Please help. Really Confused. Desperate for help !

[confused111]

Hi,

First of all my sincere apologies for this long message. It was not intentional. But based on my country of residence, I hardly have any knowledgeable people to talk about this. I ask for your apologies on this.

I am from a South Asian country. On 10th June 2014 I was given unprotected ORAL SEX (Blow Job) by a Russian sex worker. No Kiss of any sort involved there. No fingering. No tight hugs even. She put her tongue into my anus 4 times (for about 5 seconds) and then all there was oral sex she gave to me (Her mouth to my genital). To be honest, it was my FIRST EVER encounter with a woman. I have never ever had any kind of sexual encounters earlier either with males or females. I am 33 years.

Scene
The oral sex lasted for about 40 minutes. First for about 15 minutes she gave me oral and I ejaculated into her mouth. Then again, she gave me oral for about 25 minutes and then I ejaculated into her mouth. After this, I got scared badly. Then Googled and found out oral sex was less riskier. I contacted her and she sent me a text message "I don't have any STDs if you meant so. I have medical reports I'll show you next time" - however, I was not fully convinced to trust her! Within 72 hours time, I visited an specialist physician (Not an STD specialist) and he told me "If you only engaged in oral sex, you have no risk, even if she was HIV Positive". Further he prescribed me Aciclovir and Doxycycline to prevent any possible Herpes, Syphilis and Chlamydia infections. I was satisfied with his approach and they were similar to what I read on internet. I came out happily.

Issue
This was my first (and upto now the last) sexual encounter with a person. I have not married yet and had no sex earlier with others. While my days were passing without any kind of problems, on the 25th day after the oral sex exposure, I felt something was not well in my body. But I did not care. On the 26th day I felt something like a golf ball stuck at the lower-end of my throat. Due to this, I felt unwell and slowly & slowly anxiety and fear started to grow on me.

27th Day: I went to a non-specialist doctor. He told it might be GERD problem despite I told him I feel no acidity in my throat. Gave some pills.

28th day: Feeling in throat reduced but was still feeling unwell. Not much appetite.

29th day: Morning - Extreme vertigo. Reduced after having some lime juice along with his pills. Evening - Unfortunately, the body temperature started to increase. I was totally down that I might have infected with HIV. Went to Dr again. He did not measure the temperature, but placed his hands on me and said it's my body temperature. Gave paracetamol.

30th Day: Temperature is not high. Taking Paracetamol. No vertigo. Saw tongue in the mirror and found out it's "White-coated". Unable to taste foods much. Further, I saw red-throat (Painless sore throat).

31st Day: Though I felt like I have low-grade fever, my digital thermometer shows temperature in the range of 97.5F - 99.32F. Evening time I was NOT feeling elevated temperature. (So effectively this elevated temperature feeling was there for about 48 hours). But was on paracetamol. Sore throat continues.

32nd Day: Things get reduced. Temperature is within normal range. Not much appetite though. Still mild feeling that something stuck in my throat. Sore throat remains the same.

33rd day after exposure (Almost 5 weeks and around 7 days after the onset of these issues): Went to a lab and did a quick test. They said it's Strip test, but was unable to comment further about the test generation. HIV Antibody 1 & 2 test came NEGATIVE. Then I asked for an ELISA using the SAME SERUM collected. They said it's 2nd Generation they use although they are an ISO Certified lab. After 2 days results came as NEGATIVE.

34th day and onwards: Things became fine, Went to my specialist Dr and he ruled out HIV thing and prescribed me Augmentin antibiotic. But Sore throat did not go away. He asked from me "With having a 33 day HIV Negative report, why man you're scared ?" :-/

But it took me about 11-12 days for the "feeling something stuck on my throat" to go away. About 7-8 days for the white tongue to go away. But just about 2 days for vertigo and elevated temperature to go away. AND - Sore Throat (Red throat. No Pain at all!) is still there. Say for more than three WEEKS! and counting.

These days I was and still am scared to death thinking whether I had infected with HIV. At times I get afraid thinking whether these are ARS symptoms. But at times I think these might not be ARS, as I have read in medical websites saying "ARS symptoms come together and leave together". But in my case, the sore throat is still there for 3+ weeks, while other issues had diminished about 2+ weeks before. I did NOT have rash or swollen lymph nodes (lymph nodes were examined by 2 doctors and confirmed they are normal).

At the moment, I am really confused and don't know what is going on. Specially, I got these symptoms within the 2-4 week time limit and I could find NO BASE for these illnesses except the long 40 minute oral sex I was given by that CSW. At times I think, whether she was recently infected and her saliva might have contained enough viral load to infect me ?? Because 40 minutes mean not a brief BJ session! I'm aware saliva is not infectious though. I could NOT see any blood during oral sex, but as like others, can not be 100% sure. I am sorry for my long message. Please enlighten me on this. Is this situation related to HIV ? What would be your views of a 33 day negative report (ELISA 2nd Gen) considering this is Insertive oral sex, BUT with some health problems after 3 weeks ? Do I need further testing for HIV ? I thank you for your time to read this message.

[Jeff G]

Getting a blow job is not a risk for HIV so whatever is going on with your health has nothing to do with HIV ... also, saliva is not infectious for HIV and actually has properties that damage HIV and render it unable to infect .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

[confused111]

Thank you for your prompt answer. So you mean I do not need any further testing for HIV ? And, I expect to consult an ENT Specialist regarding my persistent sore throat (I doubt it might be due to a damaged tooth). In that, should I tell him about this oral sex encounter or just say I developed these issues about 3 weeks before and continue ?

I read somewhere in internet saying that Saliva properties which should inhibit HIV, do NOT present in HIV infected person's saliva. Is this NOT true ?
 
Again, my heartiest thanks for easing my mind. May almighty God bless you and give you a long & healthier life!

PS: I'm not sexually active though as you could see in my 33 year old life, this was the first ever 

Thank you.

[Jeff G]

I assure you that you did not have a risk for HIV from getting a blow job and that there is no need to test for HIV for this specific incident .

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

[confused111]

Thank you for your reassurance.

But you did not tell me the answer to my query: I expect to consult an ENT Specialist regarding my persistent sore throat (I doubt it might be due to a damaged tooth). In that, should I tell him about this oral sex encounter or just say I developed these issues about 3 weeks before and continue ?

In other words - CAN I COMPLETELY FORGET ABOUT THIS INCIDENT HEREAFTER ?

My heartiest thanks again 

[Jeff G]

Its up to you if you want to tell your doctor or not . All I can say with certainty is that you did not have a risk for HIV .

I personally tell my doctor if I have been sexually active so that I can get a complete sexual healthcare checkup ... I have answered your question twice but should have made that clear I suppose .