Oral sex

[Esteban1982]

Right now I'm waiting on my test results. I'm very nervous because my lymph nodes in my neck and groin are mildly swollen. On 12/1 I hooked up with someone and didn't notice anything. We exchanged ver brief oral sex but he did  precum we then masturbated, but there was no other fluid exchange beside the precum. What particularly worries me is that me might have been infected with another STD and HIV and transmitted both of them. I was nervous so I was a little dry mouthed as well, but not totally (I've read the other posts about meth mouth) and that's not me, but I do have history of gingivitis. Please advise. Thank you!

[Andy Velez]

Leave your lymph nodes alone, Esteban. They are very sensitive to the touch. If you are concerned about them that is something to discuss with your doctor. Swollen lymph nodes are not an HIV specific happening. That occurs for all sorts of non-HIV reasons.

As far as your incident, basically you are worrying needlessly. The only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse.

I expect you to test negative. This is not an HIV situation.

[Esteban1982]

Thanks Andy. I did a full screen and I have been stressing pretty heavily. I keep finding little bumps etc in my mouth. I also chew my gums apparently. I know these are all pretty superficial things, but it still doesn't stop me from worrying.

[Esteban1982]

I realize the risk is low of oral HIV transmission. A few months ago I gave oral sex to a male dancer. I then found out that I had a minor bacterial infection at my last dental visit. The dentist said it had started to eat at the bone. I'm not sure if this would have increased my risk?

[RapidRod]

I realize the risk is low of oral HIV transmission. A few months ago I gave oral sex to a male dancer. I then found out that I had a minor bacterial infection at my last dental visit. The dentist said it had started to eat at the bone. I'm not sure if this would have increased my risk?

That would not increase a no risk situation.

[Jeff G]

 

I realize the risk is low of oral HIV transmission. A few months ago I gave oral sex to a male dancer. I then found out that I had a minor bacterial infection at my last dental visit. The dentist said it had started to eat at the bone. I'm not sure if this would have increased my risk?

Please only post in this one thread no matter how long between visits or the subject matter . You can find your thread by visiting your profile and selecting show own post and it will take you here .

As Rod advised it was not a risk for HIV .

[Esteban1982]

I decided to take the oraquick swab test after I was diagnosed with an upper respiratory infection. This was 81 days post exposure. My test was negative. My question even tho this is a low risk situation is whether or not I should retest given that I was just shy of the 3 month window.

[Andy Velez]

Given that you had no risk situation to begin with, I don't see any reason to doubt that your negative result is conclusive. Stop bothering yourself and get on with your life.

You do not have an HIV problem. Period. No, you don't have to test again. 

[Esteban1982]

First , let me say that I'm hoping that this is more due to anxiety than fact. On May 24, my partner and I went out. I ended up getting another lap dance from the same dancer in Feb. During the lap dance he took his penis out and instead of saying "no" I licked it 2 times and then he shoved it in the back of my throat. There was absolutely no ejaculation.
As I'm sure you can see from my stats, I've been spending a lot of I time here. I've even found several posts where members claim to be infected via oral sex. My partner knows about this and thinks I'm being really paranoid. We don't use protection as we are monogamous aside from this. On 6/11 I went to our GP, who is also an hiv specialist. This was 17-18 days after Memorial Day. They did a unigold rapid test and them sent the negative for confirmation. They also did a complete screen and I was negative for stds. I just had an elevated WBC, probably from my allergies or stress.

I was able to let this go after they told me the lab test was negative. That lasted a day. My partner and I had anal sex and I was the top. Last week I took an Oraquick at 5 weeks, but I have read from Ann that these are not at all reliable. It was negative.  I went Monday to our local AIDS resource center and they told me given the fact  that I'd had my negative result confirmed by the lab, they didn't see a need to test. I've called my GP twice, because I did t tell him about the BJ on 5/24. He told me I was welcome to come back and test but that the chance of me being infected via oral is really low and I should try to stop worrying. On my second call, one of the medical assistants told me they did an ELISA and it had a window of 14 days, so I shouldn't worry, since this was 17 days past the BJ.

M question is would an HIV specialist be doing a 3rd or 4th generation ELISA? I specifically asked the MA (who spoke with my NP) the window period and she said two weeks. They also know we don't use protection. We haven't had intercourse but once since.  I want to be sure I'm covering all my bases. I have a few cavities but my gums don't bleed though I have a history of enamel erosion and gingivitis. This just seems to be chronic.

And before you answer, please know that yes I am seeking counseling, but I also wonder if I should test again? Thank you for taking my questions now and in the past.

[Jeff G]

You have not had a risk for HIV so if this is your only concern then you are conclusively HIV negative and do not need to test again of this specific incident . You can put this behind you now and move on .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

[Esteban1982]

Thank you! I am trying. So more than likely, given that I went to an HIV Specialist, the confirmatory blood test would have found something, correct? I'm just trying to keep the 6 week rule in mind, not question your expertise. Again, thank you!

[Jeff G]

You never had a risk to test for . The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. Most who are infected will test positive by 6 weeks. For various reasons a small number will take longer and that is why we follow the CDC recommendation to test at 3 months for a conclusive negative result.

Let it go man ... HIV is not your problem .

[Esteban1982]

Been awhile since I posted. I recently had a protected encounter with someone. The only concern I have is that I started putting the condom on wrong. When I realized this, I didn’t use a new condom, I wasn’t thinking and just turned it right side out. I’m hoping given the fragility of HIV that this wasn’t a risk, however your thoughts would be valuable. Thanks

[Jim Allen]

Well no HIV concerns

Next time this happens though . Even if you or your partner has not ejaculated (cum) there can still be semen (pre-cum), so it’s important to try again with a new condom. (This is mainly due to other easier to transmit STI's and if with a cis-woman pregnancy risks)

Jim