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Author Topic: Did I have a risk?  (Read 1353 times)

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Offline AnonymousGrrl

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Did I have a risk?
« on: May 23, 2021, 12:08:28 am »
Hello!

I'm a 22f virgin.  About a month ago my bf (25m) and I were messing around after we'd been drinking a lot.  We did a lot of kissing and frottage (is that how you spell it?) but he had whiskey d*** so he didn't go all the way in but he did rub the tip of his penis between my labia and at the opening of my vagina. He didn't fully penetrate but he tried even though he was totally soft and my labia were covering his tip.  I said it wasn't a good idea without a condom and he stopped. I didn't notice precum but he probably had at least a little.  I get tested every year even though I haven't had intercourse yet bc my doctor recommends it for all of her patients over 18 (negative as of December) and I do plan to use condoms for intercourse, but I wanted to know if I had an HIV risk.  If so, when should I test?

Thanks!

AG

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Re: Did I have a risk?
« Reply #1 on: May 23, 2021, 05:47:17 am »
Hiya,

Frottage, sexual rubbing so non-penetrative sex isn't an HIV risk. Read your post three times and as long as there was not penetration you had no HIV risk from what you mentioned.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Offline AnonymousGrrl

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Re: Did I have a risk?
« Reply #2 on: May 23, 2021, 11:54:54 am »
Wow, thanks for getting back to me so fast!

I feel a lot better now! I was wondering if since his tip was totally inside my labia and I could feel it on my vaginal opening I had a risk or not but Iím so glad I didnít!!!

Thank you all for your awesome work!  What you do is so important!!

All the best,

AG

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Re: Did I have a risk?
« Reply #3 on: May 23, 2021, 12:00:48 pm »
You're welcome.
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Re: Did I have a risk?
« Reply #4 on: May 25, 2021, 11:24:55 am »
One more random question, is penetration even possible if the guy is soft?  Sorry to sound stupid but I donít have much experience with intimacy and I want to know Iím being as safe as I can!!  I plan on using condoms for intercourse but Iíve heard a guy shouldnít try to put one on unless heís hard!

Thanks for your help!

AG

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Re: Did I have a risk?
« Reply #5 on: May 25, 2021, 12:00:00 pm »
Hiya,

Would be difficult to get a condom on with a semi and you should indeed wait until they are fully erect. Penetration with a semi would also be challenging.

I'll leave you with the below note on condoms:

Condom Usage in short:

What you need to know about condoms is that latex or polyurethane are effective barriers against HIV. HIV can't transmit through the intact barrier.

To reduce the odds of having a condom break during intercourse:

Use approved condoms, check for a certification mark (FDA, CE, ISO or Kitemark) as it means the condom complies with safety standards. Check the expiry date and make sure the condom is still within date.

Use lubricant, condom safe water-based lubricants makes condoms more comfortable and reduces the risk of breakage. Ė but avoid oil-based lubricants as they can weaken or break condoms.

As for putting the condom on correctly:

Incorrectly done, the risk of breakage can increase. Place the condom on top of the erect penis and pinch the teat at the end of the condom before you start to roll it down the penis. By doing this, you'll squeeze out any air bubbles and ensure there is room for the semen (cum). Roll the condom down to the base of the penis.

If it's on correctly, it will roll downwards easily. If you've started putting it on the wrong way, take it off, and even if your partner has not ejaculated (cum), there can still be semen or (pre-cum), so it's important to try again with a new condom. (More to do with risks of pregnancy and other STI's than anything else)

Finally, Any sexual contact comes with risks of STI's, no need to panic though, just use condoms to help reduce those risks and keeps in mind that the levels of protection for various STI's depends greatly on differences in how the diseases or infections infect.

For example, some infections (Not HIV) are transmitted primarily by skin-to-skin contact, which may infect areas not covered by a condom, such as genital herpes, human papillomavirus [HPV] infection, chancroid etc.

As said no need to panic each time you have sex. Just use condoms to reduce your STI risks, consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer against HIV and test out of routine at least yearly for STI's.

HIV 101 - Everything you need to know
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Read more about Testing here:
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