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Massage and OralSex
« on: August 28, 2024, 07:09:24 am »
Dears,

Please help me am in a chaos my anxiety is killing me please advise to have some peace of mind.

Am a guy who is always a scared person for STDs for the past 10 years i have never had Sexual Intercource (Penis / Vagina or Penis /Anus) .

Before 2 years i.e, in june 2022 i had oral sex with CONDOM had done to me from an escort , After one month of that incident i got really scared of getting HIV and went for HIV Test (Exactly after one month) which is negative.

I have visited massage parlour one time for body to body massage and others are normal massages no sexual intercourse whatsoever.

Recently before 5 days i was diagnosed with HSV1 on my genital region no idea how  i got that with out sexual intercoruse .

Please advise me for the below

1. Can Oral sex with condom transmits HIV to me in any case.
2. The HIV Test which i took just after one month after the Oral incident which is negative is confirmatory.
3.And my recent diagnosis of HSV1 has anything to do with me being infected with HIV with out knowing

Please Please help me  on the above as my life depends on it ,  getting anxiety thoughts

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Re: Massage and OralSex
« Reply #1 on: August 28, 2024, 07:24:02 am »
Dears,

Please help me am in a chaos my anxiety is killing me please advise to have some peace of mind.

Am a guy who is always a scared person for STDs for the past 10 years i have never had Sexual Intercource (Penis / Vagina or Penis /Anus) .

Before 2 years i.e, in june 2022 i had oral sex with CONDOM had done to me from an escort , After one month of that incident i got really scared of getting HIV and went for HIV Test (Exactly after one month) which is negative.

I have visited massage parlour one time for body to body massage and others are normal massages no sexual intercourse whatsoever.

Recently before 5 days i was diagnosed with HSV1 on my genital region no idea how  i got that with out sexual intercoruse .

Please advise me for the below

1. Can Oral sex with condom transmits HIV to me in any case.
2. The HIV Test which i took just after one month after the Oral incident which is negative is confirmatory.
3.And my recent diagnosis of HSV1 has anything to do with me being infected with HIV with out knowing

Please Please help me  on the above as my life depends on it ,  getting anxiety thoughts

Read your post three times, you got a blowjob in 2022, it was zero HIV risk to you.

With or without a condom receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV, thus it makes sense that after 40+ years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

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I have visited massage parlour one time for body to body massage and others are normal massages no sexual intercourse whatsoever.

No HIV risk whatsoever, zero!

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Recently before 5 days i was diagnosed with HSV1 on my genital region no idea how  i got that with out sexual intercoruse .

That's an easy one, you got it from the blowjob or the massage.

See, herpes is transmitted primarily by skin-to-skin contact and also through saliva for HSV1 even when there is no visible outbreak due to viral shredding, so during the massage, if there was any skin contact with your genital area or during the blowjob as herpes can be passed on in the areas not covered by the condom and when any skin/saliva contact happens, thankfully HIV isn't transmitted this way.



1) No, receiving oral sex isn't an HIV risk.
2) No, but you didn't need testing over the blowjob as it was zero HIV risk.
3) No it has to do with you having herpes.

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV and get vaccinated against HPV, Hepatitis A & B.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards

Jim

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« Reply #2 on: August 28, 2024, 08:06:53 am »
thanks for the confirmation allen

So as per your comments below

1) No, receiving oral sex isn't an HIV risk. (Understood)
2) No, but you didn't need testing over the blowjob as it was zero HIV risk. (Understood)
3) No it has to do with you having herpes. (U mean "It has nothing to do with me having herpes rit)
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« Reply #3 on: August 28, 2024, 08:16:05 am »
3) No it has to do with you having herpes. (U mean "It has nothing to do with me having herpes rit)

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Your herpes has everything to do with you having herpes.

Your original question 3 was if your herpes has anything to do with you unknowingly having HIV.

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3.And my recent diagnosis of HSV1 has anything to do with me being infected with HIV with out knowing

My answer is and remains the same, No it has to do with you having herpes.
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« Reply #4 on: August 28, 2024, 08:20:29 am »
okk so may be i misunderstood

 i have never had sexual intercourse other than oral sex incident which is in 2022 a which i understand could have been resulted in herpes but not HIV rit allen

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« Reply #5 on: August 28, 2024, 08:22:52 am »
Correct.

You got a blowjob, it's a risk for plenty of easier to transmit STIs but not HIV. You also had a massage and depending on the details that also could have been a risk for easier to transmit STIs but not HIV.

In summary, you had zero HIV risk from the activities mentioned here, you did have risks for easier to transmit STIs
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« Reply #6 on: August 31, 2024, 03:21:06 am »
Thanks Allen

i have just bough a paid subscription not being rude or showoff just my desperation and my anxiety and stress am going through because of the recent Herpes diagnosis.

so just to uunderstand clearly

1 . No matter what ORAL sex with a condom is not an HIV risk (am at the receiving end) which has happened in 2022 and at the time am sure i didnt had sores on or around groin or penis area.

2. After one month of that incident my negative HIV 1 and 2 AB test are confirmatory rit.

3. Genital rubbing or any kind of Body massage with no Sexual intercourse will not transmit HIV even in case if had sore that are not visible.


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« Reply #7 on: August 31, 2024, 04:17:29 am »
Thanks Allen

i have just bough a paid subscription not being rude or showoff just my desperation and my anxiety and stress am going through because of the recent Herpes diagnosis.

so just to uunderstand clearly

1 . No matter what ORAL sex with a condom is not an HIV risk (am at the receiving end) which has happened in 2022 and at the time am sure i didnt had sores on or around groin or penis area.

2. After one month of that incident my negative HIV 1 and 2 AB test are confirmatory rit.


1) Asked and answered already.
2) Asked and answered already.

Your first post:
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1. Can Oral sex with condom transmits HIV to me in any case.
2. The HIV Test which i took just after one month after the Oral incident which is negative is confirmatory.

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1) No, receiving oral sex isn't an HIV risk.
2) No, but you didn't need testing over the blowjob as it was zero HIV risk.

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Read your post three times, you got a blowjob in 2022, it was zero HIV risk to you.

With or without a condom receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV, thus it makes sense that after 40+ years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

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3. Genital rubbing or any kind of Body massage with no Sexual intercourse will not transmit HIV even in case if had sore that are not visible.

Also, this has been asked and answered already. Read back the thread please, thank you


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« Reply #8 on: August 31, 2024, 04:23:40 am »
Summary:

You got herpes from the body-to-body massage most likely during genital contact or rubbing or whilst receiving a blowjob. One month after the blowjob you tested for HIV, there was no need to test as it was zero HIV risk.

Receiving the blowjob with or without a condom and the body-to-body massage was an STI risk, but not an HIV risk to you, no what-ifs about it, your herpes status doesn't change that.

No stress or drama is needed, move on with your life and if you can't move on consider talking to a therapist.



In brief, your adult HIV risks are:

* Sex; Condomless intercourse & a minute (theoretical) HIV risk if you give a blowjob.
* Sharing drugs rigs (Syringes)
* Blood products/ transfusions (Rare nowadays in most nations thanks to screening)
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« Reply #9 on: August 31, 2024, 04:29:31 am »
thanks Jim for the clear summary

So can i safely take HIV out of mind from these incidents (Oral and Massage) its been 5 days i had any sleep because of my recent Herpes Diagnosis. I know its not a big deal which is also cleared up using Antiviral medications.





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« Reply #10 on: August 31, 2024, 04:52:00 am »
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I know its not a big deal which is also cleared up using Antiviral medications.

In the scheme of things prehaps not, but Herpes can cause serious complications for some people although rare and it has been linked to some infant deaths. Treatment options generally are taking antivirals when you have an outbreak, alternative is, suppressive therapy (daily ongoing treatment) that will reduce the frequency of outbreaks but also reduce the risk of transmitting the virus to others.

Anyhow, that's something you can discuss in detail if you wish with your healthcare provider.

thanks Jim for the clear summary

So can i safely take HIV out of mind from these incidents (Oral and Massage)

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