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Oral sex with confirmed positive partner
« on: June 06, 2022, 11:23:33 am »
Hello

33 year old gay male here. I have not been sexually active for the past 12 months. Tested negative last time in April 2022 and up until May 2022 I have engaged in no activities. Historically I have only ever had penetrative sex with condoms and unprotected oral. I have recently started seeing someone Im kinda sweet on. We havenít had sex yet and is the first person I have been intimate with in 12 months.

Between Thursday 26th to Saturday 28th May we were intimate and had oral sex only a few times, I gave him blowjobs and he gave them too. I tasted pre-cum and swallowed. I had a slight cut to my tongue as I had bitten my tongue on the day.

This week we met again and it was only heavy kissing. I have a terrible habit of biting my lips during stressful times (work) and have two lovely mouth ulcers on both sides of my lip and one on my tongue from when I bit my tongue on saturday 28th.

He originally told me he was on prep however as we spoke more and more / spent time with one another he opened up to me that he is HIV positive and has been for many years. I did not ask him about meds etc as its early days and I do not want to pry. I understand I need to educate myself more on HIV and this is my aim as I would like to continue seeing him.

However I just want to check-in on this forum and ask the question: I understand kissing with/ without cuts/ulcers is NO risk however am I correct in thinking that there was NO risk in the several blowjobs scenario that I gave him?

Thanks for reading!

« Last Edit: June 06, 2022, 11:26:22 am by PS3030 »

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Re: Oral sex with confirmed positive partner
« Reply #1 on: June 06, 2022, 11:47:15 am »
Hiya,

Kissing & Receiving a blowjob isn't an HIV risk to you.

As for giving a blowjob it's such a minute HIV risk that we don't recommend testing outside of standard yearly screening.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Oral sex with confirmed positive partner
« Reply #2 on: June 06, 2022, 03:01:00 pm »
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he opened up to me that he is HIV positive and has been for many years. I did not ask him about meds etc as its early days and I do not want to pry. I understand I need to educate myself more on HIV and this is my aim as I would like to continue seeing him.

Not much to know.

With treatment, your partner can live a long life.

An addtional benefit of treatment is once a person living with HIV (PLHIV) is on antiretroviral therapy (ART) and has achieved an undetectable viral load* in their blood for 6+ months, they can not sexually pass on HIV.  Meaning even if condomless intercourse was to happen it would be no HIV risk to you. https://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=71864.0

However, condoms do have the added benefit of reducing your risk from other STIs of course and ultimately nobody can guarantee you that your partner is or will continue to take their meds.

I recommend that you have an honest and open conversation with your partner to find out what the situation is. You could also consider talking to your healthcare provider about taking PrEP to reduce your HIV risk.
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