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Author Topic: Was There An Exposure?  (Read 675 times)

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Offline twillbar

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Was There An Exposure?
« on: June 09, 2022, 12:48:16 am »
Hi guys,

Thanks for answering. On May 30th I had sex with a trans girl.

I gave her a handjob and she finished in my hand. Then I put on a condom and proceeded to have insertive anal sex with her. We used proper lube, and there was no friction. Throughout the intercourse of about ten minutes, I consistently checked the condom visually for tears. I saw none, and the condom was completely intact around my entire penis. At the end, she pulled the condom off of me and into a paper towel and finished me with oral sex. Once again, I was the insertive partner.

Afterwards I (foolishly) water tested the condom. I was surprised when a small squirt of water came out from the side around where my mid-shaft would be (not the tip or the head). A quick Google search revealed to me that this is not the proper way to test condoms, and that a condom can be torn while trying to test it. The same search says that condoms should be disposed of if no tears were obvious or visible, and that they don't need post-sex testing.

From what I've read, when condoms tear, rip, or fail, they seem to be catastrophic or obvious, right? I've had condoms fail twice in the past and both times it was extremely obvious (usually shredded to where my penis was completely and obviously through, or literally snapped down to the base, etc). I did a visual inspection the condom after that test, and despite that thin stream of water, I still saw no visible failure with the naked eye. Most notably, the condom was definitely still intact at the tip where my urethra would be.

In fact, come to think of it, I'm almost certain that the condom probably sustained that damage when she removed it with her nails to proceed to give me oral sex (after anal sex concluded). I don't know if this is a dumb question, but in insertive anal sex, is HIV typically transmitted first and foremost through the urethra, or elsewhere? I suppose I've gotten caught up in this worry that there was a microtear of some sorts while I was inserted during anal sex, and that somehow I could have been exposed. I am extremely adamant that I did not feel or see any damage to the condom while we had anal sex or after I withdrew.

Nonetheless, my anxiety has been through the roof. About three or four days after this incident I came down with a light cold (sore throat, runny nose, slight cough). All of the resources that I've seen seem to point to the fact these are not symptoms at all related to that incident, and are nonspecific, especially that early. I will get tested for all STDs at the six week mark, but I wanted to know if I actually have a reason to be worried, or am I being paranoid?

I am under the impression that nothing I did here qualified as exposure to HIV, but I wanted to affirm with you guys since you're the experts!


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Re: Was There An Exposure?
« Reply #1 on: June 09, 2022, 12:59:17 am »

You mentioned it yourself, the symptoms have nothing to do with HIV from the encounter mentioned here.

The handjob wasn't an HIV risk to you, and as for the intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing or testing for HIV outside of the standard yearly routine.

About testing the condoms with water, stop doing it. It's unnecessary and could damage the condom, mistakenly leading you to think the condom was damaged during sex when you caused the damage after the intercourse by trying to "test" it with water. In short, testing the condom yourself is not a reliable way to tell you anything.

Instead, use condoms correctly and consistently, and as you are sexually active, test for HIV & STIs out of standard routine yearly.

I don't know if this is a dumb question, but in insertive anal sex, is HIV typically transmitted first and foremost through the urethra

Yes, HIV can enter the body through the urethra during sex.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards


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