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Title: Loss
Post by: Jeff G on September 22, 2013, 12:03:27 pm
My sister in law Linda was killed this morning in a car accident . I loved her dearly and will miss her forever .

Its not been a good few months and I have been dealing with the loss of family and a few friends as well as my little girl dog Zita .

I want to ask that for each of you that read this to please call family , a friend or someone you care about and tell them you love them . If you could do this for me I will be forever grateful and rest a little easier knowing something good happened today .
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Post by: mitch777 on September 22, 2013, 12:22:56 pm
My heart goes out to you Jeff. All of this loss in such a short period of time.  :'(
(((hugs)))
Mark
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Post by: Jmarksto on September 22, 2013, 02:56:05 pm
Jeff;  I am truly sorry for your loss, I hope the warm memories provide some comfort during this difficult time.  Your request to reach out to our loved ones is a good one, which I will do.

Sincerely,
JM
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Post by: Miss Philicia on September 22, 2013, 03:14:04 pm
I'm sorry you and your brother, and family, are going through this. Something like this is very shocking to the system that is for sure.
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Post by: Jeff G on September 22, 2013, 03:16:22 pm
Thanks Miss P and JM . It seems like a very bad dream .
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Post by: jkinatl2 on September 22, 2013, 03:46:27 pm
Jeff I am so sorry for your loss. There are no other words. I love you, and you are in my thoughts.

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Post by: phildinftlaudy on September 22, 2013, 04:16:31 pm
Jeff -
You have my most sincere condolences.... My thoughts are with you and your family. I will definitely do what you said and reach out to some of my family and friends today and each day...

Once again - while words can't come close to healing the grief, you have my sympathy.

-Phil
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Post by: anniebc on September 22, 2013, 06:18:33 pm
You are in my heart and thoughts always, I'm sorry you going through this sad time.  Stay as strong as you can and be there for your brother.

Aroha and hugs
Jan :'(
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Post by: WillyWump on September 22, 2013, 07:08:20 pm
Sorry buddy, my condolences. What a shock to have a loved one suddenly die. I'm calling my boys tonight.

-Will
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Post by: Jeff G on September 22, 2013, 07:21:14 pm
Linda was on my mind all day yesterday and I was going to call her just to tell her hello and I love her but I got busy and never made that call .

Linda had a rough last 6 months and family wasn't to kind her so I was there for her when they all ran away . The hardest thing to do today was hold my tongue when the ones who didn't do right by her cry the loudest and go on about how close they were and how much they loved her .
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Post by: wolfter on September 25, 2013, 10:32:01 am
Oh Jeff, so sorry I am late to send my condolences.  Sorry for the loss you're all dealing with and am sending positive thoughts your way.
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Post by: Jeff G on September 25, 2013, 10:34:00 am
Oh Jeff, so sorry I am late to send my condolences.  Sorry for the loss you're all dealing with and am sending positive thoughts your way.


 :) :-*

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Post by: Wolfey on September 27, 2013, 02:52:59 pm
So sorry for all your losses, Jeff! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!
JW
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Post by: LiveHope on September 29, 2013, 11:51:51 am
Jeff, So very sorry for your losses. I / our family recently(April)  lost my brother suddenly due to a  accidental overdose . It is like a dream..how did this happen & ..it is SO FINAL..etc...
Please take care of yourself and family & for All - don't stress the small stuff & live  each day and love!
LH
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Post by: Jeff G on September 29, 2013, 12:02:09 pm
Thank you for your condolences , I offer mine as well . Take care .
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Post by: leatherman on September 29, 2013, 03:07:23 pm
I want to ask that for each of you that read this to please call family , a friend or someone you care about and tell them you love them .
always good advice.

although my Mom's husband has been quite ill of late, we certainly didn't expect when we took him to the ER on Friday night at 8pm that he would simply slip into death by 8am. No one has expected this outcome when they had stabilized him and we had left the hospital at 2am to get some sleep. Thankfully we left him with kind words and hugs.

the end can come quite suddenly sometimes and it's always best to leave friends and family with kind loving words every time you go your separate ways.
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Post by: Jeff G on September 29, 2013, 03:34:41 pm
Thanks for sharing that Mike .

I don't know about others but for me HIV forced me to contemplate death at a young age . During those pre- ART years I would sometime stop and ask myself if what I was doing was really worth it , did it have any real value .

Im pretty sure that most people who are on their death beds are not laying there thinking about the car they drive or the bank account , I bet they are not wishing they had worked harder .

I have had a pretty rough couple of months with very bad things happening to people I care deeply about and it makes me introspective and I cant lie , I'm very sad and my heart is heavy right now . It always come back around to the reality of realizing all over again that even in loss there is opportunity to gain something , so I think about what's really important and hold on to that  .

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Post by: bocker3 on October 05, 2013, 02:57:26 pm
Oh Jeff....

Not sure how I missed this until now, but I am so sorry for you loss.  It sounds like you were doing right by your sister when others were not.  I am sure that she appreciated such a caring brother.  You are a special man, we all know it here and I am positive that she knew it even better.

sending hugs your way!

Mike
(who will know go call his brother......)
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Post by: BT65 on October 05, 2013, 04:30:25 pm
Jeff, I love you.  I know we've talked about this stuff, but please feel free to call anytime you need someone to converse with.   :-*   So sorry for the losses.
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Post by: Jeff G on October 05, 2013, 04:35:36 pm
Thank you Betty and Mike ... Friends like yall make me smile no matter what's going on .
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Post by: emeraldize on October 05, 2013, 08:46:07 pm
Jeff
My condolences to you and your family.
Em
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Post by: tednlou2 on October 05, 2013, 08:53:34 pm
Jeff,

Sending my condolences.  I'm sorry to hear about this, especially, but the rough time you've been having recently.  Hugs.

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Post by: britchick on October 06, 2013, 06:22:28 am
Jeff,

((((((Im so sorry for the loss of your sister))))))) and only just reading this thread now.You are always there for us ,despite everything and now its time for your friends to be there for you.

britchickx
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Post by: scotty54 on October 08, 2013, 04:58:22 pm
Sorry for your loss Jeff.

A few years ago I lost someone rather suddenly.  I had not been very good about calling and keeping in touch.  Your post brought that memory back.  Thx