This hope is not passive and it is not patient; on the contrary, it is impatient an active, looking for every possibility of action within the realm of real possibilities. Least of all it is passive as far as the growth and liberation of one's own person are concerned....

The situation of mankind is too serious to permit us to listen to the demagogues - least of all demagogues who are attracted to destruction - or even to the leaders who use only their brains and whose hearts have hardened. Critical and radical thought will only bear fruit when it is blended with the most precious quality man is endowed with - the love of life. "
Erich Fromm (1973) The Anatomy of Human Destructiveness, page 438

[BT65]

Al, I've studied Fromm in some of my psych classes.  You seem to be intrigued with him.   Of course, there are many psychologists who had good ideas.  But sooner or later, we have to develop our own (ideas).  If you are adopting Fromm's, you might want to check out some others (Erickson, Jung, Maslow, etc).

[SASA39]

Thanks , BT , Fromm intrigue me at some point , yes especially his postulates , but , yes I`m aware that a grown up person have to make own ideas .
Does my all previous post do not seem like that ?
             Al

[BT65]

Thanks , BT , Fromm intrigue me at some point , yes especially his postulates , but , yes I`m aware that a grown up person have to make own ideas .
Does my all previous post do not seem like that ?
             Al

Well sweetie, you do tend to quote a lot.  Which isn't necessarily a bad thing.  I just wonder 'who is the real Al?'  (said with love)

[Winiroo]

Aside from ask/pay for her favorite artist to be a guest on her birthday
and ……….gaze at a clear Greek Island summer  night sky ,head to head ,  with a glass of red wine , bonfire in front , in the deserted sandy beach , listening to some favorite ballads……………


I got all that.
Its not all rainbows, stars and dream like fluffiness. Like every real relationship we have our disagreements too.

Too much red head in me to always get along with everyone 

[SASA39]

I know that there are rainy days in every relationship..................
But my post was dedicated to one woman only , to a soulmate...
"And a real Al " ? Yes it was the person who wrote the first lines of his last three posts believe it or not................
It is sad because people in general first tend to look at any morally  abnormality in them..................or whatever..................
                          Al

[Dragonette]

I never had any of these things, OK except the skin on skin stuff  .

I'll make sure my BF sees this thread accidentally left open on the computer.

On a more serious note though, you know the first step to getting what you want is knowing what you want... I wish you all the luck Sasa 

[SASA39]

 
 Yes I know what I want , but it is maybe too ideal..............
              Al

[Dragonette]

Sasa, i really apologize. What I meant was that the guys I've personally met (dated) are quite different, unfortunately. It's Justin Timberlake in the video. Anyway I am very sorry b/c the last thing I meant was to hurt your feelings. I was serious about knowing what you want and getting it. That's how I did it. I mean have not had much luck until my current relationship when I knew I'd go for it no matter what, for myself. Sorry again and I'll delete my stupid joke. It was not meant against you at all.

[Dragonette]

I know so many guys who consider this the epitome of romance... "I got a special gift for you honey... come closer". Well it was just in poor taste to share it where I did.

 I KNOW the feeling of craving intimacy, it's like a hole in your heart. And even worse, having the loved one there who shuns you b/c you are poz, it's an awful situation to be in, I was lucky to experience it only for a few weeks, it's better to be alone, maybe. Or maybe the best thing is to try to hold on an make the best out of the reality you've got. Spring is coming Sasa, I am sorry I don't have wise words.

[tendai]

I know so many guys who consider this the epitome of romance... "I got a special gift for you honey... come closer".

guys like that make me wish u could programme them to think like what Sasa's writing about...
make them like the Stepford Husbands or something like that!

[SASA39]

I know so many guys who consider this the epitome of romance... "I got a special gift for you honey... come closer".

We are all grown up persons , or tend/pretend to be..............
So , OK , "special gift " but after...............

A few lovely dates...............
A dining in a fine restaurant..........
A bouquet of flowers...............or a chocolate..........
A long talk to see what she /he is really made of.............

In other way you treat her like an object , and "what goes around comes around    "

Over and out ( for now  )
                                              Al

[BT65]

In other way you treat her like an object , and "what goes around comes around    "

Over and out ( for now  )
                                              Al
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Yes, I just got done telling someone, 'don't do to me what you wouldn't want done to you.'  (of course, I was talking about sex, but you get my meaning).

[sharkdiver]

Yes, I just got done telling someone, 'don't do to me what you wouldn't want done to you.'  (of course, I was talking about sex, but you get my meaning).

sigh