Advice on Disclosure...

[newbie92]

Hey there everyone,
In March of 2018 it will be 4 years since I have been diagnosed with HIV.
Honestly, I’m okay. I feel the same way, physically, before I was diagnosed. My mother just recently went to do a life insurance policy on me but of course she checked the “no” box for having HIV. Of course, when I sign those papers so they are able to retrieve my medical information it will be denied.

Unfortunately, I still have yet to disclose my status to my mother.
I am her youngest and I’m a heterosexual female and I’m not sure what she will think of me... I don’t usually tell her what’s going on in my life because I really think should would not give supportive words of wisdom.

I need some help here. I want to tell her after the holidays. How long did you guys wait to disclose your status to your parents and how did you tell them?

[Surrendertothis]

Luckily I was able to tell my mom right away. Her and I are very close and I was living with her at the time so there was no way I could hide it. I do not think I will ever tell my father though. We are not as close and I just don’t feel comforted telling him. I also have a teenage son and I don’t know if and when I will tell him. I hope you were able to lean on someone for support.

[dallas nk]

I told my mother soon after I found out. She and I was close as well but my reason for telling her was fear. Fear that I would I would need her to raise my kids if the virus took me out. I regret telling her so soon after diagnosis only because she annoying sends video links to me about naturally “healing” hiv😂 but I don’t regret telling her. She has been a major support.