Risky?

[tad0000]

So I guess this may sound a little strange but it is what it is.  I had sexual intercourse with a man. I was the bottom and he inserted a female condom in me before he topped me and this is the only form of protection we used. He did not ejaculate into the condom.  For some reason I did not throw the female condom away and 4 days later after I thoroughly washed it I reinserted it into my anus for about 30 seconds and used a sex toy. Realizing that this was a bit strange I removed the female condom and threw it out.   I guess my 2 questions are 1)Effectiveness of the female condom for anal sex against HIV and 2) Did I put myself at risk for HIV by inserting this female condom 4 days later?

[Ann]

Tad,

Female condoms are effective in preventing hiv, provided they don't rip, but the same is true for a traditional male condom.

It doesn't matter that you kept it and used it again with a sex toy. Hiv absolutely cannot remain viable and able to infect when outside the body, and certainly not for four days.

You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY FOLLOWING PROTECTED INTERCOURSE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

[tad0000]

I guess I just have this weird but yet irrational feeling that HIV can still remain present on the condom when I used it four days later with my sex toy. Is this a completely irrational thought?

[jkinatl2]

I guess I just have this weird but yet irrational feeling that HIV can still remain present on the condom when I used it four days later with my sex toy. Is this a completely irrational thought?

Yes, that is a completely irrational thought.

[Ann]

Tad,

Re-read my first reply to you. I already answered that question and my answer is not going to change. As Jonathan said, yes, it's an irrational thought. Very much so.

I also told you in my first reply that sexually active adults should have regular, routine, FULL sexual health check ups.

If you're not in the habit of doing so already, I suggest you start - BUT you do NOT need to do this because you kept and re-used a condom.

You need to get routine, regular, FULL sexual health check ups because you're sexually active.

Please re-read your entire thread.

Ann

[tad0000]

I am a gay male who was with another male the other night. He was on top of me as we were kissing and he pushed his unprotected penis into my anus for like 10 seconds. There was no ejaculation from him nor thrusting. I told him to pull out and put on a condom if he wanted to continue which he did. We discussed out status before hand and over and over again he reassured me of his negative status as of late Feb.  I am just wondering how risky this brief penetration was for HIV. I am always careful and this caught me off guard. I am feeling anxious over it all.  Please advise.

[Jeff G]

Please only post in this one thread no matter how long between visits or subject matter . You can find this thread by going to your profile and selecting show own post .

You did have a risk by having unprotected anal sex and will need to test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results .
Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.


 Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!