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Offline vivyt

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Newly Diagnosed
« on: July 28, 2007, 11:12:37 am »
Hi everyone! I was just diagnosed in May and am learning how to deal with everything. Right now I am recovering from being really sick. I have so many questions about living with this and how to deal with people. Only my immediate family knows and they are VERY supportive. I haven't told anyone else for fear of judgement. I guess I am looking for someone to relate to. I am a heterosexual female, have never used drugs, and have only been sexually involved with one person. Of all the luck huh? I am happy I found this place and am hoping to learn quite a bit.
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Offline catwoman

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #1 on: July 28, 2007, 12:52:24 pm »
Hey vivyt,
I'm glad you found us.  I was diagnosed December 2005 after a bout with walking pneumonia.  I had a limited number of partners too.  I found out after I got married.  My husband has been truly supportive and he is really my best friend.  Only my immediate family and my husband know.  My in-laws and none of my friends know.  This place has helped me a lot with coping and my spiritual path too (Christianity).  You are going to go through so many emotions it's crazy but you will grow so much.  Keep talking here because we need each other.
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Offline vivyt

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #2 on: July 28, 2007, 01:05:30 pm »
I just got over pneumonia as well. I was definitely not doing well. Thank you for responding. Is it ok to ask if your husband is positive? I am single and would like to get married someday but am afraid about it all. Obviously it does work though.

I too am a Christian and if it were not for the prayer I would be having a more difficult time. Thank you again!
« Last Edit: July 28, 2007, 01:07:26 pm by vivyt »
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Offline MOONLIGHT1114

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #3 on: July 28, 2007, 01:51:50 pm »
Hi Viv,

I'm Cindy in Maryland, 37yo, diagnosed in '93.  I got the virus from my BF, who would become my husband.  He passed in '96 when we were both pretty young.  I, too, felt like you do now.  I never did drugs and always used protection except for maybe 2 or 3 times once I was in that monogamous relationship with my soon to be husband.  He had the virus, knew it, and didn't tell me, even ASKED to NOT use protection.  Here I was worried that the pill would fail me and I would get pregnant.  Yes, the thought of HIV entered my mind, but only briefly, I mean after all, that couldn't happen to us, right?  So, I empathize with what you are going through.  I have only been on this site a month and it is a great source of comfort for me.  I am Catholic and pray to God, knowing that I am exactly where I'm supposed to be right now, although I still don't quite get it!  LOL  You should hop over to the dating thread here, its like a journal for all of us GFs.  I think you'll find some humor in it!  There are about seven of us who post regularly.  Queen Akasha aka GQ (Green Queen), Emeraldize, ckc aka Christy, Dragonette, Camille, zachysmom (where has she been?) and myself.  Come on over and join us!

Damn, was that a "plug for the dating thread?"  LOL   :D

Hang in there and please reach out.  I was hesitant a month ago, but now I feel at home with sisters here!  Its wonderful!

~~Cindy
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Offline zachysmom

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #4 on: July 28, 2007, 11:57:28 pm »
Hello Viv, and Ladies,
How is everyone tonight?

Welcome to the most informative and friendly forum out there. I know it's a bummer to have been diagnosed so relatively soon,( most of us here have been dealing with it for years).
I think you'll find that the ladies (and men) on this site are not only compassionate, understanding, and informative, but we all have experiences you can relate to. We will do our best to make you feel at ease and comfortable about asking any question you may have. So don't feel embarrased or afraid of asking anything. I for one am so excited about finding this forum, it has really helped me get through my day on some days. We women live in all areas of the world but on this site we are under one roof, so to speak, because we're family.
So once again, Welcome.
Hope to hear from you again,
Nicole

P.S
keep the faith.
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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #5 on: July 29, 2007, 01:04:32 am »
Let me say, Welcome to the Forums, Girlfriend. Let me introduce myself. I am Queen Akasha aka Green Queen aka Queen Tokelove. Why the names? Because I have an intimate relationship with Mary Jane.. ;) I know it must be really hard for since being newly diagnosed. I have been poz for going on 10 yrs this year and no meds. This virus affects us all differently. I must back up Moon and say do check out the dating thread. You will see how others are dealing with trying to date and deal with other issues such as men, personals, etc..I definitely guarantee it will be a good read.
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Offline ubotts

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #6 on: July 29, 2007, 10:15:25 am »
Hi and welcome to our forum.
Its hard being newly diagnosed...I remember when..way back in the 1980's when
i tested pos..I thought it was a definite death sentence..Well here i am, 21 years later and here you ll see we are living proof just how far we came from the first and only azt pill.. Its scary when your told, but stay strong and listen to
everyones voice...Iam fairly new in these forums myself but have already learned
so much...Glad u logged on..and nice to meet you..
If you need any info, just ask away and iam sure one of us can give you some
positive feedback........ :)
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Offline vivyt

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #7 on: July 29, 2007, 11:44:58 am »
Thanks to all of you. All of your advice has been wonderful. Now I have a question about this "dating thread" How soon did some of you start dating after you found out? How did you tell the person you were dating that you were positive? Did you only date others that were positive as well? I know, I know lots of questions, but these are things I think about. :)
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Offline MOONLIGHT1114

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #8 on: July 29, 2007, 03:18:18 pm »
Viv, Viv, Viv!

So many questions you ask of us!  THAT is precisely why we started the dating thread (ty, Cristy!).  We are all different, our moods change, things happen or they don't.  We couldn't possibly answer all of your questions here.  Read our thread, our "Journal" if you will, and have a good laugh, have a good cry, with US!

:D  Cindy

Here is the link to the original, if you post, make sure you go to the second one "Dating Part II."

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=12526.0
« Last Edit: July 29, 2007, 03:20:43 pm by MOONLIGHT1114 »
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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #9 on: July 29, 2007, 10:41:10 pm »
Viv~~
 
I will say it hasn't been easy for me at all to disclose because all the times I tried it turned out badly. I will even admit that I had been with negs before w/o disclosing but was always protected. I didn't like having to worry so now I prefer to just be with another poz man because he would understand/relate to what is going on. And it just makes things a whole lot easier.
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
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6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Offline catwoman

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #10 on: July 30, 2007, 01:36:45 am »
Viv,
My husband is negative.
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Offline powerpuff

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #11 on: July 31, 2007, 05:40:41 pm »
wow their is a lot more woman out there then i thought in the  same boat. you don't have to be permiscuous to get Aids. I guess just dumb luck.
I totally feel you.
dating in this day and age is really scary i know!
I hadn't had a date in awhile after a long term relationship. I tested all my Past relationships all negative. I hadn't  been sexually active  in seven years !!! I dated but no sex...... I thought I'm pretty smart ....hmmmmm
well here I am...... what the f****K
I'm still pissed at myself, the world, the person,
i'ts normal and confusing
puffy
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Offline BT65

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #12 on: July 31, 2007, 09:28:17 pm »
Hey Viv-
  Welcome!  I tested poz in 1989.  I've been on several meds.  It is hard at first.  There's probably a lot of things running through your mind.  Just know, it's not a death sentence.  There are so many more things now than there used to be, even when I tested poz.  That was back in the days of mega-dosing with AZT, which happened to me and I had to get a blood transfusion after my hemoglobin dropped to 2.  Thank God that doesn't happen any more.  Just hang in there and keep up with us!
Peace-
Betty
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Offline zachysmom

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Re: Newly Diagnosed
« Reply #13 on: July 31, 2007, 09:45:26 pm »
Welcome sweetheart,
I think you've found the place, to be. This forum is really a great find, there are some many wonderful people ( men and women) that can really make a difference in your life, even on a daily basis.

Your are more than welcome to post any question you would like, which I'm sure that you'll find more than one good answer for.

I know it takes quite a bit of courage to open up even on this forum, some people just read and never post. So I applaud you for making the stand and commitment to become more involved and reach out. ( Not that those who don't post are not making a stand and are not reaching out, because just by vistitng the site is amazing in itself. I had not joined a forum or visited a website on HIV in over 2 years myself, before this forum)..... but you know what I mean.

So welcome again, and I hope to hear from you soon.

Love,
Nicole
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