How high r my chances of an std or hiv

[Yuzzy]

Two years ago was my last sexual encounter. I had anal sex with my partner a few times . His penis did not go in all the way , infact each time it didn't go far in (didnt hurt). , went in each time, we used condoms. Never did I bleed , ever . I remember he once started without a condom but quickly went for a condom before anything else..... I want to know how high r my risks of hiv. I've been having panic attacks about it every night since then, and I'm to terrified to check myself. He was my first sexual encounter so I know for sure I did not have any std before this , and he also reassured me he has never not used a condom with his pasts. Please help me, what r my risks ? Chances ? What should I do ....

[Andy Velez]

Yuzzy, there's a very simple solution to your problem. Get tested. From what you have reported of your experiences and history my expectation is that you will test negative. But only by taking an HIV specific test can you comfortably reliably know your HIV status.

Life is too short in the best of circumstances for you to spend so much of it worrying. Because it's been 2 years since you last encounter sexually, you can get tested anytime now and get a reliable result.

Stop worrying yourself unnecessarily and do it. Keep us posted.

[Yuzzy]

What symptoms can i expect from being hiv?
is there anything in particular i should look out for. had anal sex , but with a condom. but still in fear of hiv.

[Yuzzy]

I have another question sorry. If I was to be hiv positive, does my boyfriend have had to be hiv positive at the time too? and also if i was to get hiv from having sex with him, would he have to get it too??

[Jeff G]

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HIV is sexually transmitted from one infected person to another from unprotected vaginal or anal sex . If you have had unprotected anal or vaginal sex you must test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

[Ann]

I have another question sorry. If I was to be hiv positive, does my boyfriend have had to be hiv positive at the time too? and also if i was to get hiv from having sex with him, would he have to get it too??

Yuzzy,

Hiv is not magically generated when two men have sex together. In order for hiv to be a concern, one of them must first have the virus. Please understand that you cannot know a person's hiv status by looking at them or by what they tell you.

If you do not already have hiv, you cannot give it to your partner.

If your partner does not already have hiv, he cannot give it to you.

You cannot give to others something that you do not have, whether it's a virus or a pound coin.

In adults, hiv is transmitted through:

Unprotected anal intercourse.

Unprotected vaginal intercourse.

Sharing drug injecting equipment.

And that's it.

You used condoms with your first and only sexual partner, and that means you did NOT have a risk for hiv infection with him. If you cannot bring yourself to believe us, go to any GUM clinic and get a complete sexual health check up. You're overdue for one anyway.

You say that you haven't had sex in two years and I hope that going forward you do not pay any attention to what a person tells you about their sexual health or hiv status, unless of course they're honest and tell you they are hiv positive.

People who tell you they are hiv negative sometimes only think they're hiv negative and sometimes people will lie for fear of rejection or worse. And sometimes people are just jerks.

You need to assume that ANYONE you have anal or vaginal intercourse with is hiv positive and protect yourself accordingly by using condoms each and every time. Once you've been in a mutually monogamous relationship (ie exclusive) for three months, you can test together before you stop using condoms.

Testing together is an act of love and trust, so if you're not at that place in your relationship, then you're also not at the place where you should think about not using condoms.

I hope you read and re-read this entire thread so you can better understand hiv and hiv transmission. As an adult in the 21st century, it's essential knowledge.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

Ann