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Offline sammaxwell

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HIV exposure college student
« on: August 19, 2021, 12:37:50 pm »
Hi everyone hope you're all doing well!

I just had sex with a closeted white privileged college student who hasn't had much gay experience (at least according to what he said). I don't have any contact with him whatsoever, don't know his status, and don't even know his name (he was too scared to share it). I am certain though that he's a college student and definitely inexperienced simply because of the way he acted.

He accidentally made by butthole bleed when he stuck a finger too harshly and then noticed I was bleeding when he was rimming me. He stopped and we just continued to make out. We didn't have any penetrative sex, only oral as we both gave each other blow jobs and he ate my ass which he noticed was bleeding a bit. I shrugged it off for the rest of the day until I freaked out later because I literally did not know who this person was and what IF he had some bleeding/cut in his mouth too. I went and got access to PEP which I've been on for 2 days now. I started 20 hours after I bled and he was rimming me.

He finally reached out to me in a fake snapchat profile he has and says he donates blood regularly and always uses condoms. He has only had gay sex very very few times and the rest has been with girls. Whenever he donates blood, they always thoroughly check for all STDs and HIV. He had just donated blood the day before we met and had sex. He'll receive the STD/HIV results for that in a few days.

Should I be worried? I know my chances are extremely low based on who this specific person and his gay background is, the chances he was also bleeding too in his mouth, and the fact that it was only oral in my anus. I'll continue to stay on PEP until I get the results back from him, but even then, he won't share his name and I don't know if the screenshot results are entirely real or not. Should I continue to stay in PEP even after I get the results? What are the chances I get HIV? What does HIV medication do to your body if there was no actual HIV exposure? Can you become HIV positive for taking HIV medication that you actually simply didn't need? This last question worries me the most.

Thanks everyone! Would appreciate any help and tips.

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Re: HIV exposure college student
« Reply #1 on: August 19, 2021, 12:40:13 pm »
I have so much to say about this post it's going to take me at least half an hour to reply
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Re: HIV exposure college student
« Reply #2 on: August 19, 2021, 01:19:46 pm »
Part 1 of my 2 post answer:

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What does HIV medication do to your body if there was no actual HIV exposure? Can you become HIV positive for taking HIV medication that you actually simply didn't need?

You can't get HIV from HIV meds. HIV meds don't contain HIV and even if they did you would not acquire HIV from ingesting HIV in a pill. HIV is far too fragile and unlike bacteria does not self-replicate or survive outside the human body.

In short, HIV meds are antiretroviral medicines also called ART or HAART, which work by stopping the virus from replicating in the body or infecting target cells by blocking the process.

Plenty of people who are not living with HIV take HIV meds. Have you not heard of PrEP?

Well, what do you need to know in short is that PrEP stands for pre-exposure prophylaxis. It's basically a single pill that contains a combination of 2 HIV drugs that are taken by HIV negative people before having sex (pre-exposure) and after sex, to prevent HIV (this is called prophylaxis).

PrEP is safe and highly effective at preventing HIV.

There are two ways to take PrEP, Firstly “on-demand” PrEP, sometimes referred to as “2-1-1” schedule. This means taking 2 pills 2-24 hours before sex, 1 pill 24 hours after the first dose, and 1 pill 24 hours after the second dose.

The second option would be "daily" PrEP, this is when you would take the pill daily to provide an additional layer of HIV prevention.

Next time you talk to your healthcare provider you should consider talking to them about PrEP and what options would be available to you so that you can consider PrEP as an additional layer of protection going forward. 

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I just had sex with a closeted white privileged college student who hasn't had much gay experience (at least according to what he said).
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I am certain though that he's a college student and definitely inexperienced simply because of the way he acted.

Irrelevant, maybe he does not have much gay experience but shagged everything else that moves ;) He could be banging the entire neighbourhood each night and be HIV negative, or he could have had sex only once in his life and acquired HIV.

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He finally reached out to me in a fake snapchat profile he has and says he donates blood regularly and always uses condoms. He has only had gay sex very very few times and the rest has been with girls. Whenever he donates blood, they always thoroughly check for all STDs and HIV. He had just donated blood the day before we met and had sex. He'll receive the STD/HIV results for that in a few days.

Yeah, I already mentioned perhaps no gay experienced but bagging the other 50% of the population...

Anyhow, nothing he would say means anything and as for the blood donations claim, hardly an STI screening and even if he did get tested today for STI's & HIV, it means nothing to you given the window period.

I hope you are not protecting yourself based on what someone "claims" their status, past test results, or disclosed sexual history, as that is a pathway to tears. 

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I'll continue to stay on PEP until I get the results back from him, but even then, he won't share his name and I don't know if the screenshot results are entirely real or not.

Irrelevant, as I mentioned above + it can't be verified. It boils down to this, if you want to know your HIV status you will need to test. Nobody can do that for you.
« Last Edit: August 19, 2021, 01:21:53 pm by Jim Allen »
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Re: HIV exposure college student
« Reply #3 on: August 19, 2021, 01:33:29 pm »
Part 2)

Finally, his ethnic background, wealth, privilege, age ect are irrelevant so let's discuss the only thing that matters, your activities and if those activities were an HIV risk or not. 

To start, the rimming and fingering aren't an risk HIV to you. That you had a bit of a bleed makes no difference, nobody has ever acquired HIV this way, and that makes sense as it lacks the conditions needed.

The same can be said about receiving a blowjob. Thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

Now as for giving a blowjob, generally speaking, the mouth simply lacks route (Cells to infect) for HIV, and even if there was damage to your mouth (inside your mouth) as in gaping open sores like meth mouth creating a possible route than saliva & air also act to neutralize HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells.

All in all, giving a blowjob is such a minute concern in regards to HIV that we don't even recommend specifically testing over it. Just get tested whenever you are next, usually due a routine HIV check-up.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and, the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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« Last Edit: August 19, 2021, 01:36:16 pm by Jim Allen »
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Re: HIV exposure college student
« Reply #4 on: August 19, 2021, 01:38:31 pm »
Hi Jim,

Thank you so much for your thorough and detailed response. Considering all of this (even with the extremely low risk of saliva transmission from his mouth to my bleeding anus) and the fact that I do not know this person at all, do you recommend I continue to stay on PEP for the remaining 26 days of treatment?

Thanks.

Part 2)

Finally, his ethnic background, wealth, privilege, age ect are irrelevant so let's discuss the only thing that matters, your activities and if those activities were an HIV risk or not. 

To start, the rimming and fingering aren't an risk HIV to you. That you had a bit of a bleed makes no difference, nobody has ever acquired HIV this way, and that makes sense as it lacks the conditions needed.

The same can be said about receiving a blowjob. Thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

Now as for giving a blowjob, generally speaking, the mouth simply lacks route (Cells to infect) for HIV, and even if there was damage to your mouth (inside your mouth) as in gaping open sores like meth mouth creating a possible route than saliva & air also act to neutralize HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells.

All in all, giving a blowjob is such a minute concern in regards to HIV that we don't even recommend specifically testing over it. Just get tested whenever you are next, usually due a routine HIV check-up.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and, the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: HIV exposure college student
« Reply #5 on: August 19, 2021, 01:46:20 pm »
You're welcome.

Hi Jim,

Thank you so much for your thorough and detailed response. Considering all of this (even with the extremely low risk of saliva transmission from his mouth to my bleeding anus) and the fact that I do not know this person at all, do you recommend I continue to stay on PEP for the remaining 26 days of treatment?

Thanks.

Saliva does not transmit HIV in fact it's hostile towards HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect. In short, him kissing, licking or rimming your ass was no HIV risk to you whatsoever.  Calling this an extremely low risk is just wrong.

Not knowing him is irrelevant as well. You could have told me he was your best friend for life it still would not change how HIV is and isn't transmitted and you can't watch someone 24/7, i trust you did not witness and police his intercourse with all the girls right?

Anyhow, the only minute risk you had from the encounter posted here was giving a blowjob, that was a minute risk we don't recommend specific testing over let alone PEP. However, too late for that as you have started PEP so finish the course.

Next time understand safer sex instead of panicking, use condoms for any intercourse (regardless of their sex), consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP for the future (not PEP) and test out of standard routine at least yearly for HIV & STI's.
« Last Edit: August 19, 2021, 01:48:44 pm by Jim Allen »
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HIV Testing
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