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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #50 on: September 05, 2011, 12:13:19 pm »
yes i am still fretting over that. crazy, i know.
well, i did get a test about 10 days after that frottage incident (DUO) and it returned negative. I know it's not conclusive at all but i guess since the "incident" was no risk, then i can just let that crazy event die already.
I just have been extremely paranoid ever since that real incident back in Feb. I have you, andy and this forum to greatly thank.  :)

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #51 on: September 05, 2011, 02:52:27 pm »
Brian,

Unless he has an unusually small penis (smaller than a finger), you'd feel it.

Are you still fretting about that incident from last April? If you cannot put that no risk situation behind you, then why don't you just go test, collect your negative result and get on with your life? It's a no-brainer. Seriously.

Ann

There's really nothing more to say or add to what you have already been told. Get on with your life. Really.
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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures / New risk or No risk?
« Reply #52 on: June 15, 2012, 02:28:41 am »
Hi Ann and Andy,
Been quite some time since i last posted here. Anyways, i'm just getting a bit paranoid, hoping you could clarify.
I had sex in Barcelona last March 30. The gave the guy unprotected oral sex. He tried penetrating me with a condom but it was too painful so we stopped after less than 1 min of trying. He was never able to penetrate me even with the condom. He just rimmed me for a few minutes and mutual masturbation after. However, when I was cleaning myself, I noticed that my anus was bleeding (probably from trying to penetrate me). I developed tonsillopharyngitis and needed an emergency operation a week later.
Just to clarify, I was absolutely at no risk from this, right? I mean, I'm just paranoid about him rimming me while I was bleeding.... saliva is not infectious and HIV is not contagious via rimming or oral sex, right? No need to test? I've never had anal sex since my last real risk more than a year ago...
Thank you!

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #53 on: June 15, 2012, 06:53:33 am »
You never had an HIV exposure.

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #54 on: June 15, 2012, 08:26:10 am »
Nothing you are reporting from your latest incident would have put you at risk for HIV.

The matter of tonsillopharyngitis was totally coincidental. There's no cause for further concern nor any need for HIV testing.

Get on with your life.
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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #55 on: June 15, 2012, 12:52:16 pm »
Thank you Rod and Andy.
Question- even if someone ejaculates and then some gets into your mouth isn't considered a real HIV risk, right?
Sorry, I was just a bit worried about the bleeding because I didn't know that I was.
Also about Tonsillopharyngitis, is this a symptom of HIV or does it usually manifest during ARS or when HIV is already getting bad?


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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #56 on: June 15, 2012, 05:33:20 pm »
Thank you Rod and Andy.
Question- even if someone ejaculates and then some gets into your mouth isn't considered a real HIV risk, right?
Sorry, I was just a bit worried about the bleeding because I didn't know that I was.
Also about Tonsillopharyngitis, is this a symptom of HIV or does it usually manifest during ARS or when HIV is already getting bad?



The sexual risks for HIV infection are:

Unprotected vaginal and anal sex.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #57 on: June 18, 2012, 12:27:04 am »
Okay I know that I shouldn't post repeatedly about something but could people please clarify?
This forum has always said that oral sex carries a risk but not a risk for HIV. I've been doing a little research and some websites from supposed HIV experts claim that there is still a risk and there are confirmed cases of getting HIV from oral sex. How valid is this? They say that it has something to do with HIV virus being absorbed by tonsils? Sorry, I'm very paranoid about my recent tonsillopharyngitis episode after giving someone oral sex and receiving anal rimming from him....
1) Based on your extensive experience, do you know of anyone getting infected from oral sex? with or without ejaculation?
2) how valid are these links: http://hivinsite.ucsf.edu/insite?page=pr-rr-05 and http://aids.about.com/cs/safesex/a/oralsex.htm ?
3) So oral sex is 100% risk free in terms of HIV infection (but rsiky for other stds?) What if a positive person that has gonorrhea receives oral sex from someone and he ejaculates inside the person's mouth? No hiv risk?
Please, i just need to clarify these things.
Thank you!

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #58 on: June 18, 2012, 06:20:47 am »
No incident HIV infections among MSM who practice exclusively oral sex.
Int Conf AIDS 2004 Jul 11-16; 15:(abstract no. WePpC2072)??Balls JE, Evans JL, Dilley J, Osmond D, Shiboski S, Shiboski C, Klausner J, McFarland W, Greenspan D, Page-Shafer K?University of California, San Francisco, San Francisco, United States

Oral transmission of HIV, reality or fiction? An update
J Campo1, MA Perea1, J del Romero2, J Cano1, V Hernando2, A Bascones1
Oral Diseases (2006) 12, 219–228

AIDS: Volume 16(17) 22 November 2002 pp 2350-2352
Risk of HIV infection attributable to oral sex among men who have sex with men and in the population of men who have sex with men

Page-Shafer, Kimberlya,b; Shiboski, Caroline Hb; Osmond, Dennis Hc; Dilley, Jamesd; McFarland, Willie; Shiboski, Steve Cc; Klausner, Jeffrey De; Balls, Joycea; Greenspan, Deborahb; Greenspan
Page-Shafer K, Veugelers PJ, Moss AR, Strathdee S, Kaldor JM, van Griensven GJ. Sexual risk behavior and risk factors for HIV-1 seroconversion in homosexual men participating in the Tricontinental Seroconverter Study, 1982-1994 [published erratum appears in Am J Epidemiol 1997 15 Dec; 146(12):1076]. Am J Epidemiol 1997, 146:531-542.

Studies which show the fallacy of relying on anecdotal evidence as opposed to carefully controlled study insofar as HIV transmission risk is concerned:

Jenicek M. "Clinical Case Reporting" in Evidence-Based Medicine. Oxford: Butterworth–Heinemann; 1999:117
Saltzman SP, Stoddard AM, McCusker J, Moon MW, Mayer KH. Reliability of self-reported sexual behavior risk factors for HIV infection in homosexual men. Public Health Rep. 1987 102(6):692–697.Nov–Dec;

Catania JA, Gibson DR, Chitwood DD, Coates TJ. Methodological problems in AIDS behavioral research: influences on measurement error and participation bias in studies of sexual behavior. Psychol Bull. 1990 Nov;108(3):339–362.

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #59 on: June 18, 2012, 07:17:31 am »
Hi Rod,
Thanks. i've actually read that post before. I'm just a bit worried but less now. The reason why is because I gave someone of unknown status a blowjob and he ejaculated in my mouth (unintentionally) and i immediately spat it out. Im just worried because a week later, I developed severe tonsilitis which ended up with me getting an operation. (Weather was really cold and I had sinusitis)
I just want to get one thing straight, I don't want to get tested, and I really don't need to, given this blowjob incident?
I haven't done anyl anal intercourse ever since that real risk which I tested conclusively negative for.

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #60 on: June 18, 2012, 07:20:34 am »
Bryan,

1. I've known people who claimed infection this way, but I've yet to really believe them. Here in this section of the forums, I've yet to see someone come in all freaked out about giving blowjobs end up testing positive. In fact, the only men I've seen end up positive in this forum had unprotected receptive (bottom) anal intercourse.

I've never seen a woman claim to have been infected through giving blowjobs. Never. It's only men who indulge in this claim - probably because they can't bring themselves to admit to unprotected receptive anal intercourse - or anal intercourse period.

2. I've read that interview before and guess what - it heavily leans to receptive blowjobs (giving blowjobs) not being a risk. One of the interviewees said,

"I've been following cohorts for 20 years and I still have yet to see what I think is really a documented case.*

The San Francisco Men's Health Study cohort had 46 seroconverters; and the San Francisco Young Men's Health Study cohort had 38, and there was one case of an individual who reports no risks at all. He seroconverted--so I was never able to get what I thought was a plausible story out of him.

So I find it very hard to say that 10-15% of new infections are due to oral sex--I just don't see the evidence for it.

I think the best evidence comes from the cohort studies** for the reasons Kim points out. The cases who present to various clinics for various reasons come along with various stories and histories whereas in the cohorts, they are being questioned, prior to their tests, so you at least have that working for you.

But you still have as everybody has mentioned a bias for underreporting risky behaviors, underreported risk."


*A documented case is where the mode of transmission has been proven, without doubt. This usually but not aways includes genotype and possibly phenotype tests to make sure the virus has come from the person it has been said to come from.

**The "cohort studies" he's referring to are the three serodiscordant studies where one partner was poz and one was neg. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one. These studies went on for years and involved hundreds of couples and the poz partners had varying viral load levels, from on meds and undetectable to treatment naive with VLs in the tens of thousands.

3. I wouldn't necessarily say oral sex was 100% hiv risk free, but unless you've got terrible oral health and you happen to get a hold of someone who is recently infected with a sky-high viral load (common in the first few weeks to a month or three of infection), then it is extremely unlikely to happen.

Oral gonorrhea is a growing problem, particularly in the SMS demographic. If you like to give blowjobs, you'd be wise to get your throat swabbed for gonorrhea regularly. How often depends on how many blowjobs you're giving to how many men. You can get it done anywhere from once a year to every three months. It all depends on how active you are.

You know, if you're going to freak out each and every time you give someone a blowjob, maybe you should just forgo that as an activity you're willing to participate in. Is five or ten minutes of pleasure worth weeks of worrying afterwards? It's up to you. Either stop worrying and just makes sure you're getting regular COMPLETE sexual health check ups (including oral gonorrhea swabs) or stop having these encounters. The ball is (or balls are) in your court mister.

I think we've told you everything we can regarding how to keep yourself hiv negative. It's up to you what you do with this information but remember, we're NOT here to hold your hand each and every time you have a new encounter. Got it? Good!

OK, you posted while I was writing. Has it occurred to you that maybe your tonsil problem was being caused by gonorrhea? That's the more likely explaination. Hiv doesn't manifest in that way, but gono could. And no, you don't need to test specifically for hiv over this blowjob. You only need to test if it's time for your regular routine test that every sexually active adult should have at least once a year.

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« Reply #61 on: June 18, 2012, 07:26:02 am »
Thank you for elaborating more.
It's just that based on my research which i mostly base on this forum, I always thought the giving blowjobs was considered not risky.
The doctors took a blood sample from me and I guess i've been cleared of STDs including gonorrhea.
And you're right, having sex isn't turning out to be worth my worries so I'm going to abstain for now until I feel more comfortable with it.
So to sum it up, that incident isnt considered risky and no need to test over this incident?

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« Reply #62 on: June 18, 2012, 07:33:46 am »
I don't plan to get any routine tests because I haven't really engaged in anal sex. The most that happened was this blowjob which you say I can just forget. Given this, perhaps I should get tested when I start becoming more sexually active again...

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« Reply #63 on: June 18, 2012, 07:35:10 am »
Brian,

For the last time NO, you do not need to test for hiv specifically over this incident. How many times do you have to be told? I'm starting to feel like you're a brick wall and I'm repeatedly banging my head up against you. Knock it off before my head explodes - or I'll give you a time out.

Please consider yourself warned!!!!

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #64 on: June 19, 2012, 12:26:23 pm »
Thank you, Ann. However, ONE last question please... you mentioned that my tonsilitis could have been the result of gonorrhea. I have no way of finding out if I did get oral gonorrhea from the incident since I got a tonsillectomy.

IF ever that was ORAL GONORRHEA, does it in any way increase my risk of getting HIV from the person since he ejaculated inside my mouth (but I spat it out). Still very low risk and no need to test?

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« Reply #65 on: June 19, 2012, 04:11:24 pm »
Thank you, Ann. However, ONE last question please... you mentioned that my tonsilitis could have been the result of gonorrhea. I have no way of finding out if I did get oral gonorrhea from the incident since I got a tonsillectomy.

IF ever that was ORAL GONORRHEA, does it in any way increase my risk of getting HIV from the person since he ejaculated inside my mouth (but I spat it out). Still very low risk and no need to test?

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« Reply #66 on: June 19, 2012, 04:17:26 pm »
Don't be duplicating your posts. Ann will answer you when she finds time to do so.

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« Reply #67 on: June 19, 2012, 04:22:22 pm »
sorry rod... for you, do you think aquiring gonorrhea through giving oral sex increased my risk of also getting hiv from the same act? (with ejaculation) or still no?

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« Reply #68 on: June 19, 2012, 04:44:51 pm »
No, oral sex isn't a risk of HIV transmission and the math is 0x1 (gonorrhea) = O. You do not have an HIV concern.

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« Reply #69 on: June 20, 2012, 03:24:39 am »
Thank you RapidRod,

Anyways, before Ann gets the chance to give me some time off for repeatedly posting, I got the courage to finally just take the test to give myself absolute peace of mind.
I got a rapid test from an HIV counselor today and it's NEGATIVE. This is also the 3rd month since that not-so-risk-free "ORAL" incident with Ejaculation + Anal Rimming. So this is the end of the story.

A BIG THANK YOU to ANN, Rod, Andyand the others for being patient with people like me who can be very obsessive even if it's all theoretical.


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« Reply #70 on: October 30, 2013, 04:29:42 am »
Hello,
Been awhile since I last posted here. Anyways, here's the situation, I was the receptive partner of anal sex but my partner of unknown status used a condom throughout the intercourse. I was the one who put the condom on his penis and we used water soluble lubricant (as advised). I haven't been the receptive partner, so I noticed some bleeding after we had sex but the condom was on all the time and it did not break. I got the condom and ran water in it to check for any breaks or leaks and there was none.

The question is, am I at any risk and do I need PEP? I've been a member and I know that most would say it's no risk but I'm just getting paranoid since I bled a little and I read that SOMETIMES condoms can be ineffective despite proper use.



Although this was published in 1992-- perhaps this has been corrected and condoms are now better made?

Please help
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« Reply #71 on: October 30, 2013, 06:35:19 am »
Brian,

Once again, I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep everything in one thread. It doesn't matter how long it has been since you last posted in your thread or if the subject matter is different.

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I removed the link to your outdated research paper. The last thing we need is for other worried wells to start freaking out about an "in vitro" (in a lab/test-tube) study that hasn't been borne out by real-life experience.

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

You certainly do NOT need PEP over this NO RISK situation.

You're doing the right thing by using condoms and water-based lube. That's really all you need to do in order to prevent hiv infection.

I hope you've learned through your time here that as a sexually active adult, you should be getting regular, routine complete sexual health check ups, including but NOT limited to hiv testing. Most of the other STIs are MUCH more easily transmitted than hiv - some only require skin-to-skin contact - and many can be present with no obvious symptoms. The ONLY way to know the state of your sexual health is through testing.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #72 on: October 30, 2013, 06:43:01 am »
Thank you, Ann.
To add to that, he didnt really cum inside the condom either, so that makes the risk (but since there is none) even smaller.
It's nice to see you and the rest of the moderators still actively helping people out.

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« Reply #73 on: October 30, 2013, 06:51:16 am »
Brian,

If you were testing regularly (at least once a year, twice if you're very active with several partners), it would probably go a long way towards reassuring you that you're doing what you need to do to remain hiv negative.

It worked for my hiv negative boyfriend. All we did was use condoms for intercourse and he remained hiv negative, and after a few negative results he really understood (in his heart as well as mind) that we were being safe.

And you're welcome, by the way.

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #74 on: November 03, 2013, 12:26:07 am »
Thank you, Ann.
Sorry, just to clarify, when u say condoms "slip off" do you mean it gets removed from the penis and is stuck inside your anus? That's the only thing apart from tearing that can become a risk, correct?

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« Reply #75 on: November 03, 2013, 01:30:46 am »
Thank you, Ann.
Sorry, just to clarify, when u say condoms "slip off" do you mean it gets removed from the penis and is stuck inside your anus? That's the only thing apart from tearing that can become a risk, correct?


Yes, in some cases a condom will completely slip off. Though a low level risk, it is considered a risk nonetheless.

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #76 on: November 03, 2013, 04:23:19 am »
Thank you. But just to clarify my risk (if any), the condom he wore did not slip off completely but after penetration it slipped a bit to cover 3/4 of his penis instead of covering it completely. This is no risk, right?

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« Reply #77 on: November 03, 2013, 07:47:24 am »
Brian,

No, a partially slipped condom is NOT an hiv risk.

What's important from the insertive person's point of view is that the head is covered.

What's important from the receptive person's point of view is that any cum or pre-cum is contained within the condom.

The only time a slipped condom is an hiv risk is if it slips completely off the penis during intercourse and is pushed up inside the receptive partner. This means the subsequent intercourse, after the slip, is unprotected.

A condom that slips off during withdrawal is not an hiv risk for either person. The insertive partner is supposed to hold on to the base of the condom during withdrawal to prevent this happening.

I'm sure I've said it to you before, but I'll say it again; read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use them correctly and with confidence.

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Re: Please clarify possible risk exposures - new exposure
« Reply #78 on: March 12, 2014, 11:26:00 pm »
Hi everyone,
I guess i'm back to this and this time i feel more stupid than ever.
Here's the thing, i've had a partner since early february and he swears he's been monogomous with me since feb to now. We've been having sex 2-3 times a week and had only 1 instance of penetration because of drug use. I recently have been diagnosed with gonorrhea and i've been treated for it already by my physician who injected me with antibiotics and 7 days of oral antibiotics.
Here's the timeline:

My partner's last time to have sex with someone else who isnt me was with a positive partner last Dec 7, 2013 but they wore protection.

Met him February 14  and he bought a rapid testing kit and tested himself in front of me and it was negative. How reliable is this? are false negatives common? Im not sure what kind or brand he used but it was a finger prick method that produced just one line at "C".

Had sex couple of times without penetration

February 26, he sat on top of me (i was top) but lasted only less than 10 seconds because i freaked without the condom. temporary lapse of judgement due to drug use.

March 5, had sex again, no penetration but used his cum as lube to jack me off. Is this an hiv risk?

March 11, i had a rapid test myself and it was negative

March 12 - discovered i had gonorrhea and got treatment.

My question is, how risky is my situation and does this warrant a lot of worrying? Another thing is, he just discovered that he has symptoms of gonorrhea now as well. The thing is, I have not had sex with anyone other than him a for the past year. I have never had any std or gonorrhea ever. He insists that his last sex was dec 7 and has been monogomous since then. Is it possible that his gonorrhea was dormant for months until recently? I'm sorry, im just so scared and feel so stupid at the moment.

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #79 on: March 13, 2014, 02:30:58 am »
just to add, i read that the use of drugs sort of delays or extends the window period... is this accurate or i misunderstood this.
the drugs i used were taken orally, mdma/molly. thank you!
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« Reply #80 on: March 13, 2014, 08:24:10 am »
Brian,

You cannot use the in-home hiv tests to serosort.

The only way you can use hiv tests to serosort is when you have been in a strictly monogamous relationship - where you have absolute trust that your partner truly is being monogamous - for at least three months before you test for hiv and all the other STIs TOGETHER. If you and your partner's hiv and STI panel of tests come back negative, then and only then should you consider not using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse.

If you've had unprotected anal intercourse with this person, you need to test out to three months past this incident. You've been here long enough to know the drill.

Regarding the gonorrhea infection the two of you have, it's completely possible that one or both of you had an oral gonorrhea infection and didn't realise it. Most people don't have symptoms of oral gonorrhea and often times doctors overlook giving oral swabs for gonorrhea, either because they don't realise how common oral gonorrhea transmission is, or the patient hasn't indicated that they give blowjobs.

Regarding drug use and the hiv testing window period, MDMA isn't going to affect it. The only people who might take slightly longer to seroconvert and test positive are those people who are on chemotherapy for cancer, anti-rejection drugs following organ transplant, and those people who have been injecting street drugs, every single day, for years. Even these people will normally seroconvert and test positive within the three month window period.

You need to wise up and stop having unprotected intercourse and stop trusting what people you've only just met tell you about their testing and/or sexual history. It's almost like you want to be hiv positive.

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Re: Please clarify rpossible risk exposures
« Reply #81 on: March 13, 2014, 08:48:42 am »
Thank you, Ann.

In this case then, my only risk factor was as an insertive top, assuming that he is positive, right? And if he were, what would be my risk factor given that he was able to give me gonorrhea? Please help me understand, do STDs increase your risk if you had them and had sex with a positive partner or the other way around? And from what I recall you told me that HIV is harder to transmit from receptive to insertive, right? Also, given the circumstances that it was a very brief exposure, somehow at least makes it less? I will get that test on my 3rd month.

The ejaculation using his cum is not a risk factor, correct? How long can one person have oral gonorrhea and not know about it?

Again, I know I made another bad move and it is continuous learning curve for me. This is something different but nevertheless a risk.

Thanks, Ann for all your help and advice.

 


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