Oral with STI

[Leocs665]

About 4 weeks ago I had sex with another man of unknown status. Prior to engaging I asked him if he was clean and he said yes. I received a blowjob unprotected and I topped him protected. He provided the condom so not sure how effective it was but I know it didn’t break.
Since then I have had a mild cold that went away and a small cold sore that also went away. Now on the 4th week I’m experiencing really bad pain in my throat as if something was swollen and behind my ear feel a lot a pressure.
Do you guys suggest to get tested? Let me know thanks...

[Ptrk3]

Firstly, HIV positive people are clean if they shower and take care of personal hygiene (hint:  it's better not to insult people as you ask for advice).

Secondly, receiving unprotected oral sex is not a risk for HIV infection, but could be a risk for other STD's/STI's.

Protected insertive anal sex is not a risk for HIV infection.  You would have known if the condom had failed.

We don't assess potential acute HIV-infection symptoms on this forum, since symptoms of seroconversion, if they occur at all, vary widely.

If you are ill, see a healthcare professional for appropriate diagnosis and treatment, if applicable.

There is not need to test for HIV antibodies because of the incident you describe in your post, unless you decide to do so for peace of mind.  If you do test, do so six weeks after the perceived risk activity, then at 13 weeks past the perceived activity for confirmation of the six week results.

If you do test, I fully expect your test to be negative for HIV antibodies for the activities you have mentioned in your post.

[Leocs665]

Thanks for the reply. So I’ve been stop stressed out about this incident so I asked the person I had sex with if he could get tested and he agreed. He then showed me his results and he was negative! It has now been 8 weeks since the act does him testing negative mean that I’m in the clear since he’s the only sexual partner I’ve ever had?

[Jim Allen]

Hi

As Patrick explained what you posted here, simply would not lead to HIV transmission.

I asked the person I had sex with if he could get tested and he agreed. He then showed me his results and he was negative!

Pointless - All that means is he was HIV negative some 3 months before taking the test. The window period when you can be infected but still show negative in testing. Not that it maters anyway as its not about who you do it or their HIV status, its all about how you do.

Getting your penis sucked is not a HIV risk, saliva is not infectious, it also contains over a dozen elements that neutralize HIV. Let me put it this way after nearly 40 years in terms of BJ's there hasn’t been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked") and you will not be the worlds first.

The protected intercourse was not a concern, HIV does not transmit through an intact Latex or polyurethane condom and if they break they shred leaving no doubt.

Move on with you life and see a doctor regarding whatever is making you sick and treat it.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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[Leocs665]

Hey guys so I’m waiting to get tested at the 3 month mark but now I have a fear that I’m might infect my family members. I live with my parents and 2 sisters and I’ve been trying to be careful but now I’m worried I might infect them with dirty laundry.. is it possible that dried semen on underwear can infect other clothes in the laundry hamper?

[Jim Allen]

You had no risk and your fears about your sister doing the laundry is to be honest irrational, and offensive. I wish you well but please don't post about this again, its totally irrational.

HIV is very fragile and difficult to transmit so much so that well nobody has been infected once it has been exposed outside the human body to air, either sexually or from day to day contact even with wounds, scrapes, cuts etc etc.

Once HIV has been exposed to the open environment outside the human body its not a transmission concern going back to basics that HIV has an outer protein/receptors that are needed to remain infectious this is used to infect human cells and attach to the CD4 cell and they corrodes in contact with air, so leaving the virus no longer able infect human cells.

Read this and move on with your life.

https://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=68441.0

Common Myths About How HIV Is Spread, You are NOT at risk for HIV if you:
*Are bitten by a mosquito or any other bug or animal
*Eat food or drinks handled, prepared or served by somebody who is HIV positive.
*Share toilets, telephones or clothing with somebody who is HIV positive.
*Share forks, spoons, knives or drinking glasses with somebody who is HIV positive.
*Touch, hug or kiss a person who is HIV positive.
*Attend school, church, restaurants, shopping malls or other public places where *there are HIV-positive people.
*HIV is not transmitted though saliva, urine, feces, vomit or sweat

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Jim

Please do not post or ask about this no risk situation again, I say this from a point of kindness as you just need to move on now and stop focusing/stressing about HIV.

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[Leocs665]

Hello, last Saturday I received a protected blow job from a guy I met online. I was experiencing symptoms that led me to believe I got in infected with Chlamydia so I went to get tested and they gave two antibiotics to take just in case I was infected. One thing that caught me off guard was when I asked If oral was a method of HIV transmission and I was told  it wasn’t unless I was also Infected with another STI.

So my question is if I was to be infected with another STI could I also have been infected with HIV by receiving a blowjob?

I know I said it was protected but the blowjob was rather aggressive and I’m worried the condom might have gotten small tears in it and thus I have Chlamydia symptoms

[Jim Allen]

No, getting your penis sucked is not an HIV concern.

If you were giving a BJ whilst having a pre-existing STI on the other hand would be a near negligible HIV concern to you